The 54-year-old eldest sister cried that I have a pension of 6,000, and I have five requirements for finding a partner, but I can't find a partner
Despite the fact that there are more men in today's society, it is theoretically easier for women to find a suitable partner. However, women should not blindly ask too much when looking for a partner. Overly demanding requirements can lead to the inability to find a suitable partner, as mentioned in one report, a 54-year-old woman with a monthly pension of 6,000 yuan is still difficult to find. Is she to blame for this ending?
Is it because she is asking too much, or because there is a problem with her requirements themselves, that she is unable to find a suitable partner?We hope to draw the attention of women to this issue through this case. The 54-year-old woman sighed: "My monthly pension is 6,000 yuan, and I only put forward five requirements to find a partner, why can't I find a suitable partner?"”
Through the reinterpretation of this story, I would like to call on women to be rational about their requirements when looking for a partner, and avoid missing opportunities because they are too demanding or unreasonable.
54-year-old Aunt Wu:
I've been on 68 blind dates this year, and I'm still alone. Could it be that there are so many women today that it is difficult to find soulmates?What puzzles me is that those who are mediocre in appearance and inferior to me have taken off their lists. I have a friend who is only 1.58 meters tall and weighs 130 pounds, with a mediocre appearance and even a little dark, but he actually found his other half. Why is that?
I think that the conditions are not inferior, and I can even say that I am better than him. This bothers me even more, is it because I have retired and retired early?With a pension of 6,000 yuan a month, you can theoretically do a lot of things, isn't it?Some people can't earn so much in a month after hard work, but I don't have to work, I can easily receive 6,000 yuan a month, and I can even promise that if I am with me, I can get an extra 200 yuan of pocket money every month. 200 yuan is enough, especially in today's mask incident, it is indeed not easy to make money.
Besides, my appearance is quite attractive. When I was a child, there were more than 50 classmates at school, but I was the most beautiful one. After work, my colleagues also praised my appearance. I'm 1.63 meters tall and weigh 180 pounds, plump but not afraid of good looks, a bit of fleshy style, isn't it the type that many men love?
However, why haven't I been able to find Ruyi Langjun for a long time?I am well-qualified, good-looking, and more importantly, gentle, considerate and charming. Now that I am over 50 and approaching the age of 55, if I can't find my other half, how will I live?The more I thought about it, the more upset and confused I became. Is it really that hard to find a partner?I just hope that my future partner can accept 200 yuan of pocket money every month, and the RV is not a mandatory requirement, just meet my 5 simple conditions.
These five requirements are not complicated, and I, as a good woman, why can't I find the right partner?It makes me feel very sad. Where is the happiness of the future?After thinking about it, I felt more and more that I couldn't face it. It may not be easy to find a wishful man, but I believe that happiness will come eventually.
First of all, I ask you to give me all your possessions.
We have become husband and wife and have become a family. Since we're already a family, don't you think you should give me a sense of security?For me, feeling safe is crucial, and it's one of the basic needs of not just me, but for all people, especially women. Now that we're already a family, I think it's your responsibility to provide me with that sense of security.
The most straightforward way to provide me with a sense of security is to give me all your possessions. In this way, I will feel more at ease and you will be able to achieve the happiness you have been seeking. After all, isn't what you're looking for is for me to be able to accompany you and take care of you?If you can give me all your possessions, I will accompany you wholeheartedly and live a good life.
With that in mind, why don't you give me all your possessions?Doing so will not only provide me with a sense of security, but it will also ensure that you will be able to enjoy the happy life you seek. Instead of keeping those numbers, give me your possessions so that you can reap the happiness you've been craving. I hope you will consider and adopt my suggestion.
The second requirement relates to the uncertainty of the future, and birth, aging, sickness and death are inescapable natural processes in life. In the face of these unavoidable situations, we need to consider the arrangements of life and the possible scenarios. Suppose I pass away before you, and at that time I want my children to take on the responsibility of caring for me.
There are often accidents in life, and we can't say what will happen tomorrow, so we need to think ahead about possible solutions. If I pass away before you, I want to be able to make sure that my pension is properly arranged. Considering that we are already married, I think your child is also my child. In this family, we are a family, and if I need to take care of it, I am sure that your children will be responsible for me.
This request is not excessive, because in marriage, we have established close family ties. Although I have children of my own, I don't want to put an extra burden on them. Therefore, I hope to be able to have your child's support when I need help. It's not because I don't trust my child, but because in this particular situation, I think your child is a loved one I can rely on.
I hope you understand this request, we all know that there are so many variables in life, and I just want some support in the difficult situations that may arise. This is not only for me personally, but also for the overall well-being of our family.
The third condition is that I want my partner to be 20 years younger than me.
Just as you men may prefer young and beautiful women, we women can also choose a young and handsome partner, right?If you men like to find young and beautiful people, then we women should have the same rights. I'm in my 50s now, but I'm still young in mind and look young on the outside. Therefore, I don't think it's too much to ask for a young and handsome partner.
I just need to find someone who is 20 years younger than me, that is, it is enough to find a partner who is in his 30s. For you men, 30s is just right, neither too old nor too young, just right for my age. Only in this way can our lives be more harmonious and we can have a happy marriage. If the age difference between the other person is too great, we may not be so happy. In order to avoid misfortune, it is a more rational choice to find a partner of the right age.
You men can pursue young and beautiful women, so we women can also choose young and handsome men, right?For the sake of our happiness, men should also accept this condition. There are so many young and handsome men nowadays, and finding someone in their 30s is not too much of an over-the-top request. There are many men, and there will always be one that suits me, and this requirement is not too much and it is not difficult to achieve.
The fourth requirement is that you must have an income of at least $50,000 per month.
When two people are together, they don't just talk about love, they also need to deal with all aspects of life, and life needs the support of money. If you don't have enough financial resources, life will become difficult. Therefore, you need to make sure that you earn at least $50,000 per month. This is not to say that you have to earn $500,000 a year, but you need to have $50,000 a month. The total income of 600,000 yuan a year is not high, compared to some people with an annual salary of millions or tens of millions, my requirements are not high. If you're chasing millions of dollars, it might be a little harder, but my goal is a relatively realistic $600,000.
In other words, $50,000 a month is just a bottom line, and if you have higher capacity and income, then of course it's better. After all, life can be better with enough financial resources. Life is not just about sweet talk, it also needs financial support. Therefore, I think that my request is to find a better partner, because the people who meet this requirement are usually people who are better off financially.
Only good men can be worthy of me. I did this to find a better partner, because only then can we share happiness. The men who meet my requirements are usually relatively good people. Don't you want to find a good woman?I was also eager to find a good man.
The fifth requirement is that there is a need for more joint decision-making after marriage.
In marriage, I believe that the husband and wife should be involved in decision-making, not just one person. Such cooperation can lead to a more equal and healthy relationship, which can lead to a happier marriage. We believe that good communication and shared decision-making are the keys to maintaining harmony in marriage.
For me, married life should be based on mutual understanding and respect, not unilateral dominance. I hope we can work together to make family plans and solve problems, rather than just one person calling the shots. This kind of cooperation allows us to grow better and build closer relationships.
I believe that in marriage, couples need to listen and understand each other, not fight to resolve differences. We can work together to pursue happiness together instead of getting bogged down in conflict and strife. This kind of cooperation not only avoids tragedy, but also strengthens our marriage.
Therefore, I advocate for shared decision-making after marriage, so that we can plan for our future together rather than relying on unilateral decisions. This kind of cooperation will help us create a happy and fulfilling life together, rather than making quarrels and unhappiness the main theme of our lives.
I only have these few simple requirements, unlike those women who seek millions of dollars in the garage. I don't want the other party to have millions in savings, millions in real estate, and I don't expect a high bride price. For me, it is enough for the other person to meet my five requirements. I don't think this expectation is too much, at least it doesn't require the other party to pay tens of millions of dollars.
However, why haven't I met the right person so far?Why don't those men want to be with me?Is it because I'm so good that they don't dare approach me?Or is it because they have no intention of looking for a lover at all?But why am I still single when other women have found a match?
What does all this mean?Maybe it's because they have different criteria for finding objects. That being the case, why haven't I found the right person yet?Every time I think about it, it bothers me, especially when I see that someone else has found a partner and I'm still alone. As time went on, I grew older, which left me frustrated, afraid that I would lose my advantage and never find my ideal partner again.
Although you have a generous pension of 6,000 yuan per month, this is a big benefit. However, it seems that you are a little too demanding in finding a partner, is this looking for a life partner?Or are you looking for a son?By your family's standards, it may seem really hard to find someone who qualifies. If you keep doing this, you may only blame yourself for being difficult to find a soulmate. When setting the criteria for finding a partner, you can indeed ask for some, but it must also be reasonable. Your current standards are too harsh, and it's actually hard to find the right ones for them. I hope that through this case, all women who are looking for a significant other half should be reminded to maintain a certain degree of reasonableness in their requirements, otherwise they may become a laughing stock in the eyes of others.