I am going to get married in two months, the hotel is booked, the car is booked, the wedding photos are taken, and relatives and friends have been notified, I don't know how it will end. Who told me what should I do?
32 years old and unmarried, he fell in love several times when he was studying, but they all ended up without a problem, and he was busy with work, which also delayed his marriage.
This year, I was introduced by relatives to Xiao Feng from the next village, he is 35 years old this year, the only child in the family, and I heard that he has only been in love once in college. The three months of knowing each other are all towards the purpose of getting married, and they meet every weekend. The families of both parties were in a hurry, so every time they met, they talked about the bride price, three golds, taking wedding photos, and setting up wine. Not long ago, the wedding banquet and the like were finally arranged, and a ceremonial engagement banquet was held, and the relatives of both parties came to attend.
Thinking that when I got older, I should hurry up and have children, and I got engaged anyway, and we lived together that night. Who knew that this was the beginning of the nightmare, he tried several times in a row that night, but he couldn't, he said that it was because he solved it a few days ago, and now he is tired and can't be interested, and his body is still shaking. Then we sat on the edge of the bed and discussed countermeasures, I said let him go to the hospital to check if it was a physical problem, he flatly refused, saying that it was trampling on his self-esteem, and I complained that I would break up next time.
So I was so angry that I drove home that night, I thought this was an insult to me, could it be that I wasn't physically attractive enough?
After I got home, I had no sleep, all kinds of checks, and remembered all kinds of details when we usually went out shopping, he went to the toilet more times outside than me, cooled down and blew a little wind to say cold, went out only gently pulled hands, no other physical contact. I thought it was because he had a physical problem, and he didn't dare to face it, or he had something to hide. The more I thought about it, the more wrong it became, and the next morning I explained the situation to my family, and I said that I was going to withdraw from the marriage, and I would return the bride price, and I would be ashamed.
My parents told me to think about it carefully, and said that it might be normal to let Xiao Feng go to the hospital for a check-up, but it was just a moment of nervousness. I also thought that I would give him a chance, and if there was a real problem, I would accompany him to face it.
At night, I don't know what he told his parents, his parents actually said that I cheated on marriage, and said that there were several girls who were better than me waiting to go on a blind date with him, but they were unlucky enough to choose me, but I bullied his son to be an honest man.
When I heard this, I immediately put the bride price 880,000 yuan was returned to him in full, since his parents didn't approve of me, why should I be nostalgic. Sanjin asked me to return it to them in cash, and they said that Sanjin was useless to them, and it was impossible to leave the things of my ex to his future wife. I just want to get rid of their family as soon as possible, and I don't think of the contradiction, so I took the three gold to the jewelry store to exchange, and now it actually comes out that I didn't return the three gold, which is worth about 40,000 yuan in total, that is, I cheated on the marriage and played with their son's feelings. The marriage was not successful, and it caused a commotion.
Now I still believe in love, but I won't look for it again, my vision is not good, and my luck is not good. I didn't like him much, I just wanted to find someone to make do with when I got older, but now I am relieved to get out of the marriage, I can say whatever others like, respect my inner thoughts are the most important, and I don't want to accommodate anymore.
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