My name is Li Jing, I am 25 years old, I am more introverted and a little shy. Half a year ago, I met my current boyfriend, Lin Fan, on a blind date. He is 3 years older than me, a sales manager of a foreign company, tall and handsome, and has a successful career.
When he pursued me, I quickly became intrigued. After a month of dating, Lin Fan proposed to me. Although I had planned to observe him for a while, I finally agreed to marry him after repeated pursuits.
The moment I got the marriage certificate, I blushed and my heart was beating, and I was too shy to look at Lin Fan. However, Lin Fan changed his previous gentleness and thoughtfulness, and began to say to me commandingly: "Come home with me tonight, and you will be my person from now on!."”
Surprised, I retorted, "Why so suddenly?"I haven't explained it to my parents yet. "What's there to explain!Lin Fan said impatiently, "I'm already your husband, do I still need to ask my parents for consent?"”
I felt speechless and a sense of unease welled up in my heart. His former image of gentleness contrasts sharply with his current strong attitude. However, after thinking about it, he may have just received the certificate, so he was too excited and couldn't control his emotions.
Don't be so inhibited!He interrupted me impatiently, "You have to go back to my house tonight, and this will be your home from now on." Let's go, follow me!He glared at me fiercely, gritted his teeth and said, "Okay, then I'll let you go for the time being!".
But you have to remember that now you are my legal wife. Whatever happens in the future, you must listen to me!Although I was scared, I still mustered up the courage to stare back: "Lin Fan, you are so unreasonable!."
I've never seen your attitude like this!"From now on, you don't have to think about the way you used to be!He said with a gloomy face, "I am your husband, and you must obey my commands." Let's go, I'll send you home!”
Lin Fan sent me home with a dark face, and left without saying a word. Back in my room, I was filled with thoughts and confusion. I originally thought he was a mature and stable person, but after receiving the certificate, he behaved completely differently, which made me deeply distrust him.
Lin Fan began to lose his temper as soon as he entered the door and ordered me to go home with him immediately. I begged him to go to the café and have a quiet talk, and he reluctantly agreed. In the café, I plucked up the courage to say to Lin Fan, "Let's talk calmly, okay?"
You have changed too much recently, and you are no longer like the Lin Fan I know. I wonder what the hell is going on. ”
Lin Fan said dissatisfiedly: "What if I change?"I'm your partner now, you should listen to me!From now on, all decisions have to go according to my plan, understand?”
My calm attitude disappointed him, but I still tried to keep calm and said, "Lin Fan, you can't point fingers at me and deprive me of my rights and dignity just because I am your partner.
I'm part of this family, too. What does family have to do with you?Lin Fan sneered and said, "I am the one who supports my family and makes money to support my family." You only need to take care of the baby and the housework, you don't have to take care of the rest!”
You!My eyes widened, "We are equal partners, how can you talk like that!."I also have my own thoughts and opinions. Then you should move in with me!Lin Fan ** said, "Don't blame me for being rude if you rub it any longer!."”
I was extremely disappointed in the face of his vexatious behavior. This Lin Fan is no longer the one I am familiar with, and the gap between our concepts is so big, I really can't accept such a marriage.
However, Lin Fan immediately rushed downstairs to my house and forcibly rang the doorbell to ask me to go down. When I went downstairs, he was hysterically shouting, "Li Jing, are you playing with me?"
Dare to mention divorce to me, believe it or not, I make you look good!I was so frightened that I took two steps back and said, "Calm down, Lin Fan." We are really not suitable, there is only one way to divorce. ”
He grabbed my arm and said angrily, "I spent so much money on a banquet, how could I let you go?"You unsympathetic woman!"I was stunned, is this still the Lin Fan I know?
I broke free from his hand, took two steps back, and said with tears in my eyes, "Can you respect me a little?"I'm also a person with feelings. We really don't fit in, divorce is the only solution!”
Lin Fan suddenly rushed over, grabbed my hair, and shouted, "Divorce?."Are you humiliating me?I screamed in pain, but he tugged at my hair harder and yelled, "I have paid so much for you, how can you do this to me?".
I begged him to let go, but he reacted even more violently, and he slapped me so hard that my eyes were in pain. I screamed for help, but the people around me turned a blind eye.
Just when I thought I was going to be killed by him, a police car came speeding up, and two policemen jumped out of the car to stop Lin Fan's behavior. It turned out that it was a neighbor who called the police.
Lin Fan was detained for five days. I immediately filed for a personal protection order and filed a formal divorce lawsuit with the court. This marriage was like a nightmare for me, and I couldn't take it anymore.
Lin Fan's divorce lawsuit was very intense, he resolutely refused to admit his mistakes, shifted all the blame to me, and even found his mother to humiliate me and devalue me.
I broke down and cried, and the judge struck the gavel five or six times in a row before driving Lin Fan's mother out of the courtroom. In the end, the court ruled in front of conclusive evidence that Lin Fan's domestic violence was established, and all the property belonged to me as compensation.
Lin Fan's mother scolded the judge and was pressed to the ground by the bailiff for more than ten minutes. There is still a long way to go in life, but after experiencing this terrible domestic violence, I have learned to cherish myself more.
Don't lose yourself because someone else hurts you, and sometimes the best way to protect yourself is to say "no" bravely. I don't know when I'll be able to come out of the shadows and face love again.
But at least, I survived, I was born again. This is already a new beginning. Lin Fan's violent behavior can never be forgiven. But I won't let hatred eat into my heart.
The future is long, and I have to learn to forgive him, forgive all the hardships, and then wipe away my tears and move on.
After the divorce proceedings, I decided to move to the city to start a new life. Here, I have my best friend Xiaoyu, and I want to get close to her and get out of the haze. Xiaoyu welcomed me warmly, and she and her considerate husband Li Yang took me to a hearty dinner.
Looking at their loving appearance, I can't help but envy their marriage. "Quietly, don't be afraid, we're here. Xiaoyu took my hand. "Let the past pass. Li Yang said with a smile. I was moved to tears. The care of my friends made me feel a warmth that I had not felt for a long time.
Li Jing, I'm Lin Fan. My hands trembled and I almost threw my phone out. Why didn't you let me go of this man who made me unforgettable?I was stunned.
This man who never admits his mistakes and is stubborn, what is he doing?Under the persuasion of a friend, I finally agreed to meet Lin Fan in a public place. I nervously came to the café, only to see that Lin Fan suddenly became thin and weak, and his face was pale.
He trembled, and the person in front of him was completely different from the Lin Fan in my memory. He repented bitterly, confessed to me about his past atrocities, told me about his illness, and begged for my forgiveness.
I couldn't hold back my tears, seeing him change his past so badly, he was no longer the same person he used to be. I nodded, and said in a trembling voice, "Since you have admitted your mistake, I am willing to forgive you."
Forget about the past and take good care of yourself is the most important thing. When Lin Fan heard my words, he almost sat down in his chair and couldn't cry. Little did I know that this would be our farewell.
A month later, Lin Fan said goodbye to this world. His departure was quiet and serene, and according to his family, he sat quietly on his deathbed, staring into deep thought as he stared at the ** of our wedding.
I mourned for him in silence, and finally let go of the burden that had been weighing on my heart for all these years. This man who once made me feel painful, in the end, he exchanged repentance for some of the brilliance of humanity.
I don't know what to say about him, but at least he's been forgiven by me. With her help, I came to realize that these nightmares were just a reflection of psychological trauma.
Through dialogue catharsis and rational analysis, I finally began to emerge from the haze and return to a peaceful life. I plucked up the courage to re-engage with him and found that he had a kind personality and was conscientious in his work.
We started dating a lot and gradually developed a relationship.
When Ling Ran proposed to me, I began to hesitate. The pain of the past has made me have reservations about marriage. Ling Ran didn't complain, just pleaded softly with me to give myself and our love a chance.
I wept on the carpet, sobbing like a little girl. Ling Ran hugged me and said over and over again, "It's okay, I will always be with you." "In the end, with his meticulous care, I mustered up the courage and chose trust and love.
At the wedding, when the pastor announced that we were husband and wife, I couldn't stop crying. Ling Ran gently wiped away my tears and smiled at me. I finally understood that the most important thing in life is tolerance and understanding.
I forgave Lin Fan, and I also forgave myself who was once fragile and timid;Then he was reborn in Ling Ran's love.
From then on, there were no more tears, only smiles. I look forward to roaming the ocean of life with Ling Ran. My married life with Ling Ran was very happy, and he took good care of me.
We often travel together and enjoy a carefree life. However, the good times are always short-lived. Just two years after we got married, Ling Ran's company suddenly went bankrupt, and he lost his job and was anxious at home every day.
I supported him as best I could, but he was getting depressed. One night, he was so drunk that he suddenly made a loud noise, breaking everything in the house, and scared me very much.
He accused me of not supporting him in his most difficult time, saying that he wanted to divorce me. I was scared. Watching Ling Ran lose weight and lose weight under the torture of depression, I couldn't sleep all night, for fear that he would make some sudden decision.
Xiaoyu suggested that I go to Dr. Ye for help.
Exhausted, I went to Dr. Yip, and she listened carefully to what I had to say. Then, she encouraged me to fully support Ling Ran: "Depression is okay, the key lies in your attitude towards him.
It is crucial to give him confidence and support. "I decided to go all out to support Ling Ran. In order to share the family, I quit my job, worked two jobs during the day, and went home at night to be a full-time wife.
I bought back sumptuous dishes to coax Ling Ran to eat, and took good care of his daily life. Under the medicine and my care, Ling Ran finally gradually ** and found himself. One day, he hugged me tightly and wept bitterly, thanking me for not leaving him in the most difficult time.
I also burst into tears. In this way, we get through this difficult time in our lives and become more intimate than before. I realized once again that the most valuable thing for a partner is to protect and support each other during difficult times.
After another two years, Ling Ran finally found a job again, and his life gradually got on the right track. I also gave up my two jobs to concentrate on my husband and children.
Time flies, we go through the ups and downs of life together, and finally become old partners. Our children have grown up and are running into their own futures. Ling Ran and I set up two huts in the small courtyard and started our retirement.
We often look back on the past with emotion. I asked him, "Do you remember when we first met?"”
I remember you at that time, like a frightened fawn, shy and confused. Now that I think about it, it's so cute. Every time I think about it, I laugh out loud.
We used to spend many wonderful times together in the music of our children's house, and although my memory has deteriorated, I don't feel scared or lonely with you by your side.
However, one day, you suddenly suffered a cerebral hemorrhage, and my heart was cut like a knife. You left me after struggling for a few days. You held my hand tightly before leaving, and your eyes were full of reluctance.
Your death broke me, and I wept bitterly at your grave for five days and five nights. In the future, I will go to see you on every important festival and sit in front of the tombstone all day. As the days went on, I gradually learned to accept this fact.
Life is a long road, and you have brought me so much joy and support. Now I want to live well and live up to your waiting and care. With the help of my grandchildren, I was able to live a peaceful and peaceful life in my old age.
Occasionally, I will get together with old friends to talk about the past and talk about life insights. Everything was so beautiful and I was satisfied. On a cloudless morning, I passed away quietly to reunite with my loved ones.
Before leaving, I smiled and looked at the sky: this life, although it has ups and downs, is also finally complete. I look forward to seeing you again in the next life, my dear you.