You can't be too harsh on others, everyone is emotional, and when they are kind to them, they will eventually give back to themselves. It's easy to approach a hundred people, don't always hold a pair of elders. I think everyone should help themselves, and everyone should listen to them. The premise of receiving help from others is that you have made corresponding efforts yourself, and no one will suddenly respect and respect a person for no reason.
Sometimes age doesn't mean anything, being young doesn't mean being able to keep up with the trend of the times, and being old doesn't necessarily mean that you don't have a young mentality and can't get along with young people. The key is to look at a person's mindset and how well they accept things. Some people's minds are already imprisoned in one place, so they are naturally conservative and difficult to approach.
As a child, you have the obligation to support your parents, and you also have the responsibility to contribute to the family, but you can't do everything for your children, especially the eldest son, the longest thing the world says to the eldest child in the family is to develop well and pave the way for younger siblings in the future. But these are not within the scope of the eldest son's obligations, as parents still have to fulfill their responsibilities to educate their children, rather than blindly pushing it to others.
01.Although the in-laws are young, they are not easy to get along with
Xiaoxiao and her husband Shen Jiahao have been married for a year, before Xiaoxiao and Shen Jiahao got married, they felt that Shen Jiahao's parents were very young, both parents were in their forties, and his mother was only in her early forties. Xiaoxiao thought that her future in-laws would be so young in the future, and they would definitely be able to get along better after getting married, so Xiaoxiao never thought that her life after marriage would be so hard.
My father-in-law is not good at talking, he always looks very serious, he hardly smiles all day, and he is very stubborn, he always feels that he is the person who talks in the family, and no one can resist what his father-in-law says.
For example, when you go out to go shopping with your friends, you have to come back when it's time to eat, and if you don't come back, your father-in-law will be unhappy, and sometimes he will lose his temper. It's nothing, if you don't eat on time, your father-in-law will sneer on the side, in short, your father-in-law is in a bad mood, and everyone else shouldn't think about getting better, and everyone else won't be happy.
Mother-in-law is even more concerned about small things, because mother-in-law pays attention to maintenance, and is very good at eating and drinking, and there are no snacks and drinks at home, because she doesn't eat herself, and everyone in the family is not allowed to eat. Every time Xiaoxiao buys a small snack home, it will be thrown away by her mother-in-law the next day. And the mother-in-law always dislikes Xiaoxiao for not being able to do things, and always says that Xiaoxiao is clumsy, and it is extremely unlucky to marry her and come back as a daughter-in-law.
So staying in this little family is very painful, and she always does a lot, but she is the one who is scolded, she is very wronged, and she can't find a suitable outlet.
02.His brother-in-law is only three years old
Shen Jiahao also has a younger brother, this younger brother is only three years old this year, when he came to Shen Jiahao's house when he was young, he thought that this child was the child of that relative's family. Later, I learned that this was actually my brother-in-law. The little uncle is only at the age of preschool now, and the little one can take care of the little uncle as his own child.
The arrival of the brother-in-law was an accident, and the mother-in-law suddenly found out that she was pregnant one day, but strangely enough, the father-in-law was not suspicious. After finding out that she was pregnant, her mother-in-law wanted to kill the child for the first time, but the doctor in the hospital suggested that it was best to give birth, because of the mother-in-law's physique, this time ** will have a great impact on the body, and as a last resort, the mother-in-law had to give birth to the little brother-in-law.
This child was born with a boy, and this time the coke broke the father-in-law and mother-in-law, the two of them liked the boy and thought the boy was good, so the little uncle was particularly favored in this family, and almost everything good and many things were given priority to the little brother-in-law. Shen Jiahao often quipped: "I am also a boy, but I didn't have such treatment when I was a child." ”
03.found out that the brother-in-law was not born to his father-in-law
The appearance of the brother-in-law is more inclined to that of the mother-in-law, and they all say that the son is more like the mother, but other than that, I can't see that the brother-in-law has anything in common with the father-in-law.
Mother-in-law often takes her brother-in-law out for a walk, but every time she goes out, her mother-in-law will dress up well, because her mother-in-law pays attention to maintenance and beauty, so she looks younger than her peers. Going out with my brother-in-law is also less disobedient.
Recently, Xiaoxiao discovered a secret of her mother-in-law, who often receives some things that others buy for children during this time. Because this is not sent by courier, but every time my mother-in-law goes out for a walk, she always brings home a bunch of things, and my mother-in-law always says that she has bought the right wine when she goes out. Until one time when Xiaoxiao was packing up her things, she found that there was a small note in the bag containing these supplies, and the content on it told Xiaoxiao that these items were given by others, and they were not bought by her mother-in-law at all.
During this time, the small company is on vacation, the time is relaxed, Xiaoxiao likes to go out with friends to play, this time the time to go out is relatively early, because friends said that they want to have lunch with Xiaoxiao outside, Xiaoxiao did not tell the family, because if he said it, he will definitely be rejected by his in-laws, so that Xiaoxiao must go home to eat.
Xiaoxiao packed up and went out after her mother-in-law took her brother-in-law out for a walk. Xiaoxiao also thought that she would meet her mother-in-law when she went out, but she didn't see her mother-in-law in the nearby park and community, and when Xiaoxiao walked a little way, she saw a café with her mother-in-law with her brother-in-law, and a man sitting opposite her mother-in-law, this look made Xiaoxiao discover a shocking secret, mother-in-law has a lover outside, not to say, this person is also very similar to the little uncle, no wonder the little uncle doesn't want to be father-in-law.
Xiaoxiao, who learned this secret, didn't have the heart to play outside this time, so he ate a lunch and hurriedly said goodbye and went home.
04.If you are forced by your father-in-law, it is better to tell the truth
This time, my mother-in-law needed to be hospitalized for a minor operation because she found out that there was a small lump in her body that needed to be removed and needed to be hospitalized for a while. The mother-in-law was hospitalized, and the brother-in-law had no one to take care of him, and the father-in-law had never cared about taking care of the children, and felt that he couldn't do the children's things, and he wouldn't do them. So the father-in-law put the idea on the little one.
Xiaoxiao has to work and go to work relatively busy, and it just so happens that Shen Jiahao is not at home on a business trip during this time. Now Xiaoxiao has discovered the secrets of the family, and has not dared to make a sound. But the father-in-law has been asking Xiao Xiao to take leave full-time at home to take the little uncle during this time, Xiao Xiao first rejected the father-in-law, saying that he could help, but he couldn't ask for leave, this time the terrible father-in-law was angry, and the father-in-law said: "Daughter-in-law, your little brother-in-law is only three years old, who do you not raise?"”
Xiaoxiao heard that her father-in-law forced herself to take her brother-in-law like this, this is not her own child, and she has no obligation to sacrifice her work, plus her mother-in-law's secret has always made Xiaoxiao nervous, as soon as her father-in-law said this, Xiaoxiao became angry and said to her father-in-law: "Father-in-law, let my mother-in-law's lover raise me, I saw it outside that day, don't force me anymore." After speaking, I showed my father-in-law **, and my father-in-law couldn't say a word.
After the mother-in-law went out of the customs, the father-in-law directly found the mother-in-law theory, the mother-in-law saw that her secret was discovered, and she could only tell the truth, the father-in-law was a child who had been raised by others for a few years in vain, and he was even more angry, and he couldn't afford to get sick and was hospitalized.
Paper can't contain fire, and if you do something unseemly, you have to expect that sooner or later someone will find out. If you want not to be discovered, it is difficult to do such a thing with a crooked mind. Sooner or later, secrets must be open to the public, and it is better to be honest.
Cheating is actually irresponsible to a family, generally a family has one person cheating, then the impact on the family is huge. Cheating in the case of having children, then it will inevitably have an indelible impact on the children, which will affect the shaping of children's values.
And if the cheating is discovered, it means that the family will be broken, will be torn apart, and will face divorce, and an incomplete family will also have a lot of negative effects on the growth of the next generation. So don't choose to betray your other half, for yourself, for your family, and for your children.