Following the crowd refers to the fact that an individual is influenced by the group to doubt and change his or her opinions, judgments, and behaviors, etc., in order to be consistent with others.
Man is a kind of creature that is easily affected by the people around him and the surrounding environment, and there are very few who can really get out of the mud without staining, and most of them are close to ink.
So if a man's circle of friends is all cheating men, then this man either has inconsistent values and can't accept the chaotic life of his friends and chooses to quit, or he is assimilated and becomes the same cheating man.
An extramarital affair case like the one Blue Fang handled before is a typical example.
The original Ms. Gao said that she met her husband through a blind date, and she had been married for more than seven months.
So I don't know much about her husband, her husband himself and the family still know something.
As for the circle of friends, she didn't understand it at all, and she didn't have that awareness at that time.
After more than a year of marriage, a friend's friend told her that a friend of her husband cheated, and his wife and children didn't want it, and she ran away with Xiao San, and she didn't feel anything.
Just went home and knocked on the side to make her old bus friend be cautious.
As a result, not long after, I found out that another friend of her husband was divorced, and asked her husband to go out for a drink, saying that she was very depressed and didn't want to divorce, but her wife just didn't want to get over it.
She thought that this friend's wife had a problem, but after listening to her mother-in-law's gossip, she realized that this friend likes to find a young lady.
was caught for the first time, his wife chose to forgive, and the second time he was caught, he was divorced, and when the cooling-off period of the divorce was not stopped, there was no room for redemption at all, and Ms. Gao felt a little uncomfortable at this time.
She thinks that a friend is cheating, and that may be a mistake in making friends
But her husband knows friends who often eat and drink together, a total of four
As a result, two derailed, and half of them were half, which is a bit high.
She began to feel insecure, and she kept an eye on her husband, but she didn't expect to really find clues.
Her husband also cheated, and it has been four or five months since the cheating incident.
And in addition to this mistress, her husband went to look for it with the divorced friend before.
This friend got divorced, and the cheating man stopped a little, but he couldn't hold back later.
Another friend introduced a stable, now cheating junior.
The original partner knows this truth, and he can't accept it at all, not only about her husband's cheating, but how can there be such a friend?
People are very prone to the mentality of "following the crowd".
Within a group, the spread of common values can make the person's moral concept more and more blurred
If cheating in a circle can be regarded as an affair, and it will be used as a conversation between friends, and will not blush at all because of this matter, then over time, this person will also cheat to a large extent.
Therefore, if there is more than one cheating friend around you, if this person can still accept it, the guilt of cheating will be reduced little by little, and finally hold the mentality of "forget it, it's nothing".
They will even envy those who cheat, feeling that they have a stable marriage and a passionate extramarital affair.
Men understand men best, so these friends will also introduce the mistress to each other and encourage cheating.
There are too few men who can not cheat in such a group, and most men are what their friends are doing, and they can't avoid doing it.
Whether it's a herd mentality or just want to enjoy it, you will choose to follow the crowd in the end.
There are only two ways for wives to do in the face of this situation.
Either the cheating man completely leaves the previous circle of friends, or the cheating man divorces this man.
When the cheating man leaves the group that affects him, the wife can change the wrong mentality of the cheating man before and completely solve the extramarital affair without the cheating man continuing to be affected.
If the cheating man just refuses to break off the relationship with his former friend, he still feels that he is not wrong.
This kind of cheating man, the wives continue to marry, which is tantamount to conniving at the cheating man.
Friends around them who are also cheating and have not been divorced will start to give advice, encouraging men to continue cheating and leave their wives and the like.
This man will only continue to cheat, and there are some strategies behind him, how to take care of his wife's fox friends and dogs.
It is difficult for wives to solve extramarital affairs, even if the cheating man ends for a short time, he will still be affected to cheat again.
In the end, Lan Fang wanted to say that even if it is not like things to gather people and groups, men are not the same as their friends at the beginning, and they are still inertial to cheat.
It is also easy to get close to Zhu and red, and to be black from ink, and finally become a type of person.
Choosing the other half depends not only on his family of origin, but also on his social circle.
His friends are all flowery men, don't think he's different, he's just pretending to be different.
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