The phenomenon of two-child families now gnawing on women may affect the future of their daughters!
in a family with two children"The daughter gnaws the old"Phenomenon: Parents save a moment, but it may affect their daughter's future.
With the improvement of living standards and the country's encouragement for a second child, many families have chosen to welcome the arrival of their second child. Many parents want their children to have more playmates when they are young so they don't feel lonely, and in adulthood, they also want to support and help each other.
However, in some families, especially when there is a son and a daughter, the relationship between the two children is not as harmonious as the parents would like. This situation is often more likely to lead to conflict and may be directly related to the parent's educational philosophy.
In two-child families, there is one called"Gnawing girl"has brought a lot of pain to the situation of girls. When I was working abroad, I once met a colleague who was a very steady and frugal person. During one conversation, she couldn't hold back her tears. The reason is that her parents bought an Apple mobile phone and naturally asked her to buy one for her brother as well.
Although the income of this job is relatively high, it also requires a lot of labor. The reason why this girl chose to work alone is because she knows that her family's financial situation is average, so she rarely asks her family for help when she is in trouble.
Buying a mobile phone was a deliberate decision she made and she wanted to do it that way"Comfort"Myself. However, in a foreign country, she could not be taken care of by her parents due to her hard work, and her younger brother did not study seriously at home, so he became a young man"Wooden house at home", just asked his sister to help him buy something.
It made her very upset, but when I asked her to refuse, she was afraid to appear"Not sensible"γIt can be seen"Gnaw on the daughter"It has been deeply imprinted in her concept and has become a habit, which is really distressing.
Some parents only focus on the immediate convenience and do not consider the impact of their decisions on their daughter's future. This phenomenon is often closely related to the attitude of parents. A striking example is a college student from a rural area who has a monthly salary of seven or eight thousand yuan, but because she has to send a large part of her salary to her parents to pay for her younger brother's public school tuition, she has to live in a dormitory in her unit, wearing inferior clothes. The situation is incredible.
In general,"Hope that the girl will become a phoenix"Parents only care about the immediate convenience and let their daughters take the responsibility that should be borne by themselves, without considering the possible consequences. In such an environment, it is difficult for students to develop a true sense of self-worth.
A parent's short-sighted behavior can have a negative impact on a daughter's future. First of all, these girls may study and work hard in the present, but lack love for life and may lose the motivation to work hard in the future.
Secondly, when a girl intervenes in his love life, if the boy sees his parents treating him like this, he will most likely choose to keep his distance. In the end, even sibling relationships can become estranged, causing parents to feel"Things didn't work out as they should"γ
Parental perceptions have a profound impact on students, which is why it is emphasized"Level the playing field"γ
Girls who grow up in such families will have two different reactions. Some may not be aware of their parents' problems and blindly follow all the requests of their parents. They think that taking care of their brother is their most important goal, and it becomes what we call it"Adoptive brother madman", so it can be difficult to find the right partner.
There are also girls who, after experiencing the excessive demands of their parents, become frustrated with them and thus distance themselves from their parents altogether. This is clearly not the outcome that parents want.
Parents' perceptions and attitudes towards students can have a profound impact, especially if they are practice-oriented"Impartiality"Principle. The greatest benefits can only be achieved if the family education of boys and girls is carried out on an equal footing and in accordance with clear principles.
In general, homeschooling is an integral part, but some parents mistakenly believe that the only principle of education is to keep students"Obedient"while ignoring the negative impact of this practice on both students.
Abstract] Parents influence students' lives to a certain extent. They need to examine their own perceptions and ways of educating to ensure that both students are treated fairly and cared for.
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