Mo Yan once said:
The person who really loves you can't say the reason for loving you all of a sudden, only knows that he doesn't care about paying attention to others.In love, every woman wants to be the only man in love.
1. True love. What is true love?
It can't be measured in terms of money, background, or materialism, because it's a feeling that is full of you and full of sweetness, sweetness, and heaviness.
Of course, men don't love anymore, and women can also feel it from the details of life.
Generally speaking, there are three manifestations of a man not loving or no longer loving.
Two days ago, Qingqing suddenly canceled the marriage contract, which made our happy old neighbors scratch their heads.
After the dust settled, she sat with me for an afternoon, and it turned out that during the entire preparation for the wedding, Qingqing's fiancé did not participate in the whole process under the pretext of being busy with work.
When Qingqing asked for his opinion, too"It's all right", "look at you", "I'm busy" ......
Her fiancé was also busy before, but he had never been so alienated from her, and Qingqing, who was on Sherlock Holmes's upper body, really found out that something was wrong.
The fiancé's ex-girlfriend knew that he was going to get married and came over again, and after the two spent the Spring Festival together, the fiancé began to hesitate and hesitate.
Do men really love you?
Actually, there is no set standard answer, because different men have different personalities, habits, and preferences, but one thing is for sure - he loves you, so he is willing to be with you.
There is a saying on the Internet:
Companionship is the most affectionate confession, so the method of witnessing love is time.Just like in "The First Half of My Life", He Han's answer to Tang Jing is always；And when facing Luo Zijun, his mantra changed to "I'm not busy, I just have time".。；And when facing Luo Zijun, his mantra became again"I'm not busy, I just have time".Of course, a man can be busy, but when he is so busy that he has no time to take care of you, and even tells you that "I've been busy lately, and there will be fewer contacts", should a woman think about it.
Is it the man who is too busy, or he doesn't want to waste his time on you.
Whether a man loves you or not has long penetrated into his words and deeds, smiles and smiles on you, as long as you feel it with your heart, you will definitely be able to gain insight into the truth.
As Haruki Murakami once said:
People who are really good to you are in the details, people will lie, but the details will not, love is the details, and neither is love.My old neighbor Qingqing found out that he was unbearable through the details of her fiancé's perfunctory and impatient treatment.
Even if a man doesn't love you, he can disguise love for money, status, future, etc.
But he can't always disguise himself to perfection in every aspect, as someone said"Fake is always fake, not real".
When a man does not love or no longer loves, he has to pretend to be affectionate, which is also a kind of lie.
From a psychological point of view, a liar does not identify with him, so men will avoid eye contact, be physically unnatural, lose their sense of balance, avoid answering your questions, and frequently deny your claims.
And these performances are often presented in a perfunctory way, and they need to end the lie disguise as soon as possible and make themselves comfortable.
I saw a girl complaining about her boyfriend, and the two went to play tennis during the break, but the boyfriend kept looking at his phone uneasy.
Later, when she saw a female colleague who went to the appointment alone, she understood.
Under her questioning, her boyfriend said that he was afraid that she would misunderstand, so he didn't say it in advance, and said that he was innocent with his female colleague, that is, he knew that she liked to play tennis and had no partner.
Later, the girl went home in a fit of rage, and her boyfriend did not chase her but stayed with her female colleague to continue playing.
More than two hours later, my boyfriend sent a message saying that he was ready to go home after playing.
Yishu wrote in "Red Dust":
If a person really likes another person, he will be afraid of love, and everything will become a gain and a loss.So,A man who truly loves you will care about your joys, sorrows, and sorrows, and will put your mood in the first place to consider, how can he be willing to make you pessimistic and disappointed. And a man who wants to hug left and right and enjoy the blessings of all people naturally can't just take into account your feelings, because he has a little bit of a sister to care about, even if there is a difference between relatives and distance, he can't give 100% preference to any woman.
Because he wants the whole forest, not a certain tree or a certain flower. Such a man, let him go back to nature, don't wronged yourself and don't embarrass him.
A good love definitely needs to go both ways. The hesitation and uncertainty of either party are all a consumption of love.
As Cai Kangyong said:
If he misses you, he'll look for you;If he wants you, he'll say;If he cares about you, he will show his true feelings;If none of that happens, then he won't bother you.Love, marriage, emotion
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I'm Qingcheng, a psychologist with temperature, and a life recorder.
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