As its name suggests, the TV series "Golden Wedding" profoundly portrays the complex love-hate and heart-wrenching emotions between Chinese couples.
Under the influence of the trivial things of daily life, the true face of marriage can be presented in the public eye.
Whether it is Wen Li and Tong Zhi, or Zhuang's sister-in-law and Da Zhuang, they mainly describe the complex emotional entanglements between people.
Interestingly, although Sister-in-law Zhuang doesn't know a big character and doesn't have an eye-catching appearance, her marital happiness index surpasses Wen Li, what is the reason behind this?
To describe the marriage of Tong Zhi and Wen Li, it is really suitable to describe it as "chicken feathers in one place".
From the gentleness and sweetness at the beginning, to the subsequent twists and turns, many people can see their past.
In daily life, when we experience the sweetness of love for the first time, the passage of time and the influence of daily trivial things make our lives as calm as flowing water.
Wen Li's initial married life was happy, but as time went by, her life became more and more unsatisfactory. Zhuang's sister-in-law's marriage is significantly different from this.
Initially, Zhuang's sister-in-law's married life was full of drama and bloody plots, and the relationship between the two became very tense and unpleasant due to the intervention of Da Zhuang's girlfriend. However, judging from the final result, Sister-in-law Zhuang's happiness is undoubtedly far greater than Wen Li's.
As a primary school teacher, Wen Li surpassed Zhuang's sister-in-law in terms of education and family background.
She is a very decisive individual, with her own unique code of conduct for every situation, and she is also quite organized in handling affairs.
Especially on Zhuang's sister-in-law's wedding day, Dazhuang's ex-girlfriend Mei Mei caused a commotion. Although all this is Da Zhuang's responsibility, Zhuang's sister-in-law did not choose to have an emotional outburst, she calmly observed what happened to the person and silently shed tears in her heart.
Wen Li has a deep feeling about this incident, and she believes that Zhuang's sister-in-law should publicly swear her sovereignty, rather than losing her dignity as a woman because she is too submissive.
But in my opinion, the real problems seem to be focused on Dazhuang.
The hesitation in the time of free love and engagement led to the subsequent "unsatisfactory". At this stage, the man's mind is controlled by her, he wants to be a good husband, and the woman also wants to have a good husband. If he really marries Mei Mei, happiness is not inevitable, and a woman like Zhuang's sister-in-law is the real virtuous wife and mother.
From one side, when men choose a partner, most people tend to choose a woman like Zhuang's sister-in-law.
In addition to the interaction at the spiritual level, the strategic layout in life is the primary criterion for evaluation.
From the first day of marriage, Zhuang's sister-in-law deeply understood what kind of man Dazhuang was, and further realized his shortcomings in personality.
Judging from the personal economic conditions alone, the material conditions of Dazhuang and the existence of Beijing have virtually improved the social status of Zhuang's sister-in-law. Her income has increased a lot compared to before, which has greatly improved her financial situation. A person who lacks cultural cultivation is in a relatively stable and victorious state while enjoying a social class life similar to Wenli.
After getting married, Dazhuang occasionally flirted with others, and his relationship with his ex-girlfriend Meimei became blurred.
Despite this, Sister-in-law Zhuang chose to endure silently, she knew what she was really pursuing.
After Zhuang's sister-in-law married Dazhuang, she was always conscientious, and whenever Dazhuang was slightly dissatisfied, he would loudly reprimand and speak ill of her. Me too, every time I hear such a voice, I feel very uncomfortable, because I always feel like a weakling. I often wonder why she didn't choose to rebel, but was born with this treatment
From Zhuang's sister-in-law's point of view, she has not been able to get rid of the label of becoming a banker since she was 10 years old."
Only when you enter the sacred hall of marriage with Dazhuang will you have the opportunity to enter the metropolis, get rid of the poverty life in the countryside, and become a real face-to-face person.
Not only did this change my own destiny, but it also benefited my future children.
Sister-in-law Zhuang is an extremely rational person, and her vision and pattern are much longer than those of her age. She is also more introverted. In Dazhuang, the benefits that those confidants may bring in the future are not worth mentioning.
Although Sister-in-law Zhuang does not know how to read and write, and her appearance is not particularly outstanding, her heart and craftsmanship are very good.
Although she behaved somewhat inappropriately in social situations, she was highly skilled in cooking and managed to appeal to her husband's appetite.
From Wen Li's point of view, she is a very sophisticated woman, and her favorite activity is to go to the theater to watch a ballet performance.
Although Tong Zhi walked out with face, what he really cared about was the true face of life, just like a person who knew the warmth and cold, he was full of envy for Dazhuang in his heart.
Wen Li is keen to dress up, and there are always a variety of skin care products around her, and her clothes always become the most dazzling focus among everyone.
Despite these glamorous appearances, behind them lies the family's financial woes. Wen Li had already spent her money almost before the end of each month.
The pain in Tong Zhi's heart was indescribable, so he had to eat a vegetarian diet with his wife every day. Compared with Dazhuang, life shows a unique charm, and the strengths of Zhuang's sister-in-law are fully displayed.
In that era of food and clothing, everyone's basic needs were challenged, but Zhuang's sister-in-law was able to ensure that her husband and son had enough meat for every meal.
What specific problems does this reveal?Only the budget-conscious sister-in-law Zhuang is the most suitable choice in life.
Although the wages are the same, the way of living is different. Wen Li's life is very stylish, but she prefers to dress herself up like a delicate woman. In my opinion, Sister-in-law Zhuang is not the kind of woman who "stands out", she is more focused on personal pleasure than Wen Li, so much so that she feels financially embarrassed and borrows money, which is more decent.
Standing on a high place, she is filled with a sense of superiority in front of anyone.
In contrast, Sister-in-law Zhuang is very down-to-earth and has a very harmonious relationship with her neighbors, and her self-knowledge is undoubtedly a plus.
At the time of the distribution of the factory's house, the house area of Dazhuang was smaller than that of Tong Zhi, in order to obtain more rights and benefits. Sister-in-law Zhuang did not hesitate to find the leadership of the factory and succeeded in getting the residence she longed for.
As a result of this act, Dazhuang begins to have a different view of the woman in front of him, which subtly builds trust.
Looking at this, we can see that men are not really "unintentional" and will be taken seriously as long as they do it the right way.
After that, when Meimei was coquettish, Dazhuang always kept a certain distance from her. Because he knows that only Sister-in-law Zhuang is truly a partner worthy of spending the rest of his life together.
No matter how beautiful the flowers and plants in the outside world are, they can't compete with a woman who is in the same boat through thick and thin.
In the dispute between the two, Sister-in-law Zhuang also chose moderation. With her unique attractiveness, she has always maintained a dominant position in the family.
There is an old saying: "There is no harm without contrast", Wen Li is like a vase, no matter where she is placed, she is a dazzling existence.
Marriage is a process that requires careful management, and it seems unrealistic to aspire to absolute respect just because you are outstanding.
The way Tong Zhi and Wen Li interact shows an atmosphere of chasing each other. Doing housework and taking care of the children was not a willing choice for Tong Zhi, but because of his wife's persecution, he had no other choice.
Especially when he saw that Dazhuang was pampered by his wife like heaven, how could he not feel envious in his heart?
As time passed, the voices of the dispute between these two people gradually increased, and the contradictions accumulated over the years were like a fierce flood beast, constantly appearing in front of them.
Wen Li may be angry because of some trivial matter, while Tong Zhi may respond indirectly because of his wife's inaction.
In the process, neither individual has done much self-reflection, resulting in a drastic drop in their happiness index.
In fact, it is necessary to show absolute tolerance and understanding, both in married life and in relationships.
Wen Li, who is self-centered, never really thinks about her husband's emotions, and although she has a lot of say, her life is a mess.
Observing Sister-in-law Zhuang, she gradually developed from insignificant at the beginning to later true to what she said. Her eyes are full of determination and confidence, and her smile is full of confidence and strength. The majesty she shows is based on the accumulation of every little detail of her, not the beauty of her appearance.
In addition to the above, Tong Zhi and Da Zhuang have both had extramarital affairs, and Wen Li and Zhuang's sister-in-law have very different attitudes, which also reflects the difference in emotional intelligence between them.
Wen Li is a person who is not moved by the outside world at heart, and because of her affection for her admirers, her actions directly affect her husband's workplace.
She chooses to ignore the dignity of men, preferring to make her family's scandals public, but also to release her inner dissatisfaction, and even return to her parents' home many times to achieve her goals in this way.
In contrast, Sister-in-law Zhuang is a high-ranking woman, she directly found her mother-in-law, lowered her status, and first stabilized the absolute authority of the family.
In addition to these, Sister-in-law Zhuang also seemed unusually calm in the face of her sister's provocation. "I know you're trying to go against me, but you don't want to say it. A few short words were spoken, embarrassing the other person.
Sister-in-law Zhuang knew the overall situation well and considered her husband's face, so she smiled calmly. She is a gentle and virtuous woman, but she also has many unsatisfactory points. After the incident, he returned to the house and locked the door, and then completely severed ties with Dazhuang.
I think this way is absolutely right. Whatever the situation, respect and dignity should be accorded to each other.
Understand that under the dual influence of honor and loss, most men find it difficult to bear the dilemma of "losing face".
Those who are quick thinkers always know exactly what they are really after, and Sister-in-law Zhuang is a woman who understands the big picture very well.
She precisely controlled the boundaries of her marriage, held her husband's heart steadily, and from the dramatic plot at the beginning to the happy life later, she became the biggest beneficiary in the end.
Life is like a vast stage, everyone has their own specific identity and role, and what kind of person they become depends largely on the way they choose and the strategy they choose.
In married life, there are no perfect people, they always pay too much attention to their partner's shortcomings, are self-centered, and show a superior mentality of "worthless", such a life will only become more difficult.
It is only when we genuinely care that we can truly feel happiness.
The two characters of Wen Li and Zhuang's sister-in-law are very symbolic. In real life, people tend to think of them as a couple or sisters in life, but in reality this is not the case. In everyday life, there are not many people who play this role, some people win, while others suffer defeats, what is the reason behind this?
The patience shown by Sister-in-law Zhuang and the unwillingness shown by Wen Li are subtleties that we cannot take lightly.
Although the former's life is indeed full of hardships, Sister-in-law Zhuang is the happiest in the second half of her life;The former is really happy, but do you know why I'm so miserable?While the latter did live happily, the days ahead are regrettable.
Therefore, when dealing with emotional issues, we should not take it lightly, and the marriage relationship needs to be maintained and managed with our hearts, rather than allowing it to develop naturally. Marriage is a process and a result. As the saying goes, sugarcane will eventually be harvested, and how to move forward and how to make choices is completely in your own hands.