My name is Li Xiaofang, I am 55 years old and I am a divorced woman. My children are all married, and I live alone in a small house in my hometown, living a quiet but somewhat lonely life. I could have spent the rest of my life like this, but I still longed to have a soulmate, so with the encouragement of my children, I signed up for a blind date** and started a blind date journey to find my other half.
Over the course of almost a year, I've dated a few guys, but all of them have failed. Some people are too old to be different, and some people are very concerned about me having children. Just when I was starting to worry about whether I was destined to live alone, a boy named Wang Xiaokang reached out to me, and we decided to meet on the weekend.
On Saturday afternoon, I arrived at the blind date restaurant an hour early. Facing Wang Xiaokang, who is about to meet, I am both looking forward to it and nervous. I look forward to meeting a confidant who understands each other, but I am worried that we will have irreconcilable differences.
Wang Xiaokang walked up to me, showed a friendly smile, and said, "Hello, I'm Wang Xiaokang, it's a pleasure to meet you." ”
I stood up and smiled back: "Hello, I'm Li Xiaofang." I'm also glad to meet you. ”
We exchanged a few words of greeting and sat down to order. Wang Xiaokang took the initiative to ask me if I minded him ordering, and he ordered a few home-cooked dishes with full color and flavor. I saw that his ordering method and attitude were very meticulous and thoughtful, and I nodded secretly, thinking that he would take care of others.
After the simple appetizers were served, I offered to talk about each other's situation.
I said, "I'm 55 years old, married once before and have a daughter. My daughter has been living abroad for many years, and she is also married and has children. I live alone in my hometown now, and I can't afford to sell my house, so I live there. What about you?Do you have children too?”
Wang Xiaokang smiled and said: "I am 60 years old this year, and I am also divorced and have no children. After the divorce, I lived alone, and sometimes I felt very lonely. ”
Seeing that he was honest, I was also relieved. I know that some guys will care if the woman has children, after all, taking care of children is a big responsibility. Now it seems that Wang Xiaokang doesn't mind that I have children, which has exceeded my expectations.
Wang Xiaokang looked at me a little hesitantly, and said: "I can understand that as a mother, you will be concerned about your children." But I don't mind if you have children, I care more about whether two people can connect hearts. ”
I was very touched by Wang Xiaokang's words. Indeed, the most important thing for a blind date is whether the two hearts are compatible, and it is not realistic to be too unexpected in the conditions. I want to find someone who can tolerate and understand me, and Wang Xiaokang, at least for now, has this possibility.
So, I shook off the burden that had been in my chest for a long time, and said in a relaxed tone: "Then let's have a happy chat, you don't mind me and I'm more at ease." I also focus on the emotional foundation. ”
Wang Xiaokang showed a happy smile on his face, and we chatted while eating, and the atmosphere gradually warmed up.
Just as we were happily chatting about various topics, my phone suddenly rang. I picked it up and heard my daughter's excited voice on the other end: "Mom, my husband and I quarreled again!".He has such a bad temper that he always gets mad when he doesn't listen to me. I can't take it anymore!”
I frowned, thinking to myself that this was not the first time my daughter and son-in-law had quarreled. Every time because of trivial things, they quarrel and make people exhausted.
I persuaded, "Lily, it's normal for you to quarrel with each other, but you also have to keep things in check. Otherwise, it will be bad for you and your children to quarrel all the time. Why don't you calm down for a few days and then try to communicate well with him. ”
My daughter is still crying on the other end, and I can only patiently persuade her, hoping that she will not make drastic decisions.
At this time, I saw Wang Xiaokang looking at me with concerned eyes. He seems to have guessed that something was wrong with me at home. I smiled apologetically and motioned for his patience.
I continued to talk to my daughter until she calmed down a bit, and then ended the call. I was a little embarrassed and said to Wang Xiaokang: "I'm really sorry, my daughter is suddenly in a bit of a hurry." As a mother, I still have to care about my children. ”
I am sincerely grateful to Wang Xiaokang for his tolerance and understanding, which has exceeded my expectations. I thought to myself, I am really blessed to meet such a reasonable person.
Just when I was a little upset because of my daughter's matter, Wang Xiaokang's next sentence made me instantly retract my mind.
He looked me in the eye and said earnestly, "Xiaofang, I don't mind if you have a child. I value emotional fit on a blind date, not a formal condition. You don't have to mind that. ”
I was surprised and asked rhetorically, "How do you know I'm minding this?"I didn't intend to hide that I had children. ”
Wang Xiaokang said gently: "When you received your daughter's **, I saw your expression and body language. You seem to be struggling with this inside. I just want to reassure you that I really don't mind if you have kids. ”
I couldn't help but be a little moved by Wang Xiaokang's words. I said, "Thank you for being so reasonable." Indeed, many people will mind whether the target has children or not, and your kind of tolerant mentality is indeed rare. I'm so lucky to have met you. ”
Wang Xiaokang smiled and said: "Actually, I have been living alone for a long time. Now I care more about you as a person than about external conditions. No matter what baggage you have, as long as the two hearts match, it will be enough. ”
I said from the bottom of my heart, "It's a blessing to have met you." In the future, we must continue to work hard to understand each other and cherish this fate. ”
Wang Xiaokang also nodded with a smile on his face. I know that our relationship will definitely get better and better.
Since then, Wang Xiaokang and I have continued to be in frequent contact. As soon as we have time, we make an appointment to chat and take a walk, and the topics we talk about range from daily life to life ideals, and they are not boring at all.
Once, we talked about relationships and marriage. Wang Xiaokang said that what he values most is whether the two sides are heart-to-heart. External conditions are only a plus, and the foundation lies in two hearts. I couldn't agree more with him and thank God for allowing me to meet him.
Maybe when you are older, love will not be as passionate and unrestrained as when you were young, but as long as you find a soulmate, even if you keep your voice down, you can feel full of happiness. I believe that as long as we continue to cherish it, our relationship will become more and more harmonious and happy.
On this day, Wang Xiaokang sent me home. On the road, we continued to talk energetically, from each other's Xi to our ideal retirement.
I said with emotion, "It's a blessing to meet you." Life in the world, experienced ups and downs, but after all, we still have to be grateful. Thank God for letting me meet you as a confidant. ”
I nodded, filled with hope and gratitude. Although my youth is long gone, as long as the mentality is not old, there will still be infinite possibilities in life. Meeting Wang Xiaokang made me see that even in the twilight of life, happiness may come knocking on the door again.
In this year's blind date process, I gained a confidant. This hard-won fate, I will use all my sincerity to take care of it. No matter how stormy the years are, with him by my side, my old age will definitely be warm and beautiful.
In this way, in an ordinary blind date, I met Wang Xiaokang, a confidant. He gave me a sense of security that I had never felt before. This beautiful feeling will be cherished for the rest of my life.