My name is Zhang Li, I am 38 years old, I work as a sales manager in a foreign company, and I have a good income. My biggest annoyance is my mother.
My mother is 68 years old and retired at home, and my father died young, so she has always relied on me, the only child. She has a strong personality, loses her temper at every turn, and has the so-called "princess disease", she has to be served by someone for everything, and she often makes trouble unreasonably. I've put up with her for years.
Just last week, my mother suddenly lost her temper with me, saying that I was not filial to her and did not visit her every day. I couldn't bear it anymore, and finally broke out: "Mom, can you stop being vexatious all day long?".I'm so busy at work, how can I have time to serve you every day?You're 68 years old, so it's time to learn to live on your own, right?”
My mother immediately scolded: "You unfilial son!".I gave birth to you and raised you, and now you bite me back!I've raised you for so many years!”
I couldn't hold back anymore and yelled at her, "Enough!".If you do this again, I'll cut ties with you!”
My mother's eyes widened and she said in horror, "You, how can you do this to me?".”
I do what I say!If you don't correct your attitude, you will move out of my house!I said strongly.
My mom was speechless, she knew my character to do what I said. Finally she cried and packed up her clothes and left my house in anger.
Seeing this, my wife Lin Xuan hurriedly came over to persuade me: "Husband, calm down, is this the right thing to do?"”
I've endured her for so many years, and today I have to teach her a lesson, otherwise she will never change!I said.
But when people are old, you have to be considerate of her. She is an old man, and she lives at nightLin Xuan said worriedly.
Let her reflect on herself!I said.
That night, my mom came knocking on our door. Lin Xuan saw my mother standing outside the door shivering with cold, and she felt very uncomfortable. She asked my mom to come in and poured her hot water.
My mother cried, "My son kicked me out, and I have nowhere to live at night as an old man, it's so unusual!."”
Lin Xuan's heart softened and said to me: "Husband, just let Auntie come back, it's cold, and I'm not used to living outside." ”
I said firmly, "No!."If my mom comes back, she'll still go her own way and won't correct it at all. I'll just let her stay outside for a few days, and when she has reflected clearly, I'll consider letting her come back. ”
Son, I know it's wrong, you let me come back, I promise not to mess around in the future. "My mom begged me.
No, I won't consider letting you go home unless you do fix it. "I'm uncompromising.
Son, I'm old, and you are the only relative, so let me come back, and I promise not to trouble you. "My mom begged me.
Lin Xuan's heart softened: "Husband, just let Auntie come back, she is your mother after all." ”
I hesitated, but decided to give in: "Okay, as long as you really correct your attitude, you can come back and live with us." But you have to take care of yourself and you can't be vexatious all day long. ”
My mom said yes. And just like that, my mom came back to our house.
At first, my mom's attitude did get better, but after a few days she started to get back to where she was. A few days ago, when I came home late from overtime, my mother complained: "My son doesn't come home all day, I'm so insecure as an old man!".”
I endured my anger and said, "Mom, I'm busy with work, and you have to understand that I can't go home, and you can't make trouble unreasonably." ”
It's just that you don't care about me!I've raised you for so many years, and now you're pushing back!"My mom doesn't give up.
Lin Xuan couldn't stand it, and persuaded my mother: "Auntie, Zhang Li is also working very hard, you have to be considerate of him." ”
What's the matter with you?You are a woman, and you are also worthy of discipline me?"My mother actually made trouble with Lin Xuan unreasonably.
Lin Xuan couldn't bear it anymore and said to me: "Husband, why don't your mother move out, you can't live with us!."”
I was also very embarrassed and said to my mother, "Mom, you promised to change it, why hasn't it changed at all?"If this continues, there is no choice but to find another way. ”
My mother immediately changed her expression to complain and said, "My old bones, can I still go to **?."Can't you be considerate of me, an old man?”
Then you also have to learn to live on your own, don't rely on us all day long, and be unreasonable. I said firmly.
I'm already old, how can I live on my own?I knew you didn't have me as a mother in your heart for a long time!My mom cried.
Lin Xuan couldn't stand it and persuaded me: "Husband, don't be like your aunt, she is old after all, let's tolerate her more." ”
I still want to say something, Lin Xuan shook her head and motioned for me not to say any more, so I had to endure this breath for the time being.
After that, my mother's attitude remained unchanged, and she spent her days doing nothing, either complaining that we were not considerate of her, or pointing fingers at our lives.
A few days ago, I had a fight with Lin Xuan, and my mother immediately interjected: "It's all your fault, you shouldn't talk to your daughter-in-law like that!."”
I couldn't bear it anymore and yelled at her, "Don't meddle in the affairs between our husband and wife!".”
My mother's eyes widened and she said in horror, "You actually talk to me like that?".You're really not human!”
Enough is enough!You are such a hopeless person!"I couldn't control myself anymore and kicked her out of the house.
My mother cried and said, "My heart is broken when my son does this to me!".”
Lin Xuan was also very angry and said to me, "How can you do this to your mother?"She's your real mother after all!”
I can't take it anymore!Either she goes or we divorce!I said angrily.
Lin Xuan was silent, she knew that I would do what I said. After a while, she said to me with red eyes, "In that case, let's divorce." I can't ignore your mother with you. ”
I was stunned and stammered, "You, what did you say?"We've been together for 10 years!”
Sorry, I figured it out. You have a choice, either get your mom back, or we get a divorce. Lin Xuan said calmly.
I'm in a dilemma, what should I do?If I let my mom come back, she will still be vexatious;If I divorce Lin Xuan, I will lose my most important partner in the past 10 years.
I advised Lin Xuan: "Let's calm down and don't get a hasty divorce." I can find a way to talk to my mom and get her to change her attitude. ”
Lin Xuan shook her head and said, "I believe you have done your best." But your mother's personality is like this, it won't change at all. Let us divorce so that you will not be in more pain in the future. ”
Lin Xuan, have you figured it out?We've been together for 10 years, and now it's too hasty to divorce because of my mother's business!"I was sweating in a hurry.
I figured it out. I can't watch you and your mother get along, and I have to swallow my anger all the time. Let's get a divorce. Lin Xuan's tone was very resolute.
I knelt down and begged her, "Please think about it again, we can think of other ways not to divorce." ”
There is no other way. I've decided. Lin Xuan turned around and left with red eyes.
I knelt on the spot, tears streaming down my eyes. I called Lin Xuan**, and she hung up directly;Sent a message asking for peace, but she ignored it.
At that moment, my mom knocked on the door again and came in. I got emotional and pushed her out the door: "It's all you!".If it weren't for you, how would we have come this far!”
My mother cried and cried, "My son beat me like this, what a great crime for me as a mother!"”
Do you still have the face to say?If it weren't for you being vexatious all day long, how would we quarrel and divorce?"I was furious.
It's useless!Lin Xuan has already decided to divorce, it's too late!I said in despair.
I wiped away my tears and decided to try one last time. I sent a message to Lin Xuan: "Give me one last chance, I will find a way to solve this problem, as long as you don't get divorced, I will listen to you for the rest." ”
So I started looking for an apartment for my mom. After a month of traveling, I finally found her an apartment not far from my home. My mom was reluctant to leave my house, but she knew it was the only way and agreed to move out.
I started to learn to control my temper and never yell at my mom again. I took time out of my week to visit my mom in the apartment, helped her with groceries and cooking, and was responsive and gentle. My mom saw the change in me and stopped being vexatious.
Lin Xuan saw the improvement in the relationship between our mother and son, and her attitude softened. One day, I plucked up the courage to say to her, "Honey, thanks to your support and understanding during this time, I was able to correct my mistakes and rebuild my relationship with my mother." I know I've made you suffer a lot of grievances along the way, and I'm really sorry. Can you give me another chance?”
Lin Xuan smiled slightly and nodded.
I hugged her excitedly: "Thank you so much!".I will be a better husband again and make you happy!”
Since then, our lives have returned to peace. I would visit my mom regularly, but I would not let her come back to live in our house. Sometimes I would take Lin Xuan with me, and she would help my mother with some housework, and our relationship gradually eased.