The older woman is widowed, married to a dog for the second time, and almost lost her late season!

A few days ago, I saw a letter from a reader on the other account next doorVery typical, be sure to share it with you!This female contributor is 35+ years old, and has a 4th grade son, and the family of three is very happyIt's a pity that my husband passed away two years ago.

The heroine said that her husband was very aliveCompetent, diligent, and family-oriented, also very good to his son, left them mother and son when they leftTwo full-cost houses in second-tier cities. The heroine herselfAnnual income of 300,000, not bad money, so life is not bad. may be that the first marriage brought her too good feelings, and after her husband left, the heroine has always beenLooking forward to moving into the next relationship.

Then on a blind date**, she met her current boyfriend. In this man's situation, every time he says it, he has to pinch a cold sweat!1. The divorce has a baby (to the ex-wife), but the reason for the divorce is unknown. When I first met, the man said that the divorce was becauseThe investment failed and owed a huge debt of xx million, because he was ashamed of his ex-wife, he went out of the house and carried everything alone.

But after 1 month of contact, I slowly squeezed the toothpaste and said that it was actually a fake divorce at the beginning, and I originally planned to sell a house to pay off the debt after I left, but my ex-wife regretted it. So in order to repay the debt, he engaged in online gamblingand continued to lose xx million... After a while, he said that he was sued by his ex-wife and had to give itThe ex-wife repaid the money xx million... It's like a bottomless pit, and it doesn't feel like there's any truth in your mouth!

2. Because he has no money, no house, no car, and still owes a lot of debts, the man is now working abroad to pay off his debts. Not to mention that you won't be able to save money for the next few yearsI haven't seen each other yet(And the man also revealed that his colleagues around him know PC).

At first, he said that he would only stay abroad for a year, but after the two of them got better, he saidStay at least three years before you come back. Even if the other information is true, I can't even see each other, and it's lonely to fall in love.

3. Emotionally unstable, often angry, cold war, and suspicious for a little thing. Just like this, it looks like a man with slots and pits all over his body, and the reaction of normal people should be to take a taxi at the speed of light and run away, right? But the heroineNot only did he not run away, but he also went up, not only did he go up, but he also advanced money to help others pay off their debts, and even talked about marriage!

The heroine said that because of herselfWidows with babies are very inferior, in the blind date market, it is already at the bottom of the chain of contempt, and there are too few men who can accept it. So I'm afraid that I will regret it after missing this scum. After reading this post, the whites of my eyes are already rolling to my heels...

This man is either one24k pure betting dogs, the ex-wife must have divorced because she couldn't stand it, or she was just onePig Killing Plate. can actually arrange such a wonderful, tortuous and tragic past for himself. It's also a talent. The heroine is even more eaten***. Haven't heard of itYou can't believe the words of the dogIs it?

People have lied to you again and again, and you have believed it without any doubt. No wonder the pig killing business is so hot now!The IQ of an older divorced woman who dares to love is so worryingI've only been single for two years and I've been smart to such an extent, and the money is so easy to make, I want to be a pig killer when I look at it.

Of course, it is also possible that she was in her first marriage, and she was indeed too comfortable and well protected, which caused her brain function to deteriorate. Remember we picked one up beforeAunt Crooked Fruit encountered a pig killing plateIt's a similar situation. The crooked fruit aunt in that case was spoiled by her ex-husband as a little princess, but the ex-husband accidentally got sick and hung up, and the lonely crooked fruit aunt did not hesitate to lose the whole family's property and even borrow money to contribute to the pig killing plate. What else does this mean?That's to take care of our bodies!Men and women are the same!

Otherwise, you will earn more money for your family like an old scalperI don't know which ** gambling dog's pocket will go into the future in the future!We must live wellEnjoy the happy life you create with your own hands and feet, and spend the money you earn by yourself!

The heroine said that she was at the bottom of the chain of contempt for a mate, and I believed it. That's her tooRushed to the doctor when he was sick, and committed himself to looking for scumThe root cause.

Because there's really no good choice!

To put it bluntly, this is because the Chinese marriage market has always been rightLeftover daughters, second-married women, with strong malice. We understand the reason for leftover women, people are hoarding goods and not sellingIt reduces the number of goods circulating in the market, which in disguise raises the market**. So in the face of leftover women, the accusations are ever-changing, and everything that remains the same is: you have a broken thing that has been on the shelf for so long and can't be sold, it is definitely not a good product. Hurry up and sell it at a 5% discount while it's still within the expiration date. Otherwise, you'll end up miserable.

That's itLower pricesHm. If a second-married woman is treated maliciously, it will be even more tragicThe price reduction is even more severe. So much so that if there is a second-married woman in the TV series who falls in love, the following comments will appear:

"This woman has been divorced, in real life, who would want her?”

Second-married women are so popular?”

Either she is very good and charming, and she is also fragrant and sweet when she divorces (for example, Faye Wong will not worry about whether she can marry for the second time). But for the average person, these are the kindsThe probabilities are quite low. So most ordinary women are in their second marriageIn the process of picking and being picked, it is becoming more and more difficult, and we have to lower the criteria for choosing a mate, or even lower our profile. This led to the reluctance to throw away the slag, and it was a pity to abandon it.

Could it be that because of this, divorced single women are destined to die alone?Of course not. We humans as social animals,It's normal to have emotional needs. But I think the heroine is in this condition,There's really no need to hate marriage so much.

Although I don't have a husband anymore, buthas money, a baby and a job, and his father loves his mother. The son is obedient to give you peace of mind, the parents help you save effort, and the in-laws do not come to fight with you for property. Isn't this more than lowering the standard and forcing yourself to get married for the second time?If you just want to find someone to rely on, the other party is obviously not a good match, and it is obvious that people rely on you. Besides, if you want to find support, you don't have to get married!It's perfectly possible to just fall in love!

There have been such examples around before, middle-class women with good work incomes, who have been divorced for several years, and have been on blind dates. I have been on a blind date because I don't want to give up hope for a relationship;But it has not been compatible, because I don't want to compromise and let my quality of life decline.

If the second marriage is not as good as the first marriage, and it is not even good to be single with a baby, then why remarry?She also tried to find a very good financial situation, but the other party has parents, two children, and elementary school.

I really want to live together, go to work, serve the elderly, and help with homework. I have this energy to give it back to peopleWhat stepmother?Isn't the chicken itself fragrant?

Or maybe it's the kind of economy that is not as good as hers, maybe handsome, younger than herself, and can provide some economic value. But think about itI haven't reached the point where I can use money to buy feelings as a rich woman, is our second marriage for poverty alleviation?So wouldn't it be nice to just maintain the status quo and go on a date (not to invest financially), but also not lose the expectation of life?I suddenly thought of a joke I had read before. Spread one on the netThe university professor is widowed and wants to marry his nanny, but the nanny is not willing to do so. Why?The babysitter said

I take care of you now, and I still have a salary of 7,000 yuan a month, and if I marry you, I don't have a penny every month, and I have to pay it backAll kinds take care of you more.

Second, that isImprove your strength. Some people just want to get married, meet a good partner, and of course it's good to get married again. At the end of the day, we still want itFind ways to improve yourself.

Marriage isFor-profit organizations, to put it bluntly, is a partnership to do the company. If you are good enough and can come up with more capital, you will naturally have more choice and right to speak. Summary:Through this story, we can draw several revelations. First, find a husband and wife, no matter whether the conditions are up or down, the character is the first. (Unless it's milk tea Deng Wendi's kind of play and leave.) Not to mention that the conditions are very poor, even if his conditions are good and his character is doubtful, it is recommended to turn around and run immediately. People with a history of gambling and a history of lying have nothing else to say. You can pass it directly.

Second, marriage is not like playing at home, it must be stable!You don't even know how meaningful the word "stable" is!It turns out that marriage is a trickle of water, and what is needed isGet along, get to know each other, and investigate for a long timein order to judge rationally after the passion fades.

Women don't rush into marriage easily with a hot headThe second marriage should be even more cautious. Think carefully and be cautious at every step you take. The act of blindly being together without examining each other's situation is like a person who can't swim being thrown into the sea, and not drowning can only count your fate!

Third, it's not that you can't marry twice, butDon't put your hopes in others. You can't expect to be blessed with the rest of your life by an unrelated personThis kind of thinking and mentality is fundamentally wrong.

Finally, I saw the words of a netizen on the Internet, and I particularly agreed:

History tells us that it is better for older rich women not to get married, it is very dangerous!(Although the heroine of the original post is not a rich woman, the conditions are not bad, and it can be compared).

There are many rich women who have died in the childish ideal of dead wood and spring, and the late season is not guaranteed.

I'd rather find an intellectual who walks tremblingly without the strength of a chicken, rather than a young and sturdy little fresh meat gangster with no formal job or an unstable occupation!