Chen Guo, a well-known female scholar and thinker, has brought many enlightenments about life and society with her unique perspective and in-depth remarks. In her remarks, there is a particularly thought-provoking sentence: "The road of my mother's house is easy to walk, and it is paved with money;The road of the in-laws' family is easy to walk, and it is cushioned with grievances, obedience and ignorance;The road of husband and wife is easy to walk, it is evenly matched, and mutual sacrifice is exchanged!This sentence not only reveals the subtle dynamics of family relationships, but also a profound reflection on modern marriage and family life.
The road to my mother's house is easy to walk, and it is paved with money
In our mother's home, we can often find that unconditional love and support. However, behind this relaxation, there is often an inextricable link with economic strength. In many families, economic conditions determine the status and voice of family members. The flatness of the mother's road is sometimes indeed paved with money. But this does not mean that money is everything, but emphasizes the importance of the economic base in family relationships.
The road of the in-laws' family is easy to walk, and it is cushioned with grievances, obedience and ignorance;
The in-laws' house is another important scene in married life. Here, we often need to adapt to new family culture and rules, and build relationships with new family members. This adaptation is often accompanied by some degree of grievance and submission. Sometimes, for the sake of family harmony and stability, we have to choose compromise and retreat. This kind of grievance and obedience is sometimes interpreted as "ignorance", that is, ignorance of things and seeking perfection. But in reality, it's more of a commitment to family responsibility and love.
The road of husband and wife is easy to walk, it is evenly matched, and mutual sacrifice is exchanged!
The relationship between husband and wife is the core of the family relationship. The way a couple gets along often determines the atmosphere and happiness of the whole family. Chen Guo's "evenly matched" refers to the equality and matching between husband and wife. This kind of equality does not only refer to economic equality, but also refers to the similarity or complementarity of the two parties in terms of spiritual level, values, life pursuits, etc. "Mutual sacrifice", on the other hand, means that both parties need to put in the effort and sacrifice in order to maintain the relationship. This sacrifice may manifest itself in understanding, inclusion, support, or even compromise.
The Challenges of Modern Marriage and Family
Modern society has brought many new challenges to marriage and family. With the development of society and the change of concepts, the traditional concept of family has gradually been impacted. Modern people pay more attention to personal freedom and self-realization, which makes marriage and family relationships more and more complicated. In such cases, both spouses need to work harder to manage and maintain their marital relationship to ensure family harmony and happiness.
How to address these challenges?
In the face of these challenges, we can find some inspiration from Chen Guo's words: First, strive to improve your financial strength to ensure that you have enough say in the family;Secondly, for the sake of family harmony and stability, it is necessary to be properly wronged and obedient;Finally, it takes the joint efforts and sacrifices of both parties to maintain an evenly matched relationship. Of course, this is not to say that we should blindly pursue money or compromise on everything, but we should be clear about our position and responsibilities in the family, and make wise choices based on this.
Although Chen Guo's sentence is short, it contains a wealth of philosophy. In modern society, we need to pay more attention to the relationship between marriage and family, and strive to maintain family harmony and happiness. Only in this way can we walk more firmly and calmly on the road of life. I hope that every reader can benefit from it and find their own way to happiness.