I've heard the saying: As long as I don't want to, no one can hurt me.
Feng Tang also said in "Ability": "There are only three things in this world: my business, other people's business, God's business, I can't control other people's business, I can't control God's business, only my own little thing can I do a little bit of the master." ”
What era, what country, what family, our ethnicity, gender, etc., we are not able to decide, these are God's things. "I am born to be useful", God has given myself a mission, what we can do is to keep the mission, follow our hearts, live a true self, love ourselves well, this is what I can do. No one can hurt me as long as I don't want to.
Following one's inner thoughts is not to hold the inherent concept of stubbornness and obsession, but to put aside the things outside the heart that hinder one's own heart, such as all kinds of greed, delusions, etc., so that the heart can be cleaned, the heart can be clear, and the true life will be found.
There was a time when my life was at a low point, the world was dark, my breath always turned around when it reached my throat, and I felt the pain of suffocation in my chest.
I was like a fish struggling on the shore, gasping for breath with difficulty, but I couldn't climb into the water. I was like a milky sticky worm lying on the ground, and from time to time God picked up a branch and threw a few fights on the ground.
I wandered in the crowd, lived in my own world, and lived stubbornly. I gazed indifferently at the world, and at all the life in it, and they hurried past me one by one, all busy.
I live like this, imitating others to live. Until one day, I felt that something was wrong with my life, I didn't seem to be a whole person, I had a tired skin, but no energy.
A life without energy is like a lamp that has run out of oil, and it is difficult to protect itself with a faint light, let alone light up the surroundings.
A person without life energy has little giving, tolerance, forgiveness, and understanding for others, a person without life energy is more eager to receive understanding, tolerance, respect and love from others, and a person without life energy still has a high degree of vigilance and suspicion of the outside world, and always maintains vigilance and self-defense.
Just when I didn't want to work hard, I just wanted to survive, God opened a window for me. I began to meet a lot of beauty, I met "The Biography of Buddha", "The Incredible Life", "The Book of Life and Death", "Lengyan Sutra", "Tao Te Ching", "Zhuangzi", "Analects", "University", "The Mean", "The Book of Songs", "Biography", "A Brief History of Chinese Philosophy", etc., I walked into the ocean of knowledge, shuttled through all kinds of books to find and search, and found the incredibleness of life.
At the same time, I met many beautiful people: the fifth sister like a bodhisattva, Director Wei with great love, Wang Defeng, who is known as the prince of philosophy, Jin Haifeng, a teacher of Chinese culture, Li Manbo, a cultural scholar, Liu Feng, a spiritual teacher, etc., they are like a bright lamp, lighting up countless heart lamps in my heart and leading my life to a higher dimension.
They woke me up, and my life began to awaken, and when life has a direction, it has infinite power. When my heart was not in me, I jumped out of the world of my ego, only to realize that all my previous pain came from my selfishness.
I have selfishly guarded the "me" I erected, my world is full of this "me", and I am wary of who has hurt "me"?Who deceived and deceived "me"?What did I think I got?What have I lost again?
And when I let go of this bullshit that is not "me", when my attention is not on "me", when I have no "me", I realize that no one is hurting me at all.
And the reason why I think others have hurt me is because I accept and recognize what others have done to me.
In fact, if I don't accept it, other people's harm won't reach me. It's like someone giving themselves a gift, and when they don't accept it, where is the gift?Of course, it's still in the hands of others.
So it's not that someone else hurt me, it's that I took it myself.
I am reminded of the story in Zhuangzi's "Mountains and Trees": When a man was crossing a river by boat, suddenly a boat in front of him was about to collide.
This man shouted several times and no one responded, so he scolded the person who was driving the boat in front of him for not being long-sighted, and the boat on the opposite side still crashed into it.
The ferryman roared like a madman, only to find that it was an empty boat that had been hit, and the anger that had just now wilted like a deflated ball, and the anger disappeared without a trace. In fact, in our lives, the opposite side is only an empty ship, and we often project an enemy on the opposite side of ourselves.
As the spiritual writer Zhang Defen said: My dear, there is no one else out there, only yourself.
The outside world is just a projection of you inside, there are no enemies outside, but there are enemies inside you. When the heart is cleansed, the "enemy" of the heart is gone.
Now, I love the world, and the enemies that I once thought were indestructible have dissipated like air and no longer existed.
I walked on the earth, in the mountains and forests, and touched the earth with my feetI shuttled through the crowd and felt the temperature of another life with my life.
I look up at the sky, I love the vastness of the sky, and I love every weak under the sky, I love the baby in my mother's arms, and I love the elders who have gone through the vicissitudes of the storm;I stand on the earth, I am in awe of the eternity of the sun, moon and stars, and I am in awe of the ephemerality of mayflies;I caressed a ray of sunshine and embraced the whole winter.
Mr. Mu Xin once said: I saw the absurdity of this world clearly, but I didn't feel disgusted, but smiled and still loved the world.
Although there is darkness, ugliness, **, and absurdity in this world, I will embrace the light, embrace the truth, embrace the good, and embrace the beautiful.
Despite the darkness, ugliness, absurdity, and absurdity of this world, I still love this world.