Before reading this article today, I hope you will think about it first, if you live a long life and can live to be in your 80s, your life will only be about 30,000 days, except for all kinds of eating, drinking, sleeping, and working, you really have only about 10,000 days. "Life is full of challenges and uncertainties, and no matter what stage you are in, you need to face a variety of questions: How to make a living?How to find your passion?How to choose the right partner?How do you master a skill?How to effectively manage your emotions and attention?
I have had fans ask me for paid counseling, whether it is about emotional marriage, family of origin or career success, and emotional management, my biggest feeling is that many people are afraid to face all kinds of trials in life, and they don't know what they should do to be better and more correct. "
Is it useful to worry about it?In fact, to put it bluntly, this is the evasion psychology of the weak, because they are afraid of losing and losing, so they can only escape from reality. But can you escape to **?You will one day have to face this bleak and not beautiful reality, and at that time, you may only feel more pain, endless regret, and feel that you have wasted about 30,000 days of your life. Although the world we live in seems to be the same as the movie "Truman's World", everything is hypocritical and absurd, but the pain experienced is real. Everyone longs for a happy life, but the essence of life is often suffering. The truth of life is to endure hardships and tribulations.
This is not just a question of competition in which society operates the law of the jungle, nor is it just a question of the upper class making the lower ones suffer for the sake of enjoyment. As human beings, everyone has to face their own life issues, regardless of whether they are rich or poor. Imagine that even if a person has endless wealth, power, and power, you may not be able to imagine his happiness, but his pain is also unimaginable.
Many people are at the bottom, and their cognition has been crazy on the Internet**, thinking that with money there is everything, and money at least for the current poor dick silk desperately needed garage bride price, may be a little helpful, but how to manage a marriage and family, how to educate children, how to unite the whole family, how to find their destiny and value, not only with money can be solved. What is more relied on?It is the wisdom that has been cultivated after solving all kinds of difficult problems along the way. Therefore, everyone will go through several big crises and troughs in their lives, and after carrying it over, you will completely awaken and get a new life. If you can't get through it, you can only resign yourself to your fate and give up on yourself. In my opinion, as long as you realize that life is born painful, and happiness is only an additional reward, so that even if you are unlucky, there is a stage where something is not going well, and bad luck continues, then your mentality will be more calm, because this may be the test given to you by God, and it is a rare way for you to regain your life and introspect yourself.
Do you believe that a person must have enough good fortune to experience a low point in his lifetime, whether it is in career, marriage, or other aspects, this is not a kind of self-comfort. Why do I say that?Because only in the moment of love in the trough can you be forced to stop the wrong steps, look back at yourself, and you will have the opportunity to hear what God really wants to say to you. In the face of difficult problems, most people will choose to escape or fear, and only a few people are willing to face difficulties and constantly play ...... with difficultiesFinding problems, thinking about problems, solving problems, the real cattle and big guys have all come all the way. The trough is the best opportunity for life to transform, and it is the end of all the bad luck in the past. The truths that are suddenly presented to you will definitely make you difficult to accept at the beginning, that is, it is heartbreaking, what you are afraid of will come, and what you cherish will lose.
Love, family, friendship, money, fame, self-esteem, etc., these things will be shattered in your original cognition one by one, more than the love that you believed in in the past, the dead and alive, and the belief that you will never lose, will collapse with your three views, and smash on your most self-righteous beliefs in the past, you don't have to be hard-mouthed.
If what you thought and did in the past was just as good, then why are you empty-handed and empty around you at the moment?
It is only when you reach a desperate situation that you will come to a great understanding, because a desperate situation often means that your fear has reached its peak.
Once you cross that step, the old world, which was built on fear of loss, begins to unravel.
What wealth, power, status, dignity, morality, love, family, friendship, reputation, they are like glass shattered to the ground, those things that you rely on incomparably incomparably and rely incomparably on, those things that constitute the most important things in the first half of your life, are now in such a sparse place and placed in front of you.
As you move from fear, despair, and coldness to calm acceptance, and then to scrutiny, you will suddenly find that although they are broken, you are you, the world is still that world, and only the filter of the warm vein that was once called happiness is gone.
Other than that, nothing has changed, and the whole world is clearer and more real than ever. Previously you lived in a mirror system built from these fragments, which were too precious, too ornate, too fragile.
It's wrong, so that it shatters at the touch, you have to do your best to maintain the balance of that world, and now there is no need for this, in the most difficult time, hope does not appear, from beginning to end, you only have yourself.
So be it, you take the first step, you hear the whole world shattering behind you, you don't look back, you say goodbye to the phantom called happiness, but you gain complete freedom.
From now on, the world can no longer deceive and stop you in the slightest. Although you will still rebuild the new world from the ruins, you know that you are no longer dependent on them, these pieces are no longer your filters and walls, they will eventually become your steps, and you will be crowned king, even if it comes at the cost of eternal loneliness.
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