In the long river of life, the parent-child relationship is the most special relationship. It is connected by blood, but it goes beyond simple blood ties. For many families, the parent-child relationship is the focus of life and emotional sustenance.
However, in our lives, we often hear words like this: "I have given so much for you, you must get ahead", "I raised you, you should repay me". In these words, there is a kind of "indebted" mentality.
So, what is the best parent-child relationship?
In "The Best Parenting Is Not Anxiety", he wrote: "The best parent-child relationship is not to owe each other. ”First, we need to understand that love is selfless, but it is also conditional. A parent's love for their children is innate and instinctive. They are willing to give everything, even their lives, for their children. However, this dedication is not one-way, but is based on love and care for the children. Children also feel the love of their parents and gradually reciprocate this love as they grow up. This reward is not material, but emotional. When children feel the love and care of their parents, they will also cherish their parents' presence more, and respect and care for their parents more.
Secondly, a parent-child relationship that does not owe anything to each other can help build a healthy family atmosphere. In a family, if parents always emphasize their dedication and sacrifice to their children, children will feel indebted and guilty. This mindset can lead to stress and insecurity in the face of parents. On the contrary, if parents and children can establish a relationship that does not indebted each other, children will be able to express their emotions and thoughts more freely, and the family atmosphere will be more harmonious and natural.
Finally, a parent-child relationship that does not owe anything to each other helps to foster independence and autonomy in children. In a relationship of mutual non-indebtedness, parents do not interfere unduly in their children's choices and decisions, but respect their children's wishes and decisions. This respect and trust helps to develop children's self-confidence and independence, making them more independent and self-reliant in their future lives.
It's not easy to build such a relationship. It requires effort and understanding on both sides. Parents need to let go of excessive expectations and demands, and truly understand and respect their children's wishes and choicesChildren also need to learn to be grateful and reciprocate, and cherish their parents' dedication and care. Only in this way can we establish a truly healthy and harmonious parent-child relationship.