In a class, there are always some children who spend a lot of time and energy on their health in Xi, but their grades never improve.
This kind of child is not stupid, but he has not developed a good learning XiXi habit from an early age, which makes it difficult to Xi learning. As Locke said, "All education is ultimately about cultivating good Xi in children." "The gap between children is the gap in Xi habits, and the premise of raising excellent children is to cultivate good Xi habits." Third-class students fight for physical strength, middle students fight hard, and upper students fight for Xi. Parents pay attention to their children's Xi cultivation in the early stage, and save effort and worry in the later education. Good Xi habits are all "raised", these 4 good Xi habits recommended by the people, no matter how busy you are, you have to read them!
Plan ahead
Bliss's Law "tells people:
Planning is the most important part of doing things beforehand, and if you don't have a plan, your actions are likely to turn into a mess. It is true that success begins with good planning, and planning determines a person's achievements more than talent. Do you know Zhang Huanteng?He was admitted to Tsinghua University in two years and was called "the most inspirational secondary school student" by netizens. In addition to his stubborn and unwilling beliefs, clear goals and the ability to plan ahead are the boosters for him to realize his dreams. After entering the technical secondary school, he gave himself a plan for the future: first go to undergraduate, then take the postgraduate examination, and finally get a doctorate. As a result, he began to formulate a study Xi plan, classifying each subject in detail and understanding the professional knowledge in a targeted manner. He gets up at six in the morning and goes to bed at ten at night, always sits in the first row in class, and works hard in the library and Xi room. In 2020, he was admitted to Chongqing Medical University as he wished, completing his first goal. In college, while the rest of his classmates were in a state of relaxation and enjoyment, he immediately threw himself into the next goal. In April last year, he successfully realized his dream of Tsinghua University with excellent results, which became a hot search and was praised. 
Children with clear goals and reasonable planning in Xi school can take a small step forward every day, and under the compound interest of time, they can take a big step and transform into a better self. Shakespeare said:"Planning is tomorrow's seed, so start planting today. ”How you plan for today will reap what kind of tomorrow. If you are not afraid that your child will have shortcomings in Xi, you will not make a Xi plan to make up for your shortcomings.
Those children who pay close attention to their shortcomings today have the possibility of turning their shortcomings into advantages, otherwise they can only retreat. Start from the following two points to teach children who have goals and plans for everything:1.Goal-oriented, reasonable planning. Instill in children the concept of being goal-oriented and using the backward work method to develop a Xi schedule. For example, if your child's grades want to be stable in the top five of the class, you should help your child break down the solstice plan, weekly plan and monthly plan of the academic Xi to achieve the goal, and arrange the Xi tasks of weak subjects. If you want to do well in Chinese, you must read at least half an hour of extracurricular books every day. 2.Timely supervision, adhere to the review. Parents should do a good job of supervising and urging every day, and set a good Xi task, they must take it seriously, and they cannot condone their children to bargain. At the beginning, you can prepare a small review card for your child, record the completion of the daily situation, and when you encounter unfinished tasks, wait for the child to analyze the reasons and then discuss the adjustment countermeasures. 
Read extensively
In recent years, the new college entrance examination policy has been implemented one after another, which has also put forward new requirements for students. For example, the scope of the test is not limited to the content of textbooks, but also changes from the depth of learning Xi to the breadth of learning Xi, and examines the amount of knowledge reserve of children, as well as the accumulation of literature in daily life. The content of the test paper is composed of two parts: reading comprehension and composition, which basically remove the basic knowledge, so there is a large amount of written material. Children who usually lack extracurricular reading are very likely to not even be able to understand the questions in the exam, and they can't finish the test papersThe famous educator Zhang Guili once said:
"The root cause of most students' poor learning Xi is that they do not have a strong interest in reading, which affects their comprehension ability, writing ability, and even Xi interest in learning. This leads to poor grades for children, and parents have headaches when they think about their children's Xi. ”To this end, Wang Wenzhan, former director of the Department of Basic Education of the Ministry of Education, reminded parents: "After the new college entrance examination, the college entrance examination is mainly distinguished by language. ”Those who read more will get the language, and those who will get the language will win the world. Li Chang, the first student in Chinese at Kaifeng High School, scored 135 points in the college entrance examination and ranked first in the city in a single subject, and his Chinese teacher said: "Li Chang is well-read and reads a lot, which helps him a lot in his philology Xi. "The best quality "extracurricular Xi class" for children is to read a lot, accumulate vocabulary and improve writing skills;The most valuable "character development teacher" for children is to insist on reading, train concentration and improve comprehensionThe most nourishing "spiritual nourishment" for children is to read a wide range of books, activate their minds and expand their knowledge capacity at the same time. Have a good reading Xi first, and then have excellent grades. If parents want to raise a child who loves to read, they must take precautions and start from an early age:1.Set up a family reading corner to give the initiative to children to read. The study room at home is better than the school district room worth millions. A good family reading atmosphere can make reading happen naturally, and parents can raise children who love to read without deliberate supervision. For example, arrange a warm reading corner on the balcony and living room, take the children to the library to buy books, and let them place different types of books according to their preferences. 2.Encourage your child to read aloud and keep out. The advantage of reading aloud is that children will pay attention to what they are reading, and they will not be easily distracted when reading, which will help them remember the storyline of the book. In addition, after the child finishes reading, parents can communicate with the child to encourage the child to speak up his thoughts, or write about 200 words of reading feelings every day. The combination of input and output can make the reading effect twice the result with half the effort.
Be diligent in thinking
Mao Yisheng said: "The human brain is like a body, if you use it more, you will be spiritual, and if you don't use it, you will be wasted." "Children who only know how to read behind closed doors and are not good at thinking are often inefficient in learning Xi and Xi learning results poorly. Over time, a single and fixed mode of thinking cannot cope with the complex knowledge of junior high school, and it is impossible to learn and apply it and draw inferences from one another, and the results of learning Xi will naturally be unsatisfactory. Only by thinking more about the questions, and the deep causes and laws, can the scattered knowledge be re-summarized and organized. The knowledge obtained by rote memorization is the easiest to forget, and the integration after thinking is the most memorable, and smart children know how to let thinking go ahead and guide the way. As Polk said:"Learning Xi without thinking is equivalent to eating without digesting. ”Thinking is the magic weapon of learning Xi, and no matter how fast you calculate with the wrong way of thinking, the answer will not be correct. The secret of learning Xi every top student is inseparable from the habit of being good at thinking Xi.
Li Zhi, a top student in the Chongqing college entrance examination, was admitted to Tsinghua University with a score of 719, and he shared his Xi experience with his younger students: "It's not about doing a lot of questions, thinking is the first." It turned out that in order to find a better way to solve the problem, he would think about the same problem from various angles. When he encounters a problem, he will calm down and think about which step he went wrong, and repeat it until he finds the problem. The same class, the same teacher, it is because they usually pay attention to thinking, analysis and summarizing, that they can achieve better results than other students. To cultivate children's ability to think independently, parents should do two things less:1.Don't hit, don't belittle. In order to avoid trouble or establish authority, some parents always Xi the idea of strangling their children by inertia, and over time the child will become a person who only accepts and does not **. The advice given by a professor of education at Yale University for parents to protect their children's critical thinking skills is to answer their children's questions well. From today onwards, answer your child's every question with encouragement and surprise, and look forward to your child's next question. 2.Don't blindly follow, don't compareCompare. Zheng Yuanjie said: "A good educator should use 50 ways to educate one child, not one method to educate 50 children. "In the face of children's school choice and cram Xi, parents should not be in the clouds, but should make accurate judgments according to their children's conditions. The best education is to lead by example, parents are assertive, think often, and influence their children with good qualities. 
Maintain self-discipline
As the saying goes: if you are lazy, everything will be wasted. No matter how smart a child is, once he is dominated by laziness, he will do nothing. Xi this marathon, and the one who wins with a smile to the end must be the child who always maintains self-discipline. Once I talked to my friend Xiao Xiang about the topic of self-discipline, she told me about an incident that impressed me: she said that a new family moved to the opposite building of the community, and after her many discoveries and verifications, there was a girl about 12 years old in that family, who stood at the desk at 6 o'clock in the morning to read or write in the morning, and at 10 o'clock in the evening, her parents took turns to accompany their daughter to learn Xi. At first, she simply thought that children were procrastinating on their homework. After a long time, I realized that it was the self-disciplined parents who taught the children who consciously learned Xi. Friend sighed:
"I'm not as good as a four- or five-year-old child, every time it's intermittent self-discipline, I can't stick to yoga classes, I read half of the books I bought and then fall into ashes, and I subtly made negative teaching materials for my son. ”Self-discipline is, in the final analysis, a game of life between everyone and themselves. There is no brilliance waiting for it, only the highlight of spelling. Behind all the excellence in the world is ascetic self-discipline. As an ordinary person, although he only went to school for two years between the ages of 8 and 10, Franklin still insisted on learning Xi in his spare time after work, relying on self-discipline and diligence, and accomplished achievements that many people could not achieve in several lifetimes, influencing the United States for 200 years. If you don't work hard, your heart will be decadent;Without self-discipline, the mind is indulgent. Self-discipline in learning Xi can counteract the playfulness of nature, and can prevent children from being taken advantage of by laziness. After ten years, the gap between self-disciplined and undisciplined children gradually widens, and it can lift you into a good school, walk with better people, and live a free life.
As Mr. Luo Xiang said:
No matter how difficult the book is, it will only take a few months, and no matter how tired it is to run, it will only take five minutes, and no matter how difficult the problem is, there will be a solution. Stick to self-discipline and you will be better than others. "Self-discipline is likeThe "flywheel effect".At first, you'll need to exert a lot of force to get the stationary flywheel to spin. When the flywheel spins faster and faster, and after reaching a certain critical point, it does not need to spend too much manpower, and the flywheel still rotates quickly and continuously. Many people find self-discipline too difficult, but as long as you tell yourself every day to "hold on for another day", when the critical point is passed, self-discipline will no longer be painful, but will be internalized into your daily behavior Xi, quietly changing you. In the field of education, the seeds of self-discipline are watered by internal and external driving forces and then break through the ground and sprout1.In the early stage, with external drive. Xi of self-discipline cannot be cultivated overnight, and parents should play the role of disciplinarians in the early stage, using rules and regulations to help children overcome inertia and laziness. 2.Wake up the internal drive in the later stage. Once parents feel that their children are able to allocate and manage their time independently, they should let go appropriately and give their children autonomy.
The Mean has a saying: "Erudition, interrogation, prudence, discernment, and practice." This sentence summarizes the five stages of learning Xi, which means to learn Xi extensively, think carefully, think carefully, discern clearly, and finally practice it practically. That is, in learning Xi, we should have a plan, read often, think diligently, and take action.
Planning ahead allows your child to always stay calm and calm without distractionsReading widely can help children always maintain their rationality and enlighten their own intelligenceDiligent thinking can allow children to always maintain the drill strength to open roads in the mountains and build bridges in the waterMaintaining self-discipline can keep your child tenacious and persistent.