Zhong Ling once asked her father: When you married me, did you also think about your second sister very well as you do now?You're afraid that after I marry him, when he is not around, you won't have such worries. If you weren't afraid, I'd like to marry Xi Wei'an, but one day he suddenly got angry, pulled out his pistol, and ended my life with one shot?
Yi Xinghua just smiled slightly and asked: How is this possible?When pigs fly. Your personality and Zhong Yu's personality is really very different.
Zhong Ling was full of dissatisfaction with her father's questioning, because she was deeply aware of her father's prejudice. She believes that she and her father are two people, and the image of her father in her daughter's mind is not one person, but two women. In front of her, her father conducted an in-depth analysis of what kind of male partner Zhong Yu and Zhong Xiu should choose, obviously investing a lot of energy and thought into the marriage of the two daughters.
The father thinks his daughter is a good girl, and he is very happy with his daughter. However, when it comes to her marriage, her father takes a tough approach, much to Chung's displeasure.
However, at the moment when Zhong Ling was about to turn around and leave, Yi Xinghua took out a ** from Zhong Ling's childhood from the mezzanine of the book, and said to this ** with a smile: If you learn the truth of the matter, will you blame my father.
Long-term considerations about origin.
While Yi Xinghua may not be a competent husband, he is indeed an excellent father.
The deep love that parents have for their children is a deliberate strategy for them. Yi Xinghua put a lot of effort into the marriage of his four children, standing from a very high perspective, with foresight and accuracy. However, until Yi Xinghua's death, his four children did not really feel their father's deep care and dedication.
First of all, let's start with Yi Zhongling.
Every member of the Yi family firmly believes that Yi Xinghua married Zhong Lingxu to Xi Wei'an in the hope that the Yi family can gain the support and protection of the Xi family in this turbulent era.
In fact, people generally misunderstand this father, believing that he is only a small part of the family's interests, and more factors are actually Zhong Ling's background.
Zhong Ling was not born to the eldest wife, her biological mother was a scholar on Sima Road (a high-end J girl in old Shanghai), so Zhong Ling, a celebrity in Shanghai, was not from a prominent background.
Zhong Ling has felt inferior since she was a child, which is why she has been trying hard to get her father's approval.
However, the truth can't always be hidden, Zhong Ling's background will be revealed sooner or later, and how will the people of the Yi family and the well-known people in society evaluate her at that time?
At that time, will Zhong Ling's self-esteem be able to withstand the slander brought by these gossips?Is her husband really like the legend, with such a "perfect" wife?Will her husband be able to identify with her background?
Therefore, for Yi Xinghua, Xi Wei'an is undoubtedly the most suitable choice.
First of all, the Xi family and the Yi family are equal in economic strength. Moreover, the Xi family enjoyed a lot of power and status in Shanghai. If Zhong Ling marries them, she will receive the second status of "Xi Wei'an's Wife". Even if Zhong Ling's unknown background is revealed in the future, she will still maintain the identity of "Mrs. Xi", which will continue to support her pride and as a socialite in Shanghai.
In addition, it can be clearly seen from Yi Xinghua's observation that Xi Wei'an has special care and love for Zhong Ling. She's a good friend of hers, and he knows it. He has a wealth of life experience and knows that as long as you truly love someone, you can love her wholeheartedly. Yi Xinghua is convinced that Xi Wei'an will definitely accept Zhong Ling's history.
He also believes this. In addition, Xi Wei'an and Zhong Ling have completely different personalities, a rough man often needs a personable wife as a companion. He knew that he was not suitable to be a woman, and he wanted to run her as a man, not as a foil for women. It's in people's nature to be attracted to something they lack.
In the end, Xi Wei'an's noble quality won Yi Xinghua's deep trust. In turbulent times, a soldier who has the ability to protect his beloved daughter, for the Yi family, they will naturally be protected.
Claiming that Yi Xinghua married Zhong Lingxu to Xi Wei'an was completely unintentional, and in fact it was not feasible. He is a person who loves his daughter very much, and he once thought about using his life to repay this family and let his daughter live a good life. However, he did not easily marry his daughter off someone else because he did not consider her happiness.
It is also perfectly acceptable to ensure the happiness of the daughter's married life while taking into account the long-term interests of the family. Who in this world doesn't like the "have-and-have" things they experience?This is also one of the human natures, and it is an instinct that is common to all human beings. It is completely understandable that human nature is like this.
There was a time when I mistakenly thought that Yi Xinghua had married Zhong Ling to Xi Wei'an entirely out of the interests of the family, but when I heard what he said to Wang Jianchi.
Wang Jianchi was originally the husband's family arranged for Zhong Ling by the old lady (Yi Xinghua's mother), but due to Xi Wei'an's sudden appearance, Wang Jianchi's married life was seriously affected.
Wang Jianchi blamed Yi Xinghua and Xi Wei'an for this financial problem, and when he gradually grew in strength and led his team to Yi Xinghua to solve the problem, Yi Xinghua expressed the following opinion:
It seems that I didn't make the right choice to marry my daughter to you. How can you make her marry so happily?Earlier, when the old lady proposed marriage, I was adamantly against it. Every daughter of my Yi family is a priceless treasure, a man who can't even protect his own family in turbulent times, what should I use to protect Zhong Ling's future?Why should I entrust my beloved daughter to you?
What Yi Xinghua said not only confirmed Zhong Ling's special status in his heart, but also showed that his motive for marrying Zhong Ling to Seat An was not only for the benefit of the family, but more importantly, he believed that it was for Zhong Ling's happiness.
Compared with the long-term consideration of Zhong Ling's marriage, Yi Xinghua is more concerned and worried about Zhong Yu's future marital status.
Visionary about character.
Yi Xinghua insisted that Zhong Yu was not suitable for Tang Fengwu.
Yi Xinghua has a very different attitude towards the marriage of Zhong Yu and Zhong Ling. For Zhong Ling, he almost adopted imperative means, hoping that she would marry Xi Wei'an. However, for Zhong Yu, he just stood aside and kept giving advice and guidance, and did not exercise the final decision-making power.
After all, there is no comparison between Zhong Ling and Zhong Yu.
Despite the misfortunes in her marriage, Zhong Yu still has a strong uncle behind her. And Zhong Ling has no real backing, so marriage should be her only support. Therefore, Yi Xinghua decided to make Zhong Ling's marriage in the name of his father a member of the Xi family.
Regarding Zhong Yu's marriage, Yi Xinghua had thought deeply, and he considered training his subordinate Shen Bin to become his second son-in-law. However, he didn't have the courage to mention this to Zhong Yu, and only communicated with Zhong Ling in private.
Chung Chi was amazed at how her father could have betrothed her to a man with no family background.
However, Yi Xinghua does have her own considerations, she told Zhong Ling: I know Zhong Yu very well about this child, because of her bad temper, few men in the world can tolerate her, taking our family as an example, if she marries a military attache like Xi Wei'an, sooner or later people will collapse with guns, and if she marries Tang Fengwu, it will lead to divorce sooner or later.
So, I don't believe she would really marry another woman. It is only when she truly understands emotions and is willing to give up her bad temper for someone that she may be comforted by others.
Zhong Ling didn't care about this, she thought that Zhong Yu was born in a famous family and had outstanding appearance, which attracted many suitors, but why would her father choose an ordinary Shen Bin for her.
In fact, Yi Xinghua was even more worried about Zhong Yu's decision to choose Shen Bin.
Yi Xinghua expressed this opinion to Zhong Ling: If you choose a family that is the right family, then it will be difficult for me to speak when problems arise in the future. But Shen Bin was born in a poor family, if he married Zhong Yu, he would definitely be deeply grateful, would cherish her, endure her grievances, as long as I was still alive, his life would not be able to turn the sky upside down.
Yi Xinghua knows Zhong Yu well, and he chose Shen Bin as his partner, but he doesn't want to see his daughter treated unfairly, and Zhong Yu's character and temper can't tolerate any kind of grievances.
Choosing one that has too high a bar may anger others;Find someone with too low status, and it is impossible to get her favor, let alone let her work with peace of mind. If she chooses the profession of Qifu and her daughter suffers unfair treatment, Yi Xinghua may also find it difficult to support her;In Yi Xinghua's eyes, Shen Bin is undoubtedly the most ideal choice for the "second son-in-law", because he must find someone who is not inferior to the Yi family's family background, but this person also needs to have certain abilities and talents."
In order to strike at Shen Bin, Yi Xinghua bluntly expressed his position in front of Shen Bin:
I am an extremely selfish and domineering individual. Once, I felt guilty about Zhong Yu's mother, but now, I can't tolerate anyone betraying my daughter.
From what Yi Xinghua said, I felt the deep love of an elderly father for his daughter. Shen Bin was shocked by his majesty, as if he had purchased a guarantee for Zhong Yu that represented "happiness".
However, Zhong Yu is not interested in her father's kindness, and the person she really loves in her heart is Tang Fengwu.
In fact, Yi Xinghua is not optimistic about the relationship between Zhong Yu and Tang Fengwu. When Zhong Yu and Tang Fengwu decided to establish a relationship, Yi Xinghua expressed this opinion: I am more inclined to observe these two people to see who will give in to whom first.
Tang Fengwu and Zhong Yu were both born in a family environment with superior economic conditions, and they have been cared for and cared for by their families since they were children. As a result, both have very "self-centered" personalities and are not the kind of people who are prone to making "compromises".
After getting married, the two seemed to be different people, and they no longer worried about their own affairs. However, compromise is an integral part of a marriage relationship. An uncompromising marriage is like a herpes foot board that can't go far.
Yi Xinghua's judgment when choosing a son-in-law was very accurate, and in the relationship between Zhong Yu and Tang Fengwu, they did encounter some basic problems.
A young woman named Su Yin walked into Tang Fengwu's life, and she was his intimate secretary from his superiors. Tang Fengwu didn't have much interest in Su Yin, but Su Yin had a strong interest in Tang Fengwu, and publicly provoked Zhong Yu many times, trying to destroy the relationship between Zhong Yu and Tang Fengwu and find opportunities for herself.
Zhong Yu had mentioned Su Yin's existence in front of Tang Fengwu many times, which made her feel very unhappy, so she asked him to transfer her away. She felt that she was not good enough and that she should try to do something more. However, Tang Fengwu believes that Su Yin did not make any mistakes in her work, so why should she be transferred, which is contrary to his work principles.
In this way, the conflict between the two was ignited. Zhong Yu is discussing emotional issues, while Tang Fengwu is emphasizing principles, both with their heads held high, and no one is willing to make concessions.
I think Zhong Xiu once said a very accurate sentence: principle?Is this also a principle?Is it funny?I remember that Miss Rong (the Xi family's concubine for Xi Weianna) had just walked into the door of the Yi family, and was kicked out by her eldest brother-in-law within two hours.
If Tang Fengwu really loves the second sister, why can't he follow the way of his brother-in-law?This at least shows that the influence of the second sister is almost negligible compared to his principles!What's more, that Su Yin didn't know anything about work and personal affairs, and she didn't make mistakes at all, so she had ulterior motives.
Under Jong-so's harsh criticism, Jong-ok finally chose to avoid marriage, considering her personality, how could she compromise for such a thing?
In the end, Yi Xinghua successfully touched the emotional trend between Zhong Yu and Tang Fengwu.
Zhong Jie and the young lady from Shanghai.
Ayuan became famous overnight and became a young lady in Shanghai, all because Zhong Yu took out the money from behind.
Zhong Jie was very happy, because Ayuan had become Miss Shanghai, which made the two closer in terms of identity, but Zhong Jie personally believed that Yi Xinghua was not optimistic about this.
When Yi Xinghua witnessed his son and Ayuan start a relationship, he was not in a happy mood. This is not because their family backgrounds are very different, but because he realizes that the two of them are not suitable to be together and cannot come together.
Yi Xinghua said to Huang Ying: You seem to care more about our lovely son. I don't know, what's going on with him now?You mentioned that when a girl loses her beauty, what is left?What is it?Is it gentleness or kindness?I don't know if you think that way, but I guess it's your fault.
There are so many girls in this world who have such qualities, and there is actually nothing special about them. I grew up in a feudal family, and since I was a child, I was regarded by my parents as the pearl of my palm, pampered, and I had to let them do everything. I'm not bound by feudalism, this girl's family background is not bad, but this girl, no. Isn't she too weak, you say?
Our son is still very young, and he has not yet realized that the intrinsic value of a person is much more than his appearance and family background, not only by himself, but also by his family background and upbringing. You say, you say, what kind of child is he?You mentioned that if you choose the wrong marriage because of the spur of the moment, what will the future be?You say, you regret it!Feeling remorseful?
I strongly agree with the idea that connotation is more important than family background. Her life experience is also not optimistic, and her career development has been at a standstill. There is a big gap between Ayuan and Zhong Jie in terms of knowledge and insight, but more importantly, Ayuan is not a self-motivated young woman. Such a situation will undoubtedly make Zhong Jie feel monotonous and boring in his future life, so it is particularly important to achieve the same frequency resonance in married life.
In fact, Yi Xinghua also successfully touched the relationship between Zhong Jie and A Yuan.
After two years of getting along, Zhong Jie gradually lost his past enthusiasm for Ayuan, but Zhong Jie's heart was very kind, and he never considered leaving Ayuan.
It has been two full years since the selection of Miss Shanghai began. Ayuan originally had the opportunity to use her popularity at the time to carefully shape herself and make herself better and become the focus of attention.
However, the actual results turned out to be the exact opposite of what was expected.
When Zhong Yu left Shanghai, she repeatedly told Ayuan to seriously learn Xi "piano, chess, calligraphy and painting". However, two years have passed, and Ayuan is only good at painting eggs from the beginning, and now, she still only knows how to draw eggs;Her piano level is still at a very low level, but she can play beautiful melodies. Regarding the piano repertoire, I have only mastered a few of them. She thought it would be nice if she could have a son!Her thoughts revolve around Zhong Jie every day, thinking about how to care for him and how to become her wife.
Zhong Jie finally couldn't bear it anymore, and he told her: In your life, I shouldn't be the only existence. You should think deeply about your future, think about what kind of person you want to become, what kind of work you want to do, and find your true value.
However, Ayuan was completely unable to understand what Zhong Jie was saying, she knew nothing about the concept of "self-worth", and she knew nothing about the future.
In fact, what really hinders the growth of the relationship between the two is not their family background, but the difference in concepts and views between them, which is the biggest obstacle in the emotional world.
Yi Xinghua has always been able to accurately judge whether his children's chosen partner is a good match for them. In his eyes, his children are all good friends of him, they all have their own strengths, and they are also very respectful and considerate of him. This shows that as a father, he has a deep understanding of his children and has put a lot of effort and effort into them.
However, in many cases, certain loves are worth cherishing, but once you start expressing them, they become less precious.
Whether it is a journey through mountains and rivers or a journey of wind and rain, love and family affection are always indispensable companions in our lives. Love and affection are twin brothers who can never be separated, they cherish each other, love each other, and respect each other like guests. Absolute loyalty in love, no regrets in family affection, I think this is the best time of my life.