I'm 58 years old and I've lived together three times. Every time it makes me feel disappointed and chilled. During these three partnerships, I gradually learned the cruel truth: many people do not really want to find a wife to spend the rest of their lives with, but are looking for a free babysitter.
My first time I partnered was shortly after my husband passed away. I felt very lonely and helpless, longing for a warm embrace. Through a friend's introduction, I met a man who was a few years older than me and was also widowed, and we soon started working together.
At first, I thought we would support each other as husband and wife, but I soon found out that he had a lot of demands on me. He wanted me to take care of his food and daily life, take care of the house, and even asked me to pay for his children's school fees. I felt like his babysitter, and he didn't have much affection for me. Eventually, I chose to break up.
My second experience with a partner was equally disappointing. This time it was a man I met on a blind date, he was much older than me, retired, and had good financial conditions. We have known each other for a short time and have lived together. However, I found him to be very sloppy and had poor living habits.
He wanted me to take care of his daily life, but he was not willing to give anything for me. He was very cold to me and often even found fault with me for not being one. I felt like his servant, and he didn't have much of a heart for me. In the end, I chose to break up.
The third time I teamed up, I was completely chilled. This time it was a man I met in an elderly activity, he was much older than me and had a gentle personality. We started working together after being together for a while. However, I found that he was very dependent on me and asked me to do almost everything for him.
He wanted me to take care of his daily life, but he was not willing to give anything for me. He was very cold and ruthless towards me, and even often indifferent to me. I felt like his babysitter, and he didn't have much of a heart for me. In the end, I chose to break up.
These three experiences have made me deeply reflect on my attitude and choices towards relationships. I've realized that when it comes to finding a partner, authenticity is the most valuable quality. If a person just treats you as a free babysitter with no real care and love for you, then such a relationship is meaningless and worthless.
In the future, I will be more careful in choosing a partner, not only looking at external conditions and material needs. I will pay more attention to each other's inner world and emotional attitude, and look for a partner who can truly understand, support and love each other. I believe that only sincere feelings can bring happiness and long-term companionship.
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