There is a famous saying in the Analects: "Thirty and stand, forty and not confused, fifty and know the destiny of heaven, sixty and the ear is obedient, seventy and do what the heart wants without exceeding the rules." This quote tells us how we should live a happy and comfortable life after the age of seventy.
We explain from three aspects to help readers achieve a happy life after the age of 70.
Part 1: Remorse for the inhuman encounters in this life.
When we reach the age of 70, will we feel regret and dissatisfaction with our past lives?
In fact, many people will blame the other half for the suffering they have brought to themselves, but we should realize that happiness does not depend entirely on the other person, but on our own mentality and management. Therefore, we should let go of resentment, cherish the happiness in front of us, and work with our partner to create a better old age.
There was an old man named John, who, at the age of seventy, felt that his marriage was not satisfactory and complained all day that his wife was inconsiderate and did not care about him. He thinks that his happiness has been ruined by his wife. However, when he experienced a heart attack, he began to reflect on his thoughts.
John spent a few weeks in the hospital, where he met a young patient, Tom. Tom told John his story that his wife had died at the age of fifty and that he had been feeling guilty and sad.
Tom said, "John, you still have a happy wife by your side, and you should cherish her." Happiness is not in what the other person gives us, but in how we perceive and manage our marriage. ”
John was deeply touched by Tom's words. He began to re-examine his marriage, and he found that the problem he had been complaining about was not his wife's fault, but that he himself did not look at and manage the relationship with the right mindset. Since then, John has decided to let go of his past grudges and cherish the happiness in front of him.
Mark Twain once said, "Happiness is not due to having many things, but to cherishing all that we have." "After the age of seventy, we should learn to cherish the happiness in front of us and create a beautiful old age with our partner.
Don't put all the blame on the other person, but look at your own mindset and behavior.
Part 2: Let go of control over your children.
The relationship between parents and children is a special bond, but as our children grow, we should let go and give them autonomy at the right time. No matter how much we worry and care, they are independent individuals with their own lives and decision-making powers.
After the age of 70, we should learn to respect our children's choices and decisions, give them space and support, and maintain a good parent-child relationship with them.
There is a couple over 70 years old, their names are Li Hua and Wang Ming. Li Hua and Wang Ming love their only child Xiao Ming very much, and have always regarded him as the pearl of their palms.
However, as Xiao Ming grows up, he gradually shows his independent side. He has his own dreams and pursuits, but his parents always interfere excessively in his life and decisions. Whenever Xiao Ming put forward his opinions and choices, his parents were always dissatisfied and tried to change his decision.
This interference provokes conflicts and quarrels within the family. Xiao Ming felt that he was not respected and understood, while his parents thought that he was out of care and love. The family atmosphere has become tense and the parent-child relationship is in jeopardy.
However, by chance, Li Hua and Wang Ming met a wise man. The wise man told them that as parents, they should let go at the right time and give their children autonomy. Children have the right to make decisions about their own lives, not to be at the mercy of their parents forever.
Li Hua and Wang Ming began to reflect on their behavior and decided to change. They communicated openly with Xiao Ming and expressed their trust and support for him. They encourage him to pursue his dreams and give him independent space and decision-making power. They learn to respect their children's choices and decisions and maintain a good parent-child relationship with them.
As time passed, Xiao Ming gradually showed his talent and ability. He was successful in his career and lived the life he wanted. He is grateful for the support and understanding of his parents, and his relationship with them has become closer.
This story teaches us that as parents, we should let go at the right time and give our children autonomy. Children have their own lives and decision-making powers, and we cannot always interfere and control their choices.
Instead, we should respect their opinions and decisions and give them independence and support.
Part 3: Rational approach to the pursuit of wealth.
It is human nature to seek wealth, but we need to recognize the reality and avoid unrealistic illusions. As we turn 70, our lives have been largely set, and excessive pursuit of wealth may bring more distress and anxiety.
On the contrary, we should cherish the wealth we already have, live a down-to-earth life, and enjoy spiritual abundance. Wealth is not the only happiness**, we can find more fun and satisfaction by cultivating hobbies, socializing with relatives and friends, etc.
It is human nature to seek wealth, but we need to recognize the reality and avoid unrealistic illusions. As we turn 70, our lives have been largely set, and excessive pursuit of wealth may bring more distress and anxiety.
On the contrary, we should cherish the wealth we already have, live a down-to-earth life, and enjoy spiritual abundance. Wealth is not the only happiness**, we can find more fun and satisfaction by cultivating hobbies, socializing with relatives and friends, etc. Added historical plots.
Let's go back in time and look at a story of wealth and happiness. In ancient times, there was a wise man named Song Yu, who was a very wealthy man with countless fortunes and estates. However, despite his great wealth, he felt empty and unsatisfied.
One day, Song Yu met a wise man who told him: "Wealth is not the only happiness**, it is only a part of life." True happiness comes from inner fulfillment and spiritual abundance. These words deeply touched Song Yu's heart.
Since then, Song Yu has begun to reflect on her life pursuits. He shifted his focus from the pursuit of wealth to hobbies and socializing with family and friends. He learned to appreciate the beauty of nature and immerse himself in the world of ** and literature. He shared joys and difficulties with family and friends, and built deep relationships.
Gradually, Song Yu found that his heart was satisfied. He realized that wealth, while important, did not lead to true happiness. Happiness is a state of mind that is achieved through relationships with others and the cultivation of hobbies.
This tells us that it is human nature to seek wealth, but we need to recognize reality and avoid unrealistic illusions. As we turn 70, our lives have been largely set, and excessive pursuit of wealth may bring more distress and anxiety.
On the contrary, we should cherish the wealth we already have, live a down-to-earth life, and enjoy spiritual abundance.
By cultivating hobbies, we can find more fun and satisfaction. Participating in social events, traveling, learning new Xi skills, etc., can broaden our horizons and enrich our lives. Socializing with relatives and friends, sharing joys and difficulties, and building deep interpersonal relationships are also important ways to achieve happiness.
After the age of seventy, we should approach life with a peaceful mind and cherish the happiness and affection in front of us. Remorseful past experiences will only lead us to misery, while letting go of our control over our children and unrealistic pursuit of wealth will bring us more freedom and fulfillment.
In short, let's live a happy and comfortable life after the age of seventy with tolerance, rationality, and gratitude.