Everyone wants to be happy, and everyone is looking for happiness.
However, happiness is like drinking water, knowing oneself of warmth and coldness, it is not in the eyes of others, nor in your ears, but in your heart.
So, how can adults manage their lives and reap happiness?
Be less anxious and accept reality
Xiao Li is a liberal arts student who graduated from an ordinary bachelor's degree and works as a copywriter in a company. At first, she worked hard and was affirmed by her boss.
But with the rise of self-**** in recent years, many people similar to her have gone to self-**** and made a lot of money by opening a writing training camp, and she is also itching.
But she was reluctant to work close to home and flexible at work, so she could only write articles in her spare time. Because of the inaccurate positioning, there was no traffic for half a year, so I gave up completely.
Later, I saw a bunch of advertisements on the Internet to write online articles and **, which sounded very easy, and she was eager to try it again, signed up for the trial class, and felt that it was easy to get started, but when she needed to spend a lot of money to buy a system course, she retreated.
Just go around and around, look at this, try that, taste everything, get nothing, and people become more and more anxious.
The anxiety even affected her work, and she became more and more impetuous, until her boss came to beat her up, and it dawned on her.
She can't pick up sesame seeds and lose watermelon, since ** is red, but unfortunately she does not have that ability for the time being, and she is not willing to spend a lot of money on systematic Xi, then she should accept the reality and do her job in a down-to-earth manner.
After thinking about it, she was no longer anxious and put more effort into her work. Because several manuscripts written at the end of the year were affirmed by the big leaders, she was promoted and raised.
If adults want to reap happiness, they must be clear about what is most important to them, what they can do, instead of blindly dreaming, being ambitious, and thinking about unattainable goals all day long.
Accepting reality, what is used, what will be done, is the happiest choice.
2.Worry less and be grateful for the moment
A child is playing in the yard with a big, red apple in his hand. Among the bags of apples that my mother bought, this one looked the most beautiful, and the child was reluctant to eat it right away, so he kept it in his hand.
The child was in his triumph when he suddenly saw a woman leading her child through the yard, and the child was holding an apple in her hand, which was redder and bigger than the one in his hand.
The child immediately felt unhappy, threw away the apple in his hand and said to his mother, "Buy me a bigger, redder apple!".”
Mom said, "What if you see a bigger one?"Buy another one?”
Many unsatisfactory things in life come from comparing yourself with others. Blind comparisons can cause serious psychological imbalances.
Mature adults should do: don't envy people, don't laugh at people.
Why do you have to stare at something in someone else's hand?
Other people's things may not be suitable for you, everyone has their own personality characteristics, what is suitable for others is not necessarily suitable for you, you can't look at other people's glamour, and feel that other people's things are also suitable for you.
Besides, you may not have the ability to get other people's things, but you don't have the ability to keep care, and you can only be miserable and sad.
If adults want to reap happiness, they must know how to regulate themselves, don't ask for hardships, and compare what they lack with what others have.
It's better to think less, try to feel the things that you have and make you happy, and don't always pay attention to what others are doing.
3.Be less greedy and be content
In a person's life, there will always be a variety of desires, and these desires drive us to constantly pursue more material things and interests.
If we are too greedy and pursue too many material things and interests, we will often lose our original joy and happiness.
Being less greedy does not mean that we should give up the pursuit of a better life, but that we should be able to do soFace your desires rationally and don't be controlled by them.
Many things in life have intrinsic value, but not all of them are worth pursuing with all our might.
For example, some people devote themselves to earning money when they are young, but neglect their families, and when they want their family to love them when they are old, they find that their family members have become estranged from them, and they have become lonely and regretful.
When people reach middle age, cars, houses, children, and parents, all of which are like a big mountain, pressing on us, the more deliberately we pursue perfection, the more bitter it is.
Don't always think about asking for too many things, satisfying the needs is just right, all the excess things will become a burden on your shoulders, and in the end you can't throw it away, but delay the trip.
If adults want to reap happiness, they must know how to control their desires, rather than being led by their noses.
Learn to make trade-offs, be clear about what you really want, and then reasonably arrange your time and energy to pursue it, so as to better control your life and control your life.
4.Write at the end
Happiness, in fact, is very simple, happiness exists in our lives.
Maybe it's a delicious meal, maybe it's a loving greeting, maybe it's a child's innocent smile ......
As long as we are willing to let go, less anxious, less calculating, and less greedy, the breeze of happiness will blow slowly.
May you and I embrace happiness.
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