Because mothers are also first-time, they also need to practice Xi.
This book is a collection of counseling experience and psychological theories based on the author's introduction to the methods of insight into children and the secrets of communication with children, so as to help children build a healthy mind.
Parents are struggling with how to communicate with their children, trying to understand their children's thoughts without having to say it, not knowing how to respond to their children, or regretting it.
Although mothers always do their best to take care of their children, the reality of parenting overwhelms them.
More than any other relationship, the mother and the child are closer, and the mother plays a decisive role in the child's emotional development. Therefore, the timing of the mother's speech is extremely important.
But even mothers who are eloquent and have excellent communication skills find it difficult to communicate with their children.
In this regard, the author emphasizes that if mothers start to learn Xi and speak again, they must start with child psychology and developmental development.
Rather than talking, understanding your child's heart is a more practical way to communicate.
The phrase "it's all for your good" has become a hurtful word
The TV series "Little Joy" has resonated with countless parents. Song Qian, as Yingzi's mother in the play, left a deep impression on the audience, we don't care whether Yingzi's mother's education method for her daughter is right or wrong, just in terms of the way she speaks to her daughter, she is really not qualified as a child's mother. Yingzi's mother's love for her daughter in her heart is undeniable, but when this "love" comes out of Yingzi's mother's mouth again and again, it seems to have changed its taste.
When the mother begins to grow, the child can grow. Children will not grow into what we want them to be, but they will grow into who we are. Hopefully, children can get praise and encouragement from their elders, not blame;Hopefully, children will be able to laugh and laugh with their peers in a relaxed atmosphere, rather than competing;I hope that every child can be noticed and loved;Words about love and gratitude, recognition and empathy, sincerity and happiness can purify a child's heart.
The meaning of the existence of parents is not to give their children a comfortable and prosperous life, but when you think of your parents, your heart will be full of strength, you will feel warmth, and you will have the courage and ability to overcome difficulties, so as to gain the true joy and freedom of life. 
In the eyes of children, parents are always perfectEveryone has their own life rules, which determine people's values, thoughts, and actions. For example, Buddhists take the word of God as their guideline of life, while Buddhists use the words of the Buddha as their guideline. The same goes for people who are not religious, because at least everyone will follow the laws and order of the society to which they belong. So what is the child's life principle?In fact, the highest life criterion for children is their mother's language and behavior. The mother's words and actions form the framework of the child's mind, and also create the shape of the child's mind: a circle, a triangle or a heart. Mothers shape different minds for their children, and children have different life principles. For children, mothers are like a compass that always shows them the way when they make life choices.
Treating others as one's own life guidelines is based on complete trust. And the child's trust in the mother is instinctive and unconditional. Because the child has complete trust in the mother, the child has the illusion that the mother is omnipotent. Why is this so?This is because children know that they are weak and that they need someone to rely on. So they believe that moms are perfect, and this belief shapes the imaginary perfect mom. The same is true for many children who are psychologically insecure or have a weak sense of self-reliance when they grow up to become "gnawing old people". Because they want to be dependent on others, they assume that their parents are perfect beings, regardless of their circumstances or abilities. 
Lead by example and set an exampleParents are their children's first teachers, the first people they come into contact with when they come into this world, and the people they are closest to and trust. Every word and deed of parents and smart children see it in their eyes and remember it in their hearts. It is undeniable that children have a strong ability to imitate, and they strive to understand this unknown world. And we parents must not double standard. We ask children not to play with mobile phones and tablets, but they can't put down their mobile phones, we ask children not to eat sweets, and their own snacks are not left in their mouths. So how can children listen to us all the time and not rebel?Therefore, whether it is a Xi life or a Xi habit of doing things, I hope that every parent will remember your words and deeds, and their children will see them. Before we want our children to become, let's make ourselves that kind of person, and the children will be proud. From now on, we love labor, love hygiene, do not procrastinate, love reading, love nature, have the courage to take responsibility, and are not afraid of hard work, and the child will definitely become an excellent self-disciplined person.
Please be more patient, less impatient, more trusting, less blame, more praise, and less contempt for each lovely child. 
Write at the end
A good education exists in every word and interaction of the mother.
The meaning of the existence of parents is not to give their children a comfortable and prosperous life, but when you think of your parents, your heart will be full of strength, you will feel warmth, and you will have the courage and ability to overcome difficulties, so as to gain the true joy and freedom of life.
The child's personality hides the mother's emotions, and the mother is the child's life guideline.
Mastering your mother's way of speaking can be achieved through hard work.
Compared with mothers who work hard to send their children to expensive Xi make-up classes, mothers who strive to understand their children's inner world are better;
It is more valuable to avoid harming your child than buying expensive toys. Only when a mother tries to truly understand her child's heart can she build a good relationship with her child.