Most people feel that the most painful thing in old age is physical weakness or loneliness. The reality is that for many parents, the greatest pain is not so much, but their children's behaviour and attitudes towards them. Specifically, there are 5 things that your parents will feel very sad about if you do them.
1. Apathy. Many people use busyness as an excuse to ignore the presence of their parents. They prioritize work, social activities, and recreation, while parents become very secondary in their lives. This indifferent attitude is like cutting the hearts of parents with a cold blade, making them feel deeply sad and helpless.
2. Lack of respect. Everyone has their own lifestyle and perspective, and parents are no exception. However, some people always try to change their parents and force them to accept their own philosophy and lifestyle. This kind of behavior is actually disrespectful to their parents, as if it deprives them of their human dignity and makes them feel extremely disappointed and sad.
3. Ignore their needs. As people age, they become physically and mentally weakened and need more care and attention. However, some people turn a blind eye to the needs of their parents and only covet their own little pleasures, which is tantamount to exposing their parents to the wind and frost in the cold winter, allowing them to experience deep helplessness and loneliness.
4. Over-dependence. Some people always see their parents as handlers of things and seek their help for any difficulties they encounter. This excessive dependence makes parents feel stressed, as if they are under the weight of a mountain, and they feel extremely tired.
5. Blame and complain. Everyone can make mistakes, and so can parents. However, some people are always constantly blaming and blaming their parents, and this behavior is like a sharp knife that leaves a deep scar on their heart.
Thinking of this, I can't help but think of the classic saying: "Parents are here, don't travel far". The implication of this statement is that when our parents are still alive, we should accompany them as much as possible, rather than pursuing a life of self-satisfaction. Therefore, each of us should look inward to see if we have done this, if we are indifferent to our parents, if we respect them, if we care about their needs, if we are overly dependent on them, and if we blame and blame them all the time.
We need to return to the original love and give our parents the care and respect they deserve, so that they can reduce their sorrow and let them get real comfort and happiness. We should remember that they grew up with us, took care of us**, and now, it is time for us to give back to them and make them feel warm and loved.
Parents play a vital role in the arena of life. With their blood, sweat and tears, they have made us what we are today. However, when they are old and frail and need our love and attention, can we give them the necessary care and affection as they have done for us?Let's answer this question with actions and brighten up their later years with our care and love.