7 years ago, "Hot Mom" was one of my favorite TV series. Sun Li's performance with Zhang Yi is explosive. It is very rare to revisit it again after 7 years, and the plot still reflects reality.
The difficulties of women in the workplace, the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the inferior nature of men do not seem to have improved after so many years.
Zhang Yi played Yuanbao, who was once regarded as a good person, and loved Xia Bing (played by Sun Li) very much, even if Xia Bing wanted the stars in the sky, he would try his best to take them off.
For women, isn't the person they yearn for in this life who knows cold and hot so well?
But how can such a good man really be perfect?An in-depth analysis of the character of ingots can tell how scumbag this kind of person is.
Yuan Bao and Xia Bing are a typical incompatibility. Yuan Bao represents the most ordinary type of man, and Xia Bing belongs to the goddess level. There is a big difference in image and character.
The reason why Yuan Bao was able to catch up with Xia Bing was because he shamelessly coaxed Xia Bing to be happy, plus Xia Bing fell out of love at that time. Strictly speaking, one thing is that he snatched his younger brother Bao Shuai's girlfriend, and he snatched it with peace of mind.
Thinking about the ingots, he coveted Xia Bing, and his back was cold. At that time, Yuan Bao and Bao Shuai had a good impression of Xia Bing, but Xia Bing chose Bao Shuai. Yuan Bao hides love, and he is also Bao Shuai's most trusted friend.
Afterwards, Bao Shuai was ready to go abroad for further study, but Xia Bing was not happy. At that time, Bao Shuai didn't know that Xia Bing was reluctant to leave by himself, and asked Yuanbao to bring the words to Xia Bing, so that he could keep it for Xia Bing.
But Yuan Bao didn't pass on the word to Xia Bing at all, which made Xia Bing feel that Bao Shuai was ruthless. At that time, Xia Bing was very sad, and Yuan Bao managed to seize the opportunity, understand Xia Bing in every way, and successfully won the goddess.
And he didn't dare to tell Bao Shuai about his relationship with Xia Bing, and he was not noticed until Bao Shuai returned to China after completing his studies. At this time, under Bao Shuai's interrogation, Yuan Bao confidently said that he fell in love with Xia Bing first.
People think that Yuan Bao is the kind of stupid honest person, but in fact he is more scheming than we think. Maybe Xia Bing didn't see this.
Xia Bing and Yuanbao get along, they are also simple, not greedy for material, not greedy for their own chic, but greedy for their own love.
There are many ways for lovers, but Yuan Bao chooses the worst: stalking.
Every time he angers Xia Bing, Yuan Bao will also have the same trick, creating a little romantic surprise, plus all kinds of apology guarantees, and a little bit of shamelessness.
If Xia Bing still doesn't forgive, Yuanbao will take a more extreme attitude, or go downstairs to his company to die, etc., or shout, even if Xia Bing is not found, he will go to the Public Security Bureau to threaten her.
A person who loves humbly, loves so much that he loses himself, and loves without a bottom line, but it is even more terrifying.
There are similarities in human nature, no one wants to give too much, and if you pay too much and do not achieve the desired result, all kinds of small emotions of imbalance and revenge will arise spontaneously.
Therefore, Yuan Bao had many problems after marrying Xia Bing, which was not a change in Yuan Bao, but he exposed his true colors.
Don't think that Yuan Bao is a good person, he never gets angry on the surface, but he is the best at secretly stabbing other people's knives.
There is a word in psychology called "aggression", which means that the weaker partner in the relationship expresses the anger accumulated due to the unequal status of the stronger partner by indirect means such as delay, avoidance, deliberate anger and covert revenge.
The same is true for ingots, after Xia Bing has a baby, her performance is even more prominent. Xia Bing has a daughter, Yuanbao seems to be happy, but in fact, he hopes to have a son in his heart.
That was one of the grievances in his heart.
Another dissatisfaction is that Xia Bing found that her weight did not drop after giving birth to the baby, and the family circled around the baby, allowing herself to be treated coldly, and she was also shrouded in depression.
She was so grief-stricken that she was reluctant to hug the child. Yuan Bao didn't speak on the surface, but he left his hometown to complain to his mother, saying that Xia Bing's heart was hardened. This is a way of attack on Xia Bing by ingots.
He himself didn't dare to say anything about Xia Bing, so he used the excuse to embarrass Xia Bing to his mother. Moreover, Xia Bing was lonely and desperate in the hospital, but Yuan Bao ran out to drink with his brother, and bragged about how good he was in front of his brother.
There are also 2 kinds of ingots that indicate anger, namely emotional withdrawal and passive aggression. Emotional detachment is when an argument occurs, one party always remains silent and takes the lead in leaving angry.
The so-called passive aggression is not to express anger directly, but to pretend to be innocent between words, so that the other party feels that he is a bad person.
To put it bluntly, Yuan Bao is the best at pretending to be pitiful and kidnapping Xia Bing. Women are easy to grind hard bubbles, and this trick of ingots is a hundred tried-and-tested.
But before the practical problem has been solved, the relationship between husband and wife has been challenged.
In fact, the most terrifying thing is people like Yuanbao. Xia Bing is straightforward and fast-talking, but Yuan Bao is the only one who secretly pokes people.
Yuan Bao is also a typical mom boy, he grew up in a single-parent family and is too dependent on his mother. Yuan Bao is 30 years old, and his mother also calls him baby.
Indeed, Yuan Bao is like a child who has not quit breastfeeding. The way he was with his mom has never changed. At first, Yuanbao's mother did not agree to Xia Bing's request, and the methods used by Yuanbao were also very naïve, and she went on a hunger strike directly.
Afterwards, my mother had no choice but to agree. But what's the use of agreeing on the surface, I don't really agree with it psychologically, so after getting married, my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have a lot of contradictions.
Whenever Yuanbao's mother and Xia Bing had a conflict, Yuanbao always had a bad attitude, that is, he kept dealing with the mud. The consequence of this is that my mother's heart is in her heart, and it is even more difficult for Xia Bing, and Xia Bing's heart is still very cold, and she is more and more disappointed in Yuanbao.
Some people say that you can be happy if you find the person who holds you like the ingot, but in fact you are not right, don't you think that a man who is good to you is the guarantee of a happy marriage?
No, what is more important than love is the responsibility and maturity of men.
Obviously, Yuan Bao is not a mature man, even if he is 30 years old, his attitude towards problems is always to avoid and smile like a child.
He has never had in-depth communication and connection with Xia Bing, and he has only been pretending to be stupid. Husbands and wives are already facing a lot of problems, and instead of solving them one by one, you try to avoid them, fool them, and in the end, the relationship will only lead to death.
Re-read "The True Story of Hot Mom", Fang knows that a really good man should not be like ingots.
There are also people who covet a person to be good to you and are the most unreliable, this kind of good initiative is in the hands of the other party, the other party wants to give it to you, and you don't want to take it back, you have no way at all.
What can really make a marriage stable and happy is always the things that do not change, such as the principle of doing things, economic strength, character responsibility, etc.
Therefore, when women make a choice, they must not be completely carried away by emotions, and they may avoid detours when measured by reason.