No matter what kind of person they are, they will have their pride, but don't be too proud, then it will become conceited, no matter what the situation, the conceited end can only usher in failure, and at the same time will crush your self-righteous pride, so that your life is worse than death.
Especially in married life, conceit can not exist in particular, since the husband and wife are already married, the two have become a new whole, at this time in front of their partner to show their superiority is still any benefit?Except for making the other party disgusted and speeding up the pace of leaving you, it probably doesn't have any effect.
Everyone should treat their married life with a comprehensive vision, the husband and wife are equal existence, everyone has their own strengths, not only see their own points, so as to produce a sense of superiority in marriage, but ignore each other's contributions. In the long run, the final result of this marriage can only be divorce.
Not the same marriage
Zhao Feng is almost forty years old this year, but so far, Zhao Feng is still a single man, and he has never even divorced. Because Zhao Feng has always been a career-oriented man, he was born in the countryside since he was a child, and he knows the importance of money.
But in today's society, how can it be so simple to make a career, let alone for Zhao Feng, who was born in the countryside. In the end, Zhao Feng still relied on his outstanding ability to have a place in this city and became the manager of a company, even so, he was still busy with work every day, and only now did he have a little free time.
When your career stabilizes, it's natural time to think about lifelong events. At this time, Zhao Feng was confused, for so many years, he was always busy with his career, and he didn't even have a good impression of a girl around him.
But he didn't think about it so much, and went directly to participate in the blind date. He has a clear goal, he doesn't pursue the feeling of heartbeat, as long as the conditions of the two people are about the same, and they are people who can live.
In the end, Zhao Feng found Li Qing, Li Qing is a local, and he has a younger brother at home, who works as a ** in a hospital. The family has a house and a car, the conditions are good, and the age is five or six years younger than Zhao Feng, Zhao Feng is very satisfied.
But it must make sense not to get married for such a long time, that is, because Li Qing's bride price needs 200,000, which has persuaded many people, but fortunately, Zhao Feng has a lot of savings over the years, which is within the scope of his acceptance.
The problem of money is solved, and then things are naturally easy to say, the age of the two people is not young, they are very realistic, and they can get married after the conditions are negotiated, and within half a year after the blind date, the two of them got married.
Self-righteous
In fact, Li Qing was reluctant at the beginning, because she knew that the other party was born in the countryside, so she felt a little guilty, and finally her parents said to her: "You don't look at how old you are, it's good that you can find such a thing, and you won't be able to marry if you pick and choose." ”
Li Qing also understands the truth, after looking for so long for so many years, and there is no suitable marriage partner, this is the best on the whole, even so, Li Qing still looks down on Zhao Feng in her heart.
After getting married, Zhao Feng bought a house, and like everyone else, he also paid a down payment, and then slowly repaid the mortgage. When Li Qing found out, she sarcastically ridiculed Zhao Feng and said, "Why don't you buy a house in full, you are not quite rich." ”
Zhao Feng smiled bitterly and said: "I have a lot of money, I haven't saved it for so many years, and now many people can't even afford to pay the down payment, I still have a little left, in order to prepare for emergencies in the future." Li Qing snorted coldly and did not speak again.
When Li Qing was not married, she was a moonlight clan, and after she got married, Li Qing was even more excessive, not only did her salary not enough to spend, but she also had to ask Zhao Feng for money every month.
Zhao Feng still has to repay the mortgage every month, and his life has become tighter. But Zhao Feng thought that because he had just gotten married, he wouldn't be able to live, and it would be good to wait until a long time.
But Li Qing didn't think so, she spent Zhao Feng's money, but at the same time, she looked down on Zhao Feng, thinking that the other party just earned a few thousand yuan more than herself, and everything else was not at the same level.
is to hold such an attitude, the housework at home is not done, and the food is not cooked, not only that, but Zhao Feng is also called to work every day, and he has to specify what dishes to eat every day, if he can't eat or does not eat well, he will be cold and violent Zhao Feng.
This state has lasted for a year, Zhao Feng thought that the other party would return to life soon, but a year has passed, and without being stopped by Zhao Feng, Li Qing has become more and more excessive, and the expenses every month have become more and more.
Recognize reality
Zhao Feng knew that he couldn't go on like this forever, it was his indulgence for so long that Li Qing had no concept of money, Zhao Feng already had a plan, he wanted to have a good talk with Li Qing.
On this day, Li Qing asked Zhao Feng for money again, but this time Zhao Feng did not give it, but said: "Wife, we are both not young anymore, it's time to live a good life, and we will have to think about the children in the future." ”
Li Qing didn't get the money, so she immediately got angry and said: "What do you think, even I can't serve well, and I still want children, don't think about it, if you don't serve me comfortably, you don't want children in your life." Don't talk nonsense, hurry up and give money. ”
Zhao Feng knew that this was what he was used to in the past year, and he could feel Li Qing's superiority in front of him, but at that time, Zhao Feng still had a glimmer of hope, thinking that the other party would be moved by his sincerity, but time has proved that the truth is the opposite, the other party has to inch in.
At this time, Zhao Feng had already made up his mind, and he said to Li Qing: "Wife, have you had enough?"Let's get a divorce. As soon as this sentence came out, his wife, who had always had a sense of superiority, panicked instantly.
Li Qing didn't think that the other party dared to file for divorce at all, it was with such an idea that Li Qing dared to be so fearless, at this time, the other party took the initiative to file for divorce, so that Li Qing didn't know what to say for a while.
In her subconscious, she wanted to redeem it, but how could she be willing to bow her head when she had just said cruel words, and it took a long time to say a word: "Okay, you Zhao Feng, if you want to divorce me, then divorce, don't regret it when the time comes." ”
How could Zhao Feng regret it, after the divorce, Zhao Feng only felt relaxed. Finally, I don't have to live every day when my wife spends her own money and looks down on herself.
On the other hand, Li Qing, after the divorce, Li Qing returned to her parents' house, and her parents, who knew what had happened, did not support their daughter. Instead, she reprimanded her, and in the end, Li Qing didn't let Li Qing live in the house, so she rented a house near the company, mainly to let Li Qing experience the difficulty of life.
It is easy to go from thrift to luxury, and it is difficult to go from luxury to thrift. Even if he looks down on Zhao Feng, he still needs to spend his money, and Li Qing, who has been divorced at this time, finally knows that it is not easy to make money, and the current situation is still the same as before, and it is already good not to be hungry every day.
Now Li Qing knows that she was naïve at the beginning, and she has a good life, but it is really a stupid act to bury the happiness of the second half of her life for the sake of that ridiculous sense of superiority.
Be grateful, especially between husband and wife. Although two people are married and have formed a family belonging to two people, they still have to be grateful for each other's contributions to this family. Because only in this way will the two of them have a steady stream of motivation to create a better future for the family.
And Li Qing is obviously a counterexample of this, not only is she not grateful to her husband, but she looks down on each other. Imagine that the family's money is earned by themselves, and their wives still look down on themselves, who can live such a life?Divorce is an inevitable consequence.
For such a woman, only after experiencing the beatings of the real society will she feel grateful for the efforts of others, but there is no regret medicine in the world to take. What can be left to oneself is nothing but self-blame and regret.