My name is Zhang Xiaomei, I am 32 years old, and I am a worker in a small factory in Yiwu. My husband Wang Baoshan and I were high school classmates, and we registered our marriage after graduation. After I got married, I quit my job and concentrated on my husband and children. Baoshan sells in a building materials market, with a low income and poor living. In order to take care of the old couple, I worked in the local area for a few years before moving to my hometown in Baoshan.
The in-laws are both retired at home, and there is Baoshan's younger brother Wang Dalong at home. Dalong is 7 years older than us, and he is a typical young man who does not learn and has no skills, and spends his days in Internet cafes. I have a lot of complaints about him, but for the sake of family harmony, I can only swallow my anger.
Xiaomei, can you please send Xiaobao to kindergarten tomorrow, the time I have to go to work is a bit different from the time I leave kindergarten. "One day, Dalong suddenly asked me to pick up his son.
I was immediately angry after hearing this, she had done so much for this family, but she didn't get the slightest understanding. I took a deep breath and said as calmly as possible: "Dalong, I'm also at work, the time is really not coordinated, you can drive to pick up the children, just take the old couple to the vegetable market by the way." ”
Can my broken car sit on an old man and an old lady?Okay, just this time, I've been so tight lately that I can't afford to pay for the car. Dalong replied confidently.
I was angry and thought of my in-laws' physical inconvenience, so I agreed after thinking about it: "Just this time, you can arrange your own time to pick up the child in the future!."”
However, to my annoyance, similar things happened again and again. Dalong began to take it for granted that all the work of picking up and dropping off the children was on me, and my suggestions and reminders were never taken seriously by him.
I couldn't bear it anymore, and I was angry at him as soon as I heard the gun: "Wang Dalong, do you treat me as a free driver?"I'm also tired when I come home from work, why do you tell me to run here and there!"I'm such a big person, and I still need a younger brother of you to arrange the schedule, can't I?”
I was outraged by Baoshan's words, yes, family members should take care of each other and support each other. But that doesn't mean I should be a free labor and resource for them!
Justified?That Wang Dalong eats and waits for death all day long, has the family ever contributed a penny?I worked hard in the factory to make money, and I had to endure your brother's fingers, this is what you call 'natural'?I couldn't suppress the anger in my heart, and threw out all the words that I had been holding back for a long time.
Odd jobs?He stayed up all night in the Internet café last night until dawn, didn't I see him?Ask yourself who is paying for the internet bills!I sneered and turned to leave.
You!Baoshan's face turned blue with anger, and he grabbed my arm: "Just for this little thing, you even treat my own brother like this, and the relationship between our husband and wife is so fragile?"”
I shook off his hand, my eyes were cold: "Just ask, what did I get in return for what I gave to your family?"Do I have any other place in your heart than being a cow and a horse?This is the feeling in your mouth?”
The little things?In your heart, your brother and I are heaven and earth!I coldly packed up my baggage: "You are sober and sober, I will go back to my parents' house for a few days." ”
Zhang Xiaomei!Baoshan roared angrily. But I slammed the door without looking back.
I directly found someone to change the door lock and cut off contact with Baoshan. At this time, thanks to my mother's foresight, my deposit account was separated, otherwise I don't know how many years of hard work I earned would be gone.
I almost laughed angrily: "Wang Dalong, are you threatening me?".What do I have to do with your brother's severance?Rely on me?You have an aunt like me, you don't know how blessed you are, expect me to raise you for a lifetime?”
You!"Dalong seems to be irritated by me, and he quickly hangs up without saying a few swear words. A burst of relief welled up in my heart, and I secretly rejoiced that now they should know that I, Zhang Xiaomei, am not easy to bully!
Who knew that half an hour later, Baoshan called**, and he was furious: "Zhang Xiaomei, what did you make my brother angry about?."What he said was the truth, you are shameless, but it is not your turn to scold people to the point of delirium!We will solve the matter between us by ourselves, he is bent on thinking that there is no silver at home, but you treat him like this, do you still have a little humanity?!”
I sneered, "Humanity?".I will give you these words as they are. Wang Baoshan, for the sake of feelings, let's get together and disperse, I will contact the lawyer. After saying that, I simply pressed the hang-up button neatly.
I thought that with such a tense relationship with Wang Baoshan, divorce would only be a matter of time. However, to my surprise, a few days later, Baoshan suddenly took the initiative to come to the door, and his attitude was unprecedentedly low.
I looked coldly at the man I had been with for many years, silently waiting for his next explanation.
Seeing his sincere appearance, my heart softened, and I asked coldly: "What are you going to do with Wang Dalong's rent, water and electricity?"Do you want to give me an explanation of my labor?”
I don't agree to sell the house, but it's the car, if you give me the car key, I will sell it for 300,000 yuan. I blurted out.
If Baoshan was amnesty, he hurriedly handed over the car keys with both hands. I looked at his earnest look and was suddenly relieved. I waved my hand: "Okay, don't mention this later, I'll give us another chance." ”
Baoshan hugged me excitedly and circled around like a child who got what he wanted. I know that even if there will be a lot of unsatisfactory things in life, this relationship is so strong that no wind can blow down.
This incident made me understand that the most precious thing about feelings is not the happiness on the surface, but the mutual tolerance and understanding of two hearts. I will never lose my temper or resent others over trivial things again. Because just as I tolerated the various mistakes of Baoshan and Dalong, Baoshan also understood and accepted my truest side at a critical moment.
This incident is like a timely rain, which washes away the ambiguity between our husband and wife, and allows the two to get to know each other anew and understand each other.
In fact, I also began to reflect on whether I was too sensitive and complaining in the face of the pressures of life. We are all ordinary people, and there is too much helplessness. I shouldn't take my anger out on my family.
Gradually, I also developed a trace of pity for the dragon. No one is perfect, and his state of existence must be extremely painful in his heart. I began to learn to take the initiative to chat with him and persuade him to open up more and reflect more.
One day at noon, I went to the store downstairs to buy groceries as usual. As soon as he pushed the door open, he saw Dalong with his son, settling accounts with the boss with a sad face.
Isn't 3 dollars just 3 dollars, is it necessary to make it the same as some big thing?I stepped forward, smiled and took out a $5 slip from my pocket and handed it to the boss. The boss took it in surprise and walked over to the other customers with muttering change.
I motioned to him not to be polite: "Family, just help each other." How did you pick up Xiaobao today?”
I got a new job, and I was more stable, so I thought I'd try to do it myself. The dragon scratched his head a little embarrassed.
Congratulations!"I'm really happy for him.
We exchanged a few more pleasantries and gradually began to chat. It's like going back to the days when the family was reunited. At the end of the conversation, I watched their backs go away, and suddenly I felt the urge to cry. It turns out that a soft and understanding heart can resolve many estrangements and misunderstandings.
I was glad that I didn't walk away, but had the courage to forgive and start over. Life goes on, and we're all slowly getting better. Isn't that happiness?
In the blink of an eye, it was the weekend again, and I went to the vegetable market as usual to shop. As soon as I chose a basket of vegetables, I saw Dalong running in a hurry, and his face was a little ugly.
I nodded understandingly: "You can rest assured to get busy, I'll be happy to." Then he turned around and went to the counter to settle the bill.
Because I know that no one is perfect, and family is used to support each other. Tolerance can remove all obstacles, and we are all transforming into a better version of ourselves. This peace and warmth is the most precious thing in life.
In the blink of an eye, we sat around the dining table for a reunion dinner. The atmosphere is harmonious and warm, just like when I ran away from home.
Dalong finally has his own career, and he is becoming more and more mature and stable. Baoshan also learned to be considerate of my hard work and often took the initiative to share the housework. We are all constantly making progress and growing under the baptism of life.
I watched them talk and laugh happily, and I couldn't help but think of the unsatisfactory things in the past. Those are all in vain, and we are all participants and moderators of life.
There is no perfect time in life, but having people who treat each other sincerely is the greatest happiness. I am sincerely grateful for everything in front of me, this simple and sincere daily life is the treasure I want to protect the most.
Spring goes to autumn, and in the blink of an eye, it is the harvest season again.
We've changed a lot in the past few years, and I'm very happy.
Dalong's company is getting bigger and bigger, and has begun to invest in real estate in the town. Baoshan passed the exam and now works as a small clerk in the town office. I simply quit my manual job and opened a small store at the entrance of the village, and the business was booming.
What makes me even happier is that my relationship with Baoshan is becoming stronger and stronger, and we have a heart-to-heart connection. We would go out on dates on a regular basis, and it would be as sweet as a little girl falling in love with a little boy.
Life is like this, the past is gone, and new hope is blooming before our eyes. I often think of that "sale" many years ago, which now seems so naïve and ridiculous.
In fact, feelings do not need to be used to calculate gains and losses, and family members should not hurt each other. I finally understood this truth.
When people are alive, they will continue to walk into the fog;But with someone by your side, the fog is no longer scary. Baoshan and Dalong are the eternal signposts in my life.
I remember when I was a child, I used to ask my mother: what is happiness? Now I finally have the answer: having a calm sky and a warm lamp is the greatest happiness in my life.
There are times when stories come to an end, but the river of life is still flowing. I often think about the stormy road I've traveled in the dead of night.
I'm always glad that I chose to turn back without hesitation. In the rapids and against the waves, we clinged to each other and finally came to the other side. That's the meaning of life.
In fact, there is no absolute right or wrong in life, only patience and tolerance can push away all the wrong paths. We all have strengths and weaknesses. Let go of your body and learn to be considerate of each other, and life will fade away and regain its true nature.
Over the years, I've slowly learned to stop thinking about other people's faults. In fact, I will also be tired and annoyed, and I will have all kinds of shortcomings. We are all ordinary and small survivors. Only by giving up prejudice and running-in gaps can we feel happy and fulfilled.
There is no perfect person in this world, but if you have sincerity, you can spend the ups and downs of this life together. Tolerance is the greatest wisdom, and gratitude is the only way to achieve happiness. To give, to dedicate, life can shine and heat.
People are always travelers on the road. We are all still growing, and we are all in the long river of pain and hope. I finally understood that to live is to watch over others and my own soul in the wind and rain. That's what life is all about.
I thought of my mother again.
Mother's love is so selfless and broad, even if she suffers hardships, she must protect the soft corner of her heart. And the reason why life is sacred and beautiful is precisely because this selfless love will always exist in the world.
I always remember the famous saying: The world is beautiful because of my mother, and warm because of my mother. Indeed, because of the indefatigability of every mother, the world will be full of the light of human nature. Even though they are just ordinary working women, they are still building bridges between people with their hands.
When I grow up, I must give love to the world like my mother. "When I was a kid, I used to swear to myself. Now, I am also using my own way to protect and share the suffering of others.
Indeed, every soul is going through the grinding of the cycle of cause and effect. If we harm others and ourselves, we will only hurt ourselves in the endAnd to be tolerant and kind is to bless the whole world. This is the true meaning of "good and evil will be rewarded in the end, and only strive for early and late".
If it comes, it will be safe. What fate gives us is always the best arrangement. Even if you have experienced confusion and war, in the end, you will regain your heart in the mirror image of time.
We are all going through the cycle of birth, old age, sickness and death. No matter how delicately decorated, after all, it is just a circle on this square inch of land. There is no need to complain about injustice, what is meant to happen will always happen;There is no need to try to control it, just let it be, swaying when the wind and rain come, and reappear bright after the wind and rain are gone.
The change of light and shade, the change of the four seasons, this is the way of heaven. There is no eternal gain and no eternal loss of the eternal law of the universe. We will eventually find peace in the long river, because the retribution is unpleasant, and everything will return to zero.
To live is to experience one's kindness and generosity. In the face of suffering, more tenderness is needed;In the face of darkness, a brighter heart lamp is needed. When I understand this, I understand the truth of life. The years are quiet, aren't they?Let's love together, and wait for the light and darkness of this world!