Like is "sending you home", ambiguous is ......
Many people often confuse liking and ambiguity.
It's easy to mistake the ambiguous moment for a liking;
Indeed, when ambiguity comes to an end, people will lose their minds.
Like is a kind of responsibility, the other party likes you and will tell you:
Let's go, I'll send you home".
And what about the object of ambiguity?
Deliberately choose a very late time to ask you to watch a movie, and then take the opportunity to ask you to have a supper, preferably a glass of wine;
The environment is there, the mood is there, and the atmosphere is here;
Then he whispers in your ear:
Tonight, are you still going home?”
The people above are easy to be pinched by this sentence.
Emotions are out of control, reason disappears, and they turn around and throw themselves into the arms of the other party.
It's like a fish that fights to bite the bait full of dangers.
Like is listening, ambiguity is performance
The other party likes you:
They will take the initiative to share with you, but more often than not, they will interact with you.
Bring up the topic and guide you to the conversation;
Quietly listen to your complaints, listen to your complaints, listen to your happy or irritated sharing everything.
What did you eat?”
Seeing you so happy, isn't there something interesting happening today?”
The other party is ambiguous with you:
I'm xx today, I just ate xx and I'm going to do xxx".
The topic and focus of the chat are all focused on themselves;
In addition to "ambiguous topics", he is more concerned about himself.
The emotional value you want, being understood, being comforted, and the object of ambiguity can't be given to you.
Like is responsibility, ambiguity is "sleeping with you".
The other party likes you:
He wants to do a lot with you, but he can do it later;
He wants to fit into your life faster, but will respect your pace;
He wants to establish a relationship with you and develop a long-term relationship
From falling in love to getting married, it is his expectation.
People who like you, do everything with your feelings in mind;
It is responsibility, companionship, and empathy.
And the person who is ambiguous with you:
In front of you, pretend to be a couple;
In front of outsiders, I am friends with you.
In front of you, he exposes a strong physiological need;
Just say to you bluntly: "I want to sleep - you".
I have done everything with you as a lover, but I will not give you a definite name.
Like is action, ambiguity is the pie
When you get along with people who like you, you will feel that they are a little "stupid".
It's straightforward, not romantic enough, and even a little wooden.
He really buys meals to take care of you when you get sick;
Whatever you want, he will try to satisfy you;
His preferences and needs are always in his mind.
He doesn't say too many sweet words, but he makes you feel real happiness and satisfaction.
People who are ambiguous with you will only "tease" you.
When you are sick, he will only say, "I'm so distressed, drink more hot water." ”
But he won't give anything.
You're not happy, he'll say:
I'm also uncomfortable to see you upset", but that's about it.
Like is the unobtrusive giving, but the ambiguity is the "desire" hanging on the face.
The former is respect, convergence, and proportion;
The latter is trespassing, selfishness, and demanding.
Ambiguous and like, just like this scene in martial arts:
The ambiguity is:
I like swordsmanship today, I like swordsmanship tomorrow, and I want to practice Xi boxing the day after tomorrow
Interested in everything, unwilling to spend time on everything.
Like is:
From the beginning to the end, ten years are like a day to hone a move and a style, engraved in the bones, and form muscle memory.
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