"Standing on the opposite side of the child, you can only see the child making mistakes and disobedience;Standing on the same side of the child, you will see his fragility and struggle. —The best parenting is not anxiety".We live in a fast-paced, high-stress society, and we are often busy and tired and neglect the group around us that needs our understanding and care most – our children. Children are the hope of the future and the foundation of society, and their growth and education are crucial.
However, many times, the way we treat our children can make them feel isolated and helpless. So, how can we better understand and care for our children?
First of all, we must understand that standing on the opposite side of the child, we can only see the wrong and disobedient side of the child. When we show an excessively harsh, demanding side in front of our children, children will hide their true selves for fear of punishment and show rebellious and disobedient behavior. This is not only detrimental to the child's development, but also destroys the parent-child relationship.
Standing on the same side of the child allows us to see their vulnerability and struggle. Every child has their own growth process and confusion, and they need our support and guidance. When we give encouragement and help when children encounter difficulties, when we give guidance and correction when children make mistakes, and when we listen patiently and understand when children need to talk, children will feel our care and support, so that they can grow and develop better.
So, how can you stand on the same side of your child?
Put yourself down and communicate with your child on an equal footing. Respect your child's opinions and feelings, listen to their ideas and needs, and make them feel valued and understood.
Pay attention to your child's emotional needs. Children also have their own emotional world, and they need to be cared for, loved, and understood. We need to pay attention to children's emotional changes and give them love and support.
Guide children to face difficulties and challenges positively. When children encounter difficulties, we encourage them to face them bravely and help them find solutions to their problems.
Every child is a unique individual with their own personality and needs. As parents and educators, we need to take care to understand each child's characteristics and needs, and give them appropriate attention and support. Only in this way can we truly stand on the same side of our children and grow and progress with them.