Recently, there was such a news, in the pediatric outpatient clinic of the Bund campus in Shanghai, a little girl was found to have turned white in the lungs, and the doctor recommended hospitalization, but the child's mother said"Take some medicine and go back to class"。
"I've met a lot of parents like that," the doctor said. ”
We can't help but wonder, what is the parents of Chinese children, is it true that no matter what the children's vital signs are, learning Xi is the king?To what extent is this parental indifference to the health of their children?
It can be seen that what Chinese children lack is emotional education and respect.
In China's education system, academic achievement and intellectual development are emphasized, while emotional development is often neglected.
Although they may not lack material fulfillment, they lack guidance and care for emotional survival.
Children often have no one to teach them how to cope and relax when faced with broken friendships, family disharmony, emotional setbacks, the death of a loved one, a sick pet, trauma, bullying, depression, anxiety, loneliness, and loneliness.
In addition, China's educational environment also underestimates children's personality and overestimates intelligence. Children are often evaluated and defined as having good or bad grades, ignoring their personality and emotional needs. They need to be respected and accepted, not just evaluated and compared.
Parents' heartfelt acceptance and approval of their children is a vital part of their child's development.
China's education system also lacks an environment for pluralistic evaluation. Children are often asked to blindly pursue achievement and standardized success, ignoring their individual differences and nature. They need an educational environment that respects their nature and development, and that allows them to be evaluated in a variety of ways.
In addition, traditional Chinese culture and society have instilled many concepts about how to die, but rarely tell people what they live for, how they live, and with whom they live.
This way of thinking leads to a loss of meaning and purpose in life.
Children need to be taught how to find their purpose in life, how to build good relationships with others, how to develop their own interests and hobbies, and how to persevere and grow in the face of difficulties and setbacks.
Chinese children need to be taught how to deal with emotional problems, how to relax, and how to build good relationships. They need to be respected and accepted, not just evaluated and compared. They also need an educational environment that respects their nature and developmental laws, and can give them multiple evaluations.
Most importantly, they need to be taught how to find their purpose in life, how to build good relationships with others, and how to persevere and grow in the face of difficulties and setbacks.
The direction of children's growth is very important, and guiding children is key to becoming emotionally intelligent and independent thinkers.