Recently, the TVB workplace drama "News Queen" has been on the air, which has made the audience want to stop watching it, everyone in it has 800 hearts, and ordinary people like us probably won't survive the first episode.
Of course, the most powerful of the many characters is Wen Huixin (Sister Man) played by Charmaine Sheh, who kicked away one stumbling block after another from a news anchor, and upgraded all the way to deputy director.
Look at Sister Man's aura:
Live broadcast the scene of the fire accident, she domineeringly shouted "I'm in **, it's the live broadcast room".
Faced with the threat of her opponent Liang Jingren, she said confidently, "I will only demonstrate once, so that you can see what the ultimate in journalism is." ”
In the last live broadcast before being forced to leave her job, she said to Wen Jiajun, "You have been with me for so long, how many skills and troubles you have to give me all today, I want to slap Liang Jingren in the face." ”
When she was driven away, she smiled and said: "If you have the ability, ** are all stage ......."
Such a high-burning line made the audience strongly feel that "women are not ruthless, and their status is unstable".
Sister Man is ruthless to her opponents, ruthless to herself, and ruthless to her subordinates, she criticizes her subordinates unceremoniously, and she criticizes her subordinates Xu Xiaowei"Have you ever heard Milan Kundera say that when humans think, God laughs, so please don't think about it next time, do whatever I tell you to do. ”
Xiaowei has followed Sister Man since she joined the company, she has worked hard and done well, and she will be criticized and accused so harshly, sure enough, there is no job that is not wronged.
In the workplace, we often encounter various criticisms from leaders, what will you do in the face of criticism and accusations?
There are too many strict leaders in the workplace, and it has become normal to be criticized and reprimanded, take a look at the messages of netizens:
Sophomore, the first time I went to the law firm, I was Xi the leader, a 60-year-old very powerful old lady, assigned me a task, I really can't do it, I was scolded by her every day, I did it every day, I dreamed of doing this, it has been a week, I was scolded every morning, and I was scolded after eating at noon, I was really desperate.
I've been crying for a week now, and my eyes are sensitive and uncomfortable. If the leader speaks fast and I can't react, he will reprimand me in public, and everyone next to me will watch, I will lower my head and say nothing, will I be scolded if I don't have the ability to learn?I went to the toilet to cry, ate by myself at noon and cried, continued to study after crying, and then still wouldn't, every day the vicious circle has collapsed.
Being scolded is so miserable, the boss changes his face every day like the weather of the tropical rainforest, he is still smiling one minute, and the next second he changes his face, and he just changes his face, and he scolds people inexplicably, he does what he says, he also scolds, he doesn't think about it and lets others do it, and when he finishes it, he scolds others, he just wants to send him to the desert to chant in the sand every minute, so he can be reasonable.
No one's workplace is not aggrieved, whether you are a newcomer or an old employee, even if you are an executive, each has its own "suffering", no one is smooth sailing, adjust your mentality, and want to open a point.
This is the norm in the workplace, and it's also the norm in life.
Otherwise, part of your salary is "pocket money", and if you haven't been criticized, it's not enough to talk about the workplace.
Some leaders criticize you because they hate iron and steel, and they are really good for you.
Xiaowen is a perfectionist and strives for excellence in his work, so he always has not enough time and often works overtime.
One day, a report that he worked overtime until midnight and did not finish in front of DDL, the leader criticized him and reminded him that "completion is more important than perfection", and the speed of work should be the first, and the perfection should be second. After that, Xiaowen never made such a mistake again.
Although the leader scolded Xiaowen fiercely, he saw that Xiaowen performed well during the KPI evaluation at the end of the year, and gave Xiaowen an evaluation of A, which surprised Xiaowen.
And some leaders criticize you, which is to PUA you, destroy your self-confidence, and make you feel that you are worthless.
Mike, a reserve cadre of the R&D center, was sent by the company to the strategy department as a temporary deputy minister, but he didn't expect Mike's bad luck to come, and the minister embarrassed him everywhere.
Mike's proposal was sent back 28 times by the minister, and each time he called back, the minister did not explain the specific problem, and Mike changed it to a collapse, forcing a man who graduated from a prestigious school and was 1.83 meters to the point of tears and self-doubt.
During that time, Mike went to work like a grave, his heart was haggard, and he lost 20 pounds in half a year.
Fortunately, soon there was an executive recruitment in the company, and Mike successfully competed for the job and escaped from the sea of suffering, which he still remembers like a nightmare.
In fact, you can feel whether the leader is kind to criticize and help you grow, or malicious PUA deliberately belittles you and destroys you.
The difference between the two is obviousA well-meaning leader will criticize you and will not discriminate against youAnd the malicious leader, no matter how much you do well, he will not see it, and will only do everything to attack you and destroy you.
1.Kind criticism must be accepted, and the more severe the scolding, the faster it will grow
When I first arrived at the new unit, I was criticized by the leader, scolded to tears, and felt very uncomfortable, the reason for being scolded was that the leader had higher requirements for my work, and I was always a little short of his requirements because I was not familiar with the business.
I felt very wronged when I was scolded, and I knew that I had worked hard.
After I went back, I reflected on my own shortcomings, continued to improve, and gradually the leader stopped scolding me, in fact, I grew up unconsciously in the leader's scolding, many things do not need to wait for the leader's lesson, I will do the work in front.
A leader who can point out your shortcomings and deficiencies is actually your nobleman, who is helping you grow. I found that the years when I was scolded the most grew the fastest.
2.When dealing with PUA, you have to show your own attitude
Minister Zhou, who came in the air, wanted to be powerful and cut off the old employees, and he severely criticized Lao Li, who was in charge of the company's investment management, "How do you manage your investment, it's a mess!."”
Lao Li directly scolded back, "Minister Zhou, you said that the investment was not managed well, but in the end, it was not managed?"In the case that the leaders of the ministry never pay attention, the investment management work is carried out in an orderly manner, the projects are carried out smoothly, and the grassroots units have a high evaluation of us”
A reasonable and well-founded remark, Minister Zhou was speechless, he didn't know how to invest at all, and he didn't dare to criticize Lao Li casually after that.
When you're strong enough, you can directly slam back the malicious PUAThe attitude of your first response is crucial and determines the other person's attitude towards you later.
Minister Zhou didn't dare to PUA old comrades, so he had to turn the spearhead and continue to PUA young people, far away from Minister Zhou's office, and his roar could often be heard.
You idiot, I still don't understand how many times I've told you, I really don't know how you got to college!"What do you eat, you can't do this little thing!".”
The young man also learned to be obedient, and every time he was scolded, he humbly accepted it, and replied with a smile, "Okay, I'll change it immediately." But after going back, he began to laugh at himself with his colleagues, "I was an idiot again today" and "I was skinned by Zhou again", ......
When your ability is not strong enough, you must learn to perform, and the leader's emotional venting and PUA are good when the wind is in your ears.
Work and don't let other people's problems punish you.
When you are criticized by the leader,Don't be nervous, don't be anxious, don't be sad, look at it rationally, and your career path will suddenly be clear.
Author |Huo Hui.