The birth policy has just been relaxed, and the support for having a third child has made many people start to consider the issue of having a second child. However, not every family wishes to have a second child, especially on the female side. The reason why some women are reluctant to have a second child is mostly due to their own and family considerations. Cen Xue is a clear example. As a small clerk in a company, she and her husbandLiu DongRaising Maggie together. However, with the recent implementation of the three-child policy,Liu Dongbegan to desperately want a second child, and mentioned this issue many times. But Cen Xue pretended to turn a blind eye to this, because she had no plans to have a second child at all.
The reason why Cen Xue is reluctant to have a second child is mainly because she is therePregnancyI went through a lot of hardships during this period. PregnancyDuring that time, she suffered a lot and didn't know how many injections she had to take to successfully conceive a child. And inPregnancyDuring this period, she was not easy, severe morning sickness prevented her from eating well for a day, and she often vomited until she was exhausted. After giving birth to the child, Cen Xue was responsible for taking care of it alone, and her mother-in-law only shirked her responsibility on the grounds of helping her brother-in-law take care of the child, and never helped for a day. Liu DongEvery day when he is tired from work, he doesn't care about the children when he comes home, and he refuses to do housework, if Cen Xue has any complaints, he will block it with money, and the only benefit is to give money to be happy. However, due to the low salary, the family's expenses are very large, except for the family'slifeFees, there is not much left.
The child is four years old, Cen Xue thought that it would be a little easier, and at the same time she could find a job to increase her family income. However, before she had time to plan,Liu Dongand his mother-in-law began to give birth to a second child. Cen Xue remembered the bitter experience of Huai Meiqi, and she didn't want to repeat the same mistakes again. No matter how much she pretends to be deaf and stunned,Liu Dongand her mother-in-law persevered in persecuting her. On the ninth day of the first lunar month, relatives came to pay New Year's greetings, and Cen Xue was busy with reception and cookingLiu DongBut he didn't mean to help his mother-in-law, and after the reception, the relatives began to gossip.
Liu DongDeliberately pulled the topic awayHave a babyAbove, envious of the two children of the relatives' family, the relatives began to ridicule Cen Xue when she would have a second child. For these unreasonable gossip issues, Cen Xue has already been resentful in her heart, she doesn't want to be urged to have a second child again, and firmly told her relatives: "I have no plans to have a second child, I am already very satisfied with Meiqi." The relative smiled and said, "You can't think like that, the child still wants a companion." Cen Xue replied resolutely: "My child doesn't have such thoughts. ”
Liu DongAfter hearing Cen Xue's answer, he interjected angrily and said, "Cen Xue is just joking!."We have this plan in the near future, and we hope to add another brother, how good it is to make a good word. "Cen Xue quiltLiu DongPersecuted in public, he replied angrily: "I'm not joking, who is joking with you!".Children are clingy and disobedient, one is enough, and having one more will only suffer!"However,Liu Dong's relatives seem to agree with him, and seem to think that women are born to beHave a babyof the machine, noHave a babywill be blamed.
Cen Xue couldn't eat this meal anymore, and she was afraid that she would be uncomfortable because of indigestion. She went straight back to her roomLiu DongStill yelling behind her that she was not sensible. And Cen Xue didn't want to pay attention to him anymore, if he wanted to have a cold war, there was no need for her to lick her face and do things. Therefore, she did not clean up the mess in the living room, and the two continued to stalemate. In the end, the mother-in-law couldn't stand it anymore and cleaned up a table of dishes and chopsticks by herself. When it came to the day of paycheck,Liu Dongdid not give Cen Xue's salary either, and although Cen Xue was angry, she didn't ask him for money.
As a man, during the Cold War, he could ignore whether his wife and daughter could eat enough Cen Xue angrilyLiu DongSay, "What will I do if you don't give me money?".Do you want to see me and Maggie starve here?”Liu Dongsuddenly realized his mistake and hurriedly took out his salary to Cen Xue. But Cen Xue is already rightLiu DongA deep sense of disappointment and mistrust arose.
Cen Xue was alone in the room thinking quietly. She understands herself andLiu DongThe perception is so different. For her,Have a babyIt is not only a responsibility and burden, but also a life choice. She once worked hard to give birth to Maggie, and she paid a lot in order to provide better conditions and growth environment for her child. Giving birth to a second child was undoubtedly a heavy burden for her. She has taken on too much responsibility and pressure on her own, pluslifeShe couldn't imagine herself embarking on that difficult road again.
She began to think about what she should do for herself and MaggieShe was no longer willing to accept itLiu Dongand her mother-in-law's coercion and temptation, she decided to stick to her position. She wanted to persuadeLiu DongGive up the obsession with the second child, let him understand her hardships and concerns. Although she knows that this will not change easilyLiu DongBut she hopes that through communication and understanding, the relationship between the two will be re-established.
After Cen Xue calmed down, she began to take the initiative andLiu DongCommunicate. She towardsLiu DongExplained her feelings and concerns in detail, hoping that he would understand her position. Liu DongAlthough he was a little unimpressed, seeing Cen Xue's firm attitude and persistence, he also began to think about whether his own behavior was excessive. He began to reflect on his responsibilities and role in the family and realized that he was inadequate in taking care of his children and household chores.
Through this conflict and communication, the two re-acquainted themselves with each other's feelings and needs. Liu Dongbegan to take the initiative to participate in the trivial affairs of the family, and began to understand and support Cen Xue's choice. Cen Xue also let go of the knot and began to actively consider finding a job, and the relationship between them gradually became harmonious.
Cen Xue also understands that there is only andLiu DongCommunication is not enough. She decided to have a sincere conversation with her mother-in-law, hoping that she would understand and support her position. She told her mother-in-law about her persistence and troubles, hoping that she would be able to think from her point of view. After hearing this, the mother-in-law was silent for a while, and said, "Actually, I also understand your thoughts, but as an elder, I hope your family will be happier and more complete." But I can understand your confusion and reluctance to be stressed again. I will try to support you andLiu Dongdecision. Cen Xue felt a little relieved when she heard her mother-in-law's understanding and support. Although she did not completely change her mother-in-law's perception, she at least began to accept her choice.
After a period of thinking and discussion, Cen XueheLiu DongFinally found one that suited both sidesSolution。They decided not to have a second child, but to focus more energy and resources on raising and caring for Maggie, and working hard to increase the family income and provide her with a better environment to grow up. They also agreed to take household chores andParentingResponsibilities are reasonably distributed, and mutual support and assistance are provided.
Although the second-child dispute has produced contradictions and conflicts for a period of time, through active communication and understanding, Cen XueheLiu DongFinally found one that suited both sidesSolution。It also makes them theirMarriageThe relationship was further consolidated and grew.