With the change in the family structure in China, only children have become the norm. In such a family, grandma and grandma play an important role, they are ours"Generational relatives"。However, the peculiarity of this kinship has also sparked a debate about whether the child is closer to the grandmother or the grandmotherThis issue is very controversial, and for the mother, she tends to want the child to be closer to the grandmother;And Bao's father wants his children to be closer to his grandmother. Of course, much of this debate is influenced by traditional perceptions and the distribution of family roles.
In real life, many families choose to have grandma take care of their children because they have more time and experience. In addition, there is a direct blood relationship between the grandmother and the child, so such a relationship is more intimate. Gradually, the children developed a deep bond with their grandmother. Nowadays, however, the role of grandmothers in raising children is also becoming more and more important. In order to avoid conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, most mothers choose to let their mothers take care of their children. As a result, the grandmother took on more responsibilities and time, and the relationship between the child and the grandmother gradually deepened.
Of course, you can't judge who a child is closer to simply by their appearance. Who a child is closer to is influenced by a variety of factors, including life environment and genetics. Whether it is the grandmother or the grandmother who goes home to accompany the baby, although this will affect the child's closeness to them, it is ultimately the child's own choice. We can't ** children's preferences and feelings, their choices are more based on their own emotions and experiences.
In people's daily lives, disputes between grandma and grandma are actually very common. There are always some bumps and conflicts between relatives in the family, whether it is because of living habits or with children, and quarrels between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law seem to be inevitable. A typical example is when a child's grandfather and grandmother choose to take turns taking care of the child with the grandfather and grandmother, the relationship between the grandma and the grandmother can become very strained. Grandma and grandma are likely to be eager to be liked and recognized by their children, hoping to get more "pro" signs. Especially when the child shows signs of being closer to the grandmother, it can be a sense of loss and heartache for the grandmother, who should be closer to the child in her own blood.
However, it's not just grandmothers who tend to compete for their children's intimacy. Many grandmothers are also willing to love their grandchildren as if they were their own daughters, and rarely interfere with their daughters' right to educate their children. Therefore, we cannot conclude solely from the fact that children seem to be closer to their grandmothers. In fact, this view is only based on our stereotypes of family relationships and does not correspond to the reality of diversity.
An agency once conducted a survey on the closeness of children and different loved ones, and the results may come as a surprise to many people. According to the survey results, the ranking of the intimacy of children and different relatives is: grandma, grandma, grandpa. Why is this happening?
First of all, changes in the structure of the modern family have led to greater involvement of grandmothers in raising children. In order to avoid conflicts in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, most mothers prefer to let their mothers take care of their children. Since grandma spends more time with her children, she has a closer relationship with them. In addition, the mother herself has a closer relationship with her mother, which also has an impact on the relationship between the child and the grandmother. Therefore, the mother's thoughts will greatly affect the relationship between the child and the grandmother.
However, from a grandmother's point of view, they should care more about their children than their daughters-in-law. Many grandmothers more or less compete with their daughters-in-law for the right to educate their children, which makes it difficult for mothers to accept. In contrast, most grandmothers are more likely to favor their daughters, so their children will receive more love. In short, a child's intimacy with his or her grandmother is affected by a variety of factors, including genetic factors, lifestyle habits, etc. Arguing about who is closer to the child is boring and pointless, because the child will make choices based on his emotions and experiences. The most important thing is for family members to understand and respect each other, and work together to create a harmonious environment for the child's development.