Love is a peacock flying southeast, wandering for ten miles;Love is looking for him, and suddenly looking back at that person is in the dim light;Love is still how to cut the candle flame in the west window, but I am afraid of the night rain and mountain language ......
The eternal love may make people heartbreaking, or make people sentimental, immerse themselves in it, and experience the joys, sorrows and sorrows of love.
It doesn't take any reason to fall in love with someone, you will give everything for the person you like, and even gamble the time of your life, even if you don't know if you will lose the outcome.
There is such a point in the book "Intimate Relationship": Marriage needs both material and love, and marriage without material things will make two people have to face the trivialities of life's necessities, which will lead to quarrels and be difficult to maintain;In a marriage without love, it is difficult for husband and wife not to care about each other, and the relationship will naturally not last long.
Many women prefer to choose the person they love when they get married, even if the other party does not have a lot of money, they will think that as long as two people have love, they can have enough money to drink, and then continue to overcome all kinds of troubles encountered in marriage and usher in a happy and beautiful life.
Although there will be couples who work together to run their marriage and family better and better, it is never enough for most couples to make love the foundation of their marriage, especially when a woman relies too much on a man's love in her marriage, which is a bit too risky.
I like to say that nothing in the world is eternal, the real change is the change itself, and everything in the world is only normal in a state of constant change.
It's the same with love, no matter how much you love someone, over time, the strong emotions of loving someone will gradually become flat, the good filter on your partner will gradually be broken, and love will lose its original strength.
is like Chen Junsheng and Luo Zijun in "The First Half of My Life".
At the time of the divorce, Luo Zijun tearfully accused: He said that he would love me for the rest of his life!
Unfortunately, Chen Junsheng, who once promised Luo Zijun a lifetime, rejected his wife who had no common language with him, and chose a more favorite woman instead.
How about making a lifelong commitment?However, a lifetime is too long, the stars change, the sea changes, everything will change unconsciously, not to mention the heart.
People's hearts are unpredictable, just like the weather, and even intimate partners across their stomachs can't fully guess what the other person really thinks.
If you don't understand this truth, women always demand their current life according to men's original promises, you will be disappointed.
Another point in the book Intimacy is that if a man likes someone, he will take the initiative to give for the other person and will not even seek anything in return.
Li Zhongying's "Marriage Psychology Lesson" also said: True love is not to ask the other person to do what he or she does for himself after liking him, but to allow himself to do something.
A man falls in love with someone who is willing to take the initiative to give, and he rarely cares even if he doesn't reciprocate, and when he sees that his beloved can be happy, he will feel that it is worth giving.
On the contrary, if you don't love, you will become stingy and unwilling to continue to be a woman's dependence, even if it is just a little good, you will not give it to the person you love.
It's like Xiaohong met Xiaojun in a very difficult time.
Xiao Jun was very distressed when he saw Xiao Hong trapped in the hotel and had no one to rely on, so he took the initiative to take care of Xiao Hong, determined his relationship with Xiao Hong without fear of the burden, and was regarded as a life-saving benefactor by Xiao Hong.
Unfortunately, the relationship between two people has been consumed for a long time until it can't last forever.
Later, Xiao Hong encountered danger again, and said emotionlessly that if Xiao Jun would be desperate to help her, Xiao Hong's words reached Xiao Jun's ears, and Xiao Jun denied it, and he thought that he would not lend a helping hand to Xiao Hong again.
When there is love between two people, love will be a woman's dependence, and a man will pay a lot for a woman under the traction of love;Without the shackles of love, you will no longer spend your energy and time on those you don't love.
Adler's individual psychology believes that everyone has their own life problems, and they can help each other in intimate relationships to help each other better complete their life problems, but in the end, the real choice and execution power are always in their own hands, and no one can replace them.
is like Fan Shengmei in "Ode to Joy", the original family is unhappy and wants to find a rich man to help him carry the burden of the original family and get married.
Running around but there is no suitable candidate, when Wang Baichuan appears, Fan Shengmei is like a life-saving straw, desperate to catch someone who can change his fate.
With Wang Baichuan's love, Fan Shengmei put all her problems on the other party, thinking that she could get rid of the original family and reap the happiness she wanted, but this unequal love made the two full of doubts and dissatisfaction when they got along.
It wasn't until Fan Shengmei made up her mind not to run away, took the initiative to face the problems brought by her original family, and became strong after all the problems were solved, that her life was much easier.
Women need to understand that even if the partner is responsible for themselves in the marriage, the actual control of life is still in their own hands, and do not think that the marriage will be all right, so that what you feel worried about can be thrown at the partner to solve.
In fact, the other party is just accompanying you to face it, what you really need to do and be brave to do it, think clearly about what you want to do, is the best medicine to solve all the troubles in life.