Many people find a very good reason for not being filial to their parents: their parents are partial. Girls in the female village, in particular, think that their parents are partial. A friend of mine explained this phenomenon. In the rural areas of Henan, girls are generally not given property, and some families marry their daughters for tens of thousands of yuan, and the property is generally owned by their sons. The reasons for this phenomenon are:
First: The boy has no car, no house, and most of them can't find a partner. Girls are different, and girls can marry without anything. This is the main reason.
Second: The girl's mother's family has no property, but the mother-in-law's family has property (because the mother-in-law's property does not give them to their daughter). Looking at it this way, is it balanced in my heart, or I don't give it to my daughter. Girls marry into their in-laws' families as daughters-in-law and have property.
Third, there is still a traditional idea of preference for sons over daughters in rural areas. It's not good, but it's slowly changing, and girls are also going to college and graduate school.
Due to the different economic conditions in different time periods, it is inevitable that different children will be treated differently. For example: in the past, when the conditions were poor, the boss had to suffer a loss, but later when the conditions were good, the old and the young had to get some light. Another child has obedient and disobedient, it is impossible to be completely equal, there is no difference at all.
Our parents raised us, and there is no excuse not to support them. The best thing to do is to sit down with your children and discuss how your parents will provide for their old age. For example, the sharing of daily living expenses and expenses in case of illness. In that area of our hometown, girls are not responsible for their parents' living expenses and sick expenses.
Take as much as you want. When parents are unable to take care of themselves, daughters also have to take turns serving their parents. I think it's good to have a clear sense of responsibility to prevent rip-offs.
In short, it is not easy for our parents to give birth to us, but the brothers and sisters still negotiate amicably, formulate a rule, everyone acts according to the rules, transparency, and no one suffers, so it is easy to implement. Another one, they are all generous, there are no cheap outsiders who suffer losses, and the meat is rotten in the pot. The ancients said that everyone has everyone's filial piety, and it is more than filial piety rather than all kinds of complaints. May the parents who gave birth to us and raised us have a peaceful old age.