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Some netizens asked me, what kind of marriage do women desire the most?
In fact, the answer to this question is different for every woman. However, no matter how different two people may be, some common views and experiences suggest that the marriage that a woman desires most must be a happy marriage.
So what kind of marriage can be called a happy marriage?
First of all, the most desired happy marriage for women is that husband and wife respect and care for each other, and women have their own voice and decision-making power in the family, and share family responsibilities equally. Ability to share. Her husband.
Second, a truly happy marriage requires a stable and secure marital environment. Because only in this way can women face life's challenges and difficulties with confidence.
Of course, the most important point is that a truly happy marriage must be one of mutual fidelity.
However, all of the above theories are just theories, and in real life, many people fail to be faithful to their partner.
Even if you are able to respect and love your wife, that doesn't stop some people who can't resist cheating on marriage, affection, and partner.
Men, in particular, often choose to have pleasure outside of marriage because of their "superior conditions", and then betray the marriage.
When most women find out that their man is on the marriage ** track, they will burst into tears and argue with him, why is he going through this?Is it because I'm not good enough?
In fact, this practice is stupid, and the women who do it do not have that high IQ.
First of all, when a man finds out that he already knows that you have betrayed him, he will try to hide or deceive you.
Second, they will use all kinds of means, including cruel means, to get you to forgive.
Even if you cry and get into trouble, if he finds a "helper" who convinces you that marriage is not easy, and who does not make mistakes, maybe you will not last long before you make a choice. 。To forgive the other person.
Therefore, crying and making noise have no effect.
So what do smart women usually do when they are betrayed by men?
In fact, really smart women tend to do this when faced with betrayal from men.
1.Hold your horses.
When faced with a man's betrayal, a wise woman does not lose her mind because of the man's betrayal. They tend to remain calm and take effective measures to deal with problems.
Impulsiveness doesn't solve anything. Instead, men will find all sorts of excuses to excuse betrayal.
You say you're in unfair trouble and you don't have proof, or you say you're not good enough, you're not good enough, you're not pretty enough, so you go out and find someone.
These are very damaging to a person's self-esteem. Instead of arguing with a man and giving him a chance to laugh and belittle you, it's better to calm down and think about the rest of your life. And how to proceed.
Do you plan to continue living together or should you end this marriage as soon as possible?The only prerequisite for solving these problems is to remain calm.
In other words, a truly intelligent woman is able to remain calm in the face of a man's betrayal.
2. Active communication.
A wise woman must not only remain calm, but also take the initiative to communicate with the man, ask him what he thinks about the marriage, try to find out the cause of the problem.
If your relationship has reached the point of no return, positive communication can at least help you "die happily."
For example, your partner says you're not interested, so you choose to go outside for thrills, or you find married life too boring and you want to try something new.
Only by maintaining positive communication can you find out that the problem between you and the other party lies in the **.
Even if you don't like this betrayed marriage and want to end it, at least you can be prepared to be betrayed again before the next relationship begins, right?
3.Reflect on yourself.
In addition to the above two points, a wise woman also has to reflect on herself when facing a betrayed marriage. She first reflects on whether her husband's betrayal is her own problem or something that has nothing to do with her.
If it does concern herself, she will adopt a positive communication style, learn from her husband Xi and correct her shortcomings.
Of course, this premise must be that the woman wants to save her marriage.
If her husband's betrayal has nothing to do with her, she will make the right decision, and the marriage is up to her.
Another reason why smart women reflect on themselves is that they know that in a marriage, both partners need to take responsibility, so they don't blame all the problems on the man.
4.Be careful.
Even the smartest woman feels uncomfortable and heartbroken when she learns that her husband has cheated on her.
Still, smart women usually know how to take care of themselves. Because she also knew that if her husband's betrayal hurt her or hit her mentally, she would suffer even more.
Will she be ruthlessly abandoned by men, or will she be ridiculed as useless by those around her?
Smart women are generally transparent about their approach to marriage. Betrayal doesn't make you feel depressed, self-pitying, or even "masochistic".
Instead, they take care of their bodies and spirits so that they can cope with a man's betrayal in the best possible condition.
In short, when a man betrays a marriage, a wise woman takes steps to deal with the problem, stay calm, communicate, reflect, and take care of herself.
In contrast, a stupid woman may only cry. Maybe this approach will have some effect at first, but no one can guarantee that the same thing will happen again. In addition, this approach may make the problem worse.
So, instead of making yourself look like a "madman", it is better to stand up and face this "betrayal". At least if it's not your fault, stand up straight!