Lu Yao once wrote on the title page of "Life".
Although the road of life is long, there are often only a few steps at the critical point. ”
In this life, we will meet many people and many things.
On the long road of life, it is the dream of many people to have noble people to help and give them good opportunities.
The help of a good teacher guides us to find a way forward in confusion
With the company of good friends, let us harvest the courage and strength to get out of the trough;
The gift of good opportunities makes us see the hope of changing our lives in the midst of not being willing to be mediocre.
Some people, some things, just encountered, are enough to amaze us for the whole time.
After half a life, I realized that the greatest luck in life is to meet a good teacher, get a good friend, and hold a good opportunity.
Meet a good teacher
Someone on Zhihu asked:
How does it feel to have a good teacher in your life?”
A high praise replied:
It's like a light suddenly appears in your ordinary life, allowing you to see what kind of person you want to become, what kind of life you want, and everything has a direction. ”
Just like Maxima was appreciated by Bole, he showed the ability to gallop thousands of miles;
Only when a person is guided by a good teacher can he reach his or her full potential.
Collint, a world-renowned professional drummer, talks about his upbringing.
As a child, Collint suffered from congenital ADHD and often banged uncontrollably on the table.
Whenever this happens, the classmates in the class will shout at him
The teacher also thought he was trying to cause trouble, and angrily threw him out of the classroom.
Later, the teacher and classmates learned the truth.
But they only treated Corint as a "problem child" and asked him to put his hands under his thighs during class in a cold tone.
Corint felt no care or warmth in his teachers and classmates, and he once suspected that he shouldn't come to school.
Until one day, in Mr. Jensen's class, he again made uncontrollable noises.
Mr. Jensen left him alone after class.
Unexpectedly, Mr. Jensen did not criticize him, but said to him mildly:
Have you ever considered playing drums?”
Then Jensen took out the drumsticks from the drawer and handed them to Collint
Kid, I don't think you're a 'problem child', you should be a natural drummer. ”
With Mr. Jensen's encouragement, Collint no longer had self-doubt, and he spent most of his time practicing drumming.
After years of hard training, Clint has become a world-class professional drummer and has his own company and company.
The writer Frederick once said:
There is always a moment in everyone's life that determines who they will become. ”
For Collint, the moment he received the drumstick was the moment when he changed his fate.
The so-called teacher preaches and teaches to solve doubts.
A good teacher not only imparts knowledge to students, but also gives guidance when students are confused and encouragement when they are frustrated.
The road of life is long and difficult.
Walking alone may be able to walk quickly, but with a good teacher, we can go further.
Good friends
Psychology shows that cultivating 2 or 3 close friends in depth is far better than 200 300 general friends.
The more I experience, the more I feel that the most rare thing in life is not how many "like friends" there are in the circle of friends, but the friends in life.
In the TV series "Please Answer 1988", the friendship and bond between Aze and his partners are moving.
In the play, Aze is recognized as a genius boy in the game of Go, and has represented the country many times.
But behind the dazzling results, Aze is also under tremendous pressure.
After losing a match, his mood hit rock bottom, and he was listless.
In order not to make Aze sad, the neighbors avoided mentioning the incident in front of him.
But the more cautious they were in their words and deeds, the more Aze felt that he was ashamed of everyone's expectations.
Fortunately, when Aze was most lonely and helpless, he was still accompanied by his friends Zhenghuan and Donglong.
There's always a special way for them to get Aze back on their feet.
On the day of the end of the game, as soon as Zhenghuan saw Aze, he joked:
I heard that you lost miserably, how can you go out so embarrassed?”
Donglong also echoed:
I heard that Aze lost miserably. ”
Aze forced his anger to justify:
It's a mistake. Donglong sneered
What excuses, you are a genius teenager, how can you make a mistake?”
Aze finally couldn't bear it anymore and shouted:
Do I have to win every day?”
And with this shout, Aze's long-suppressed emotions were finally vented.
Later, at the instigation of Zhenghuan, Aze "scolded" all the unhappiness in his heart.
In fact, Aze can't afford to lose, it's just that too many people have high hopes for him, so he can't allow himself to fail.
But under the "radical method" of his friends Donglong and Zhenghuan, he gradually realized the truth that "no one can win all the time".
In the end, Aze calmly accepted the facts, collected his emotions and actively prepared for the next game.
Writer Lin Yutang once put forward the concept of "front and back friends":
It refers to the fact that people should take into account their image in every word and deed in front of their "foreground" friends;
But in front of "backstage" friends, you can remove all disguises, even if you are not glamorous, you don't have to worry about being ridiculed.
Many times, the "foreground" friend only cares about whether you fly high or not, but the "backstage" friend cares more about whether you are tired of flying.
They always stick to you when you're at a low point, help you when you're helpless, and silently support you when you're moving forward.
In life, there are many people who can become nodding friends, but it is not easy to become a good friend and confidant.
When people reach middle age, thousands of sails have passed, if there are such friends in life, cherish them.
Seize the opportunity
Netizen @elm once shared his entrepreneurial story.
That year, after graduating with a master's degree, he joined a traditional car company to work.
After working for a few years, he gradually felt that the traditional car manufacturing power was declining, and at that time there were few people doing car content, he felt that this was an opportunity.
So he invited a colleague to start a business together and make a platform for vehicle evaluation.
But his colleagues flatly refused, and even counted out that his dignified master's degree graduates actually went to engage in car content, which was too cheap.
In desperation, netizens can only do it alone.
In the next two years, with the rapid development of new energy vehicles, more and more people bought cars, and the automotive content market quickly became popular.
With their previous work experience in car companies, netizens quickly stood out among their peers.
Today, not only does he have a stable audience, but he has also built his own content team, and his income has doubled compared to his previous job.
And the colleague who refused his invitation at the beginning is still doing the same work in the original company.
In psychology, there is a famous "match point thinking", which refers to:
There are many opportunities that come across everyone in their lifetime.
Some opportunities don't matter;
But there are some opportunities, like "match points" in competitive sports.
Whether it can be won or not directly affects a person's fate.
Just like some children from mountain villages, they seized the opportunity of the college entrance examination, successfully walked out of the mountains, and changed their fate by relying on knowledge.
Just like some diligent farmers who cultivate the land, they seize the dividends of short traffic, rely on live broadcasts to sell goods, and successfully double their income.
Many times, the unevenness between people is nothing more than that some people hesitate in front of opportunities, look forward and backward, and end up watching opportunities pass in vain;
However, some people can firmly grasp the opportunity, insist that Qingshan will not relax, and finally achieve class leapfrogging and life counterattack.
Archimedes once said:
Give me a fulcrum, and I can pry the whole earth. ”
It's the same with life.
When the opportunity arises, find the fulcrum and borrow the strength to act, so that we can use less strength to lift our lives to a higher height.
There is such a passage in the "Reader":
Everything in the world is an encounter.
When cold meets warm, there is rain;Winter meets spring, there are years;
Heaven meets earth, and there is eternity;Man meets man and has life. ”
Life is like a reverse journey, you and I are both pedestrians.
In the long river of years, we are like a flat boat, floating in the vast sea.
During the journey, every mentor, every friend, and every opportunity I met was a kind of fate and a kind of luck.
However, life can only be encountered, not foreseen.
Only by cherishing these hard-won encounters can we live up to the passing years, live up to ourselves, and let the limited life burst out with infinite brilliance.
For the rest of my life, I hope that all you and I encounter are beautiful and accompanied by good people.
Encourage with friends.