"Time has passed, and I have entered the threshold of 27 years old. If we continue to delay like this, I am afraid that it will become more and more difficult to have a child. "I said to myself silently.
When I think about this, my heart is filled with anxiety. My friends are already living in a stable way, and some even have children of their own. And I'm still single, and my love life is blank.
I can't help but wonder, could I be alone alone?Will you regret missing out on the best age to have children?"Oops, I've got to get moving. I'm not the little girl who was slow to respond to emotions anymore.
I have to be more proactive so I can meet my significant other who is right for me. ”
I began to seriously reflect on why my past relationships always ended in failure. After much deliberation, I realized that the crux of the problem lay with me. I am introverted and not good at taking the initiative to express myself.
Sometimes they are too persistent and selfish and do not fully consider the feelings of the other person. This time, I had to change myself and not repeat the mistakes of the past. I firmly believe that as long as I take the initiative, I will definitely find a partner who is really suitable for me.
I started to use some dating apps on my phone, and at the same time, I also got some blind date opportunities through the introduction of friends.
Mr. Lin always arrived on time, and when I saw him push the door in, I immediately got up and shook his hand, smiling warmly. "It's a pleasure to meet you, I'm Xiaofang. "I took the initiative to say hello.
Hello, I'm Mr. Lin, and it's a pleasure to meet you. He smiled at me.
I looked at Mr. Lin and found that he was simple and elegant, giving people a sense of calm and reliability. He gripped the frame tightly, and I noticed that it was fine silver metal.
It seems that he is a detail-oriented person. Once we were seated, I offered to order each other a drink. Mr. Lin excused himself and said that he didn't need me to treat him, and in the end we decided to pay separately.
I ordered a latte and Mr. Lin ordered an Americano. After the waiter left, I first stirred up the topic and asked Mr. Lin what he did. He said he works as an engineer in a state-owned enterprise, mainly in the area of quality inspection.
His tone is full of love and seriousness for his work. I immediately said that this sounds like a very stable career, and the job pay in a state-owned enterprise must be good.
Mr. Lin smiled modestly and said that he was just doing his best.
In order to alleviate the awkward atmosphere, I took the initiative to talk about my work and life. I laughed at myself that I often worked late into the night, but the work went smoothly and my colleagues were very good.
I also revealed that I like to travel and photography, and often organize friends to hang out together. Mr. Lin seemed to be interested in my optimism and cheerfulness, and frequently nodded in agreement.
Just as we were chatting speculatively, my phone suddenly rang, and the screen showed that it was a call from the boss, and it looked like I was in a hurry. I hesitated to pick up **, and then Mr. Lin said thoughtfully: "You take it, work is the most important."
This blind date experience made me understand that there is nothing wrong with pursuing your own happiness. If two people have similar interests, once they are together, there will be endless topics to talk about. Even if something unexpected happens, as long as both parties have a positive attitude, it will not affect the relationship with each other.
I am looking forward to my next date with Mr. Lim and I am sure there will be many more good memories between us.
Two weeks later, Mr. Lin contacted me again and invited me to visit the newly opened museum this weekend. I gladly accepted the invitation. Early Saturday morning, I woke up early and carefully selected a pale blue dress.
This skirt brings out my fair skin without being too eye-catching. Paired with a pair of lambskin flats and a light makeup, I looked in the mirror and nodded with satisfaction.
Miss Zhang agreed to meet on a park bench. When I arrived, I saw that she was already sitting there, wearing a simple white T-shirt and cropped pants, looking fresh and natural. "Miss Zhang, you are also very punctual.
I smiled and said hello. "Actually, I came here ten minutes early. She said a little shyly. We chose a lighthearted comedy movie.
During the movie, the two of us didn't talk much, but occasionally I could feel Miss Zhang's gaze looking at me, and then quickly shifted my gaze. I was secretly happy in my heart, and it seemed that she also had a crush on me.
Mr. Lin invited me to go to the nearby night market after the movie, and I readily agreed. The night market was crowded, and Mr. Lin thoughtfully put me on the side with less, and he stood outside.
There are so many people here that I can't see the road clearly. Be careful that my nearsighted eye doesn't hit you. He laughs.
After getting along with Mr. Lin, I am full of wonderful imagination and expectations for my future life. I began to envision that if our relationship could go further, I would plan the future with him.
On the weekends, we would go out and relax together, go to the cinema, stroll and shop, or go to the market to buy ingredients for a delicious home-cooked meal. Together, we will share the little things in life.
If I encounter something troublesome, I will also accompany Mr. Lin to listen and give him moral support. In my spare time, I encourage Mr. Lam to communicate with his friends and participate in sports and parties together.
I don't limit his social circle, but I hope that he can also experience a rich and diverse life through the circle of friends. If I have a child in the future, I will be a reliable mother to my child, but I will never put all my energy into the family because of this.
I will maintain a work-life balance and strive to be a housekeeper in a happy and harmonious family.
As I look forward to the possibilities of the future, my heart is full of sunshine and expectation. I decided to continue to dedicate myself wholeheartedly to making our relationship deeper and smoother. I am convinced that as long as we work together, we will be able to hold hands to the end and live a simple and happy life.
The picture of the future in my mind makes me feel immensely happy. However, just as Mr. Lin and I were dating frequently and our relationship was heating up, an unexpected thing happened.
On that day, I received a ** from Mr. Lin, who said that there are some things that need to be dealt with in the near future, and we may need to make an appointment another day. I could feel in his tone that he was absent-minded and devoid of his usual enthusiasm.
I immediately asked him what was going on or what I needed help with. However, Mr. Lin only repeatedly emphasized that he has been busy recently, and suggested that we reschedule and make another appointment.
After hanging up, I had a lot of thoughts. During this time, Mr. Lim has been very proactive and enthusiastic about me, and this sudden change has struck me as very unusual. I began to wonder if I had done something to make him feel guilty.
I thought back to my recent behavior, but I couldn't find any obvious problems. Am I just thinking that our relationship is going well?I was deeply troubled and anxious.
Just as I was about to ask Mr. Lin about the truth of the matter, he suddenly sent a text message to break up. He said that after much deliberation, we might not be a good fit, so he wanted to stop dating, but still wanted to be friends.
When I saw this message, tears welled up in my eyes. We're already very close, why did he just propose to break up?I called Mr. Lin back a few times, but he didn't answer.
I was unwilling to break up like this, and finally decided to go to his company to talk to him face-to-face. Mr. Lin obviously didn't expect me to appear out of nowhere, and surprise was written all over his face.
I asked him bluntly, what exactly happened between us, how could you just break up like that?Mr. Lin hesitated for a long time, and finally let out a long sigh.
He said that in fact, he was engaged to be introduced by his parents, and his family kept urging him to get married. He didn't want to lie to me, but he was reluctant to cut off contact with me. Now that the engagement is finalized, it's time for him to make a choice.
When I heard this, I was so disappointed that I turned and walked away, never looking at him again. After breaking up with Mr. Lin, I fell into unprecedented pain and self-blame. I repeatedly wondered if I was too old-fashioned and insisted on monogamous values outdated
If I can also generously accept Mr. Lin's engagement and continue to keep in touch with him, we can still be good friends without breaking our hearts. But I also feel that my insistence on feelings is the right one.
If a person can be ambiguous with two people at the same time, then he will not really cherish any relationship. Mr. Lin's insistence on keeping in touch with me is probably a desire to have a sense of security and happiness, which is a sign of irresponsibility and immaturity.
I started thinking about what the real reason for our breakup was. Maybe there are differences in our values, I am too traditional, and his three views are more open. Or maybe we all need to grow emotionally and learn to better understand and be considerate of each other.
Instead of being angry at people for failed relationships, I should calm down and reflect on myself. After much deliberation, I realized that I also had many shortcomings in my relationship.
I may be too sensitive and clear about the shortcomings of the other side. I should also put myself in the other person's shoes. Relationships require constant grinding and compromise between the two parties, and I can't always hold each other to my own standards.
This relationship experience made me re-examine my life plan. Maybe I shouldn't have been blindly and aggressively married for the sake of fertility pressure. I'm still young, so I can focus more on my career development first.
Only when you are complete as an independent individual can you support each other with your other half. I should not be bound by social ideas, but to find myself and enjoy my independent time as single.
After experiencing the pain, I have become more positive and optimistic. I started reaching out to my friends and attending various parties. I picked up a hobby that I hadn't picked up in a long time and signed up for cooking classes and tours.
There are so many experiences in life waiting for me to explore, and I can't let a relationship delay my growth. I want to strive to become the little Fang who is passionate about life, and continue to live a full and happy life.