I have been married to my sixth child for 23 years.
At home, it has always been the sixth child who serves as the decision-maker of the family.
However, in the first month of my marriage, I also thought about playing this role.
By the end of the month, we had all received our salaries.
I happily said to the sixth child, "You can give me your salary for safekeeping."
At that time, he was eating, and the sixth man slammed his chopsticks on the bowl with a bang.
His big eyes, without glasses, twinkled with an eyelash about a centimeter long (which is no exaggeration, I once measured the length of my son's eyelashes).
Those eyelashes almost killed me, but more than 20 years ago, the word instant kill had not yet appeared.
The sixth said indignantly: "If you have the ability, go out to earn money, you have no right to interfere in my finances."
The mother-in-law also provoked beside her, "Liumaoer, I didn't say you, how can there be a person with long hair and short hair." ”
Oh my God, I realized afterwards that my mother-in-law was laughing at me for being narrow-minded.
I wished I could get out from under that tall dining table and die ashamed.
In our village, my sister-in-law, my sister, and myself are the pillars of the family, and I take it for granted, but why can't I do it when I get here?I got married three months after I met.
He was a graduate of Zhengzhou University in the 90s, and I was just one of the few people in our village who had a slight advantage: a migrant girl who was only half of the second year of junior high school.
There was a huge disparity in our social status, and the sixth man overwhelmed me in the first meeting, and I never mentioned his salary in front of him since.
The sixth child doesn't care about how much money I can earn every month, and he is also responsible for the family's expenses.
My marriage to the sixth child has also become the focus of discussion in the village.
After all, in those days, it was not easy to marry a village girl who was not a semi-disabled old man from the city.
My mother's family occasionally asked, "How much does Lao Liu earn a month?"I replied I didn't know.
My relatives glanced at me, "You know that your sixth child has a formal job, but I'm afraid that we will ask you to borrow money." ”
There was also a second uncle who spoke even worse, "Don't worry, we will go to the city to ask for food, and we will not bypass your door." ”
At night, my mother asked me, "You are the only one in our village who married into the city, has a house and a job, and when relatives ask him how much he earns, you can tell me, what does it matter?"I'll have some brilliance that way, too. ”
I replied, "Mom, I really don't know how much money Lao Liu makes a month." ”
My mom whispered, "Won't he give you money?"I replied no.
My mother looked at me sympathetically, "Your father works in the city, and he gives me all the money he earns, so how can a husband and wife take care of their own money." ”
I smiled helplessly, "I once asked him for it, and he didn't give it." ”
The eldest sister sarcastically mocked me: "You have a weird temper at home, and you can't even control your brothers." ”
The sister-in-law said: "You are so pitiful, you don't even know how much money a man earns a month." ”
I said, "You can't quarrel with him over money." ”
The sister-in-law said: "The brother at the bottom can take care of the housework, but he has to tell you how much money he earns a month." ”
I don't care about housework, I have nothing to do with my mother's family and my mother-in-law's affairs, they contact the sixth child directly, I just need to eat on time.
My sister-in-law feels sorry for me, and she always keeps a copy for me when she cooks food at home, and the eldest sister and the second sister sometimes joke that the sister-in-law says: "Your things can only be eaten by his sister-in-law, and we can't eat them."The sister-in-law replied with a smile: "You two are in charge of housework at home, and his sister-in-law is not in charge, so if you want to spend money, you have to find the sixth child." ”
After the demolition of my mother's hometown, they were much better off than we were, and the two sisters-in-law wore gold and silver ornaments, and wore large gold chains around their necks, in my brother's words: "Even if you tie up a wolf dog, you can't escape." ”
During the Chinese New Year, when I had dinner at my parents' house, everyone wore a big gold bracelet on their hands, and my mother said to me, "You can also buy a gold bracelet, and see if you are alone in the family now." ”
The second sister-in-law said: "* It's not expensive now, let the sixth spend 10,000 yuan to buy you a gold bracelet." ”
The sister-in-law said: "You can also get your ears pierced, and the earrings are very beautiful now." ”
The niece said, "Sister-in-law, if you have your ears pierced, I will give you a pair of earrings." ”
The nephew said, "You save money and let my brother-in-law gamble." ”
The sixth couldn't sit still: "Last time I said to buy her a gold ring, she didn't want it." ”
I glanced at the sixth child and said, "Isn't a 12 yuan diamond ring bad?" ”
When I got married, my sixth brother and I were very poor, and my sixth child bought me two 12 yuan aluminum alloy diamond rings with glass.
A few years ago I said that I would also like to buy a gold ring.
The sixth said: "You are so cheesy, you and I have lived in the city for so many years, why do you have to compare with your sisters and sisters-in-law." ”
I have always hated playing mahjong the most, but the old six family is a mahjong family, and I met mahjong dice when I couldn't speak and walk, and my mother-in-law supported her son to play mahjong, "Your father-in-law played mahjong back then, and I got up in the middle of the night to boil water for them to cook." ”
I said, "My sisters-in-law also like to play mahjong, how can you say that they are busier than going to work, and they can't even take care of cooking." ”
A good friend of mine gave me an idea: "He comes back in the middle of the night playing cards, you lock the door behind your back, don't let him in, and this will cure him in one go." ”
In the summer when my son was half a year old, the sixth child played cards until 12 o'clock in the evening and came back, I locked the door inside, he tried twice and didn't open it, standing outside and shouting: "You don't open the door, do you?"I had already gotten up from the bed, and before I could reach the door, there was no sound outside, and when the sixth came back at dawn, he threw the key on the table: "Don't bring your bad habits from the countryside here, and if you dare to lock the door at night, I won't go home." ”
I said, "Where did you go last night, I got up and opened the door and you left." ”
The sixth said: "I went to the hotel to open a room, and you didn't let me in, how can I sleep." ”
I lost again in this game, and from then on I just played cards, and I went back, or I didn't go back.
There is also a knot, check it carefully before going to bed, for fear of accidentally locking the door.
I silently thought in my heart that if I can't control your money and can't manage your people, I won't take care of your blind mother.
I said, "You give those brothers a **, and we take turns taking care of the old lady, why am I the only one doing it?".The sixth immediately stood up, "What's in her way here?"With the support of the sixth child, the mother-in-law also has a tough attitude, "I eat my son's and live my son's, what does it matter to you?""I apologized to my mother-in-law again, worried that the neighbors would hear the joke.
The other sons came to pick up the old lady, but the mother-in-law firmly disagreed, "I don't go, I live in the sixth family." ”
Well, I lived there for 18 years, and I started to pretend to be a good wife and mother, and this kind of pretense became a habit.
My mother-in-law died at the age of 90, and I think this time the cost should be divided equally between the brothers.
A sister-in-law said, "I was taking care of the last month, and I had to get 3,000 yuan a month for my brother's care." ”
The other sister-in-law was ready to start an argument.
I sat down on the couch in fear (I'm especially afraid of hearing people quarrel), and the sixth child took a cigarette in his mouth and said, "I'll pay all the expenses and take away your gift money." ”
The other sister-in-law immediately stopped preparing to descend the dragon eighteen palms.
She put down her hand and began to settle the accounts, at first she was silent, watching her put the money in her pocket, I was really afraid that she would suffocate her internal injuries.
The sister-in-law who asked for 3,000 yuan for nursing fees quit, "Why ......."None of the people in the room spoke......I said, "I'll deduct 3,000 yuan from **, and if the others don't agree, I'll pay the money." ”
The other two brothers glared at me and didn't speak, and when I came back, the sixth brother criticized me, "You don't even have to worry about your mother's funeral, let you perform well." ”
My heart chilled, "What's the matter, everyone is quite satisfied, right?"I worked for five days as a handyman, wearing mink and fur, as honored guests, with a feast at every meal, and playing mahjong after the meal.
Have you seen me eat during these five days?The sixth said, "If you deduct an extra 3,000 yuan, no one else agrees, who will let you intervene more." ”
I said, "Okay, in my mother's house and my mother-in-law's house, our family is the poorest, and I don't care about the 3,000 yuan, listening to your sisters-in-law's nagging, it annoys me to death, and I'm not afraid of the neighbors' jokes." ”
Therefore, when a woman first gets married, she must curb the arrogance of men, and if she retreats, she will retreat step by step.
But having said that, women who are not housewives are still quite chic and comfortable.
Just like this year, the sixth child owes more than 30,000 yuan in debt, he is worried, borrowing from east to west, and now it is the New Year again, and he has to use at least 20,000 yuan.
I should eat and drink, and still sleep eleven hours a day.
I'm not in debt anyway.
On the five festivals of the year (Dragon Boat Festival, Mid-Autumn Festival, Spring Festival, and parents' birthdays), my two older sisters took money out of their pockets and gave it to their mother as soon as they entered the door.
When I entered the door, I sat down to eat melon seeds and drink water, and the sixth child usually stood up after drinking a glass of water, took money out of his pocket, and handed it to my parents with both hands.
When we were having dinner at my parents' house during the Mid-Autumn Festival this year, my mother said at the wine table: "It's not easy for you to always make you spend money, so you can just eat later." ”
The eldest brother-in-law, who was sandwiching the ribs, hurriedly said, "I haven't spent a penny on your heads, everything is bought by the second child." ”
The second brother-in-law said: "I am only responsible for coming to eat, and I don't care what the sea and her mother want to buy." ”
Mother smiled and said, "That's the money you earned." ”
The two brothers-in-law said, "That's the money your girl earns by working on her own." ”
Every time I go back to my parents' house to give gifts, the eldest sister and the second sister will ask me, "How much are you going to give?"I said, "Don't ask me, you ask the sixth child, I'm not in charge." ”
Now the three of us sisters give gifts, and whoever wants to give as much as they want, no longer negotiates.
The sixth child likes to say: "Buying things for your parents depends entirely on your personal wishes, and there is no need for everyone to be the same." ”
As long as life is happy and smooth, there is no need to argue about who is in charge, as the saying goes: what a big belly eats how big a bowl.
The sixth child often envies me now: "You don't have anything to worry about except eating or sleeping every day." ”
I smiled and said, "It's okay to go to bed early, earn more money when you have time, and exercise more." ”
Only the body and mood belong to you, and nothing else belongs to you.