Aunt Wu is 65 years old and has already enjoyed her retirement. However, one day in the spring, she accidentally fell while out shopping, resulting in a broken thigh.
*After being discharged from the hospital, Aunt Wu felt that she was living alone at home and had no one to take care of her, so she had the idea of going to her eldest son's house to stay in the hospital, hoping to get her son's elderly care.
However, to her surprise, her daughter-in-law resolutely refused. Although Aunt Wu's face was full of old age, her daughter-in-law mercilessly rejected her request and criticized her.
Aunt Wu has two sons. Although she initially took special care of her eldest son, her focus gradually shifted with the birth of her younger son. The eldest son has a wooden personality, compared with this, the younger son's lively and active personality has made Aunt Wu and her husband more happy since he learned to speak.
This led to Aunt Wu and her husband being more partial to their younger son to some extent, believing him to be more likable. The eldest son's exam results were average, and after failing the college entrance examination, Aunt Wu found him a job in an electronics factory assembly line.
In contrast, the youngest son is smart and clever and successfully admitted to a university in Shanghai. On the day Aunt Wu received the admission letter, she happily notified her relatives and friends, and even made her voice hoarse because she kept showing off her son.
The youngest son stayed in Shanghai after graduating from university and got a job at a large company. Although Aunt Wu had the idea of visiting, her youngest son politely rejected her on the grounds that the company had just started and could not leave. Aunt Wu was disappointed, and the opportunity to show off in the big city disappeared.
When my eldest son was 20 years old, I met a girl through an introduction. Despite her ordinary appearance, the girl shows a smart and capable side, and seems to be a virtuous woman with whom she can spend the rest of her life. She took a fancy to her eldest son's simplicity and reliability, and thought that such a man could live a stable life.
Before getting married, the girl's family proposed a bride price of 60,000 yuan, which means "six or six Shun", hoping to have a good fortune. He promised to bring the money back with him on the day of the wedding.
However, Aunt Wu explained to her future daughter-in-law that the family had not been able to save much money because of the support for her brother-in-law's education. Finally, 10,000 and 10,000 pieces are given, which means "one in a thousand".
The daughter-in-law thought to herself that since the marriage was coming, these trivial things were not worth thinking too much about. So, she acquiesced to her mother-in-law's proposal and obeyed her words.
More than a year later, the eldest daughter-in-law ushered in a female doll. Although Aunt Wu did not comment much, she used the excuse that she was busy in the factory, and she did not take care of her daughter-in-law for a whole month.
The daughter-in-law knew in her heart that her mother-in-law valued the boy more. She complained to her husband that her mother-in-law didn't care about me as a daughter-in-law at all, and it seemed that she didn't expect us to be able to support her in the future.
Two years later, the youngest son married a college classmate. The other party is a native of Shanghai, an only child, and the family has already bought a two-room house for her. In order to avoid being looked down upon by her in-laws in the city, Aunt Wu took the initiative to provide a bride price of 100,000 yuan.
After learning of this, the eldest daughter-in-law and her husband had a heated argument, questioning whether the husband was really the biological son of the mother-in-law.
The eldest daughter-in-law is eager to buy a house, but has limited funds on hand. When I proposed a house purchase plan to my mother-in-law, my mother-in-law said that she was short of money and suggested waiting for the right time.
In desperation, the eldest daughter-in-law had to borrow some money from her parents. My parents started a small business in the town and still had some savings on hand.
Aunt Wu retired when her granddaughter was five years old. At this time, the eldest daughter-in-law ushered in her second child and got a healthy little boy as she wished.
The eldest daughter-in-law had a plan and decided to see if her mother-in-law would care about her during this confinement. However, the mother-in-law used busyness as an excuse that she could not take care of her during this period. She suggested that her mother-in-law come first and take care of her when she returned.
The eldest daughter-in-law cried when she heard this, and resolutely gave up her confinement. She told her husband: "I gave birth to two children, and my mother-in-law didn't care for a month. When she's old, don't expect me to take care of her for a day. ”
When she first went to her youngest son's house, Aunt Li put some chili peppers on any dish according to her own taste, and her daughter-in-law was reluctant to stretch out her chopsticks, although her son was quite happy to eat.
After two meals, the daughter-in-law couldn't help but tell her, saying that Shanghainese people eat beets, don't forget to put some sugar when you stir-fry vegetables in the future, I don't like spicy food, don't put chili peppers.
When Aunt Li heard that, she said that, my chili-loving son was so wronged.
The daughter-in-law didn't squeak anymore, turned her head and went to the bedroom.
The son told her, "You are here to serve your daughter-in-law, so listen to her." In fact, I am not so picky about eating, and I have been Xi to it in recent years.
Aunt Li doesn't like to sweat in summer, so even if she goes to her son's house, she doesn't want to take a bath every day.
The son told her that in the summer, you have to take a shower every day, otherwise there will be a smell of sweat on your body, and your daughter-in-law can smell it from afar.
Aunt Li didn't think so, saying that I don't go out at home every day, how much sweat can I sweat. Besides, if you take a shower and change clothes every day, how much water will be wasted, and it will not be easy for you to make money.
The son was a little unhappy, saying that this is in Shanghai, you have to pay attention to what you should pay attention to, and you have to save face for yourself.
Aunt Li is used to being frugal in her hometown, and rarely buys some fish or seafood. So after coming to her son's house, when she bought vegetables, she at most bought some pork or pork chops and the like to improve her life.
A week later, her daughter-in-law told her that on the weekend, let your son take it and buy some seafood.
Aunt Li said that seafood is so expensive, why do you have to eat that thing, eating meat is more nutritious.
The daughter-in-law said, isn't it just to spend money to make money, otherwise what would we do when we work hard?
Aunt Li was not happy, thinking that this daughter-in-law would not be able to live, and she would eat and drink all day long. But as a mother-in-law, I don't dare to say too much.
On the weekend, when she walked into the bustling vegetable market with her son, Aunt Wu couldn't help but complain: "You should have considered going back to your hometown to find a job and find a good daughter-in-law." People in this big city are really difficult to get along with. ”
The son responded with a smile: "Auntie, you just don't Xi used to it." ”
Hearing that her son was so supportive of her daughter-in-law, Aunt Wu muttered to herself and didn't say more.
More than a month later, the little daughter-in-law ushered in a round and chubby baby, which made Aunt Wu happy to hold her grandson.
The overjoyed Aunt Wu also specially asked her husband to prepare 20,000 yuan as a meeting gift for her grandson.
However, the news reached the ears of the eldest daughter-in-law, and she angrily found her father-in-law and blamed: "My son only gave 1,000 for the meeting gift, how can the second family get 20,000?" ”
The father-in-law defended his wife, saying that it was to fight for the second family, so as not to be looked down upon.
The eldest daughter-in-law sneered disdainfully: "The grandchildren are all the same, why should they be so clear, they obviously look down on us." I don't have the ability to bully our family. ”
The father-in-law frowned, and argued that the second child's family was in a big city, and it would be too shabby to give a thousand yuan.
But the eldest daughter-in-law refused to give up: "If you give us a thousand, you will not be afraid of people's jokes." 20,000 yuan is not only to give us face, but also to give yourself face. ”
The father-in-law was so angry that he pointed to his eldest daughter-in-law and said, "You are just messing around." ”
The corners of the eldest daughter-in-law's mouth were hooked, and she said in a deep voice: "Okay, I won't argue anymore." But when you're old, don't expect us to take care of you. ”
The father-in-law retorted angrily: "Don't worry, even if I am old and paralyzed in bed, I won't let you worry about it." Besides, I have another son and daughter-in-law, and I don't expect you to be filial. ”
The little daughter-in-law is in confinement, and the mother-in-law rarely shows up, and only occasionally comes to visit after work. The busyness of the day and night is basically taken care of by Aunt Wu. The little daughter-in-law is very particular about her diet and insists on five meals a day, which she thinks is good for the baby and her body, so she strives to keep not gaining weight during the confinement.
During the day, Aunt Wu can only cook food for her daughter-in-law according to her favorite recipes.
Sometimes the daughter-in-law actually can't eat much, which makes Aunt Wu feel very troubled. But she chose to remain silent, because in front of her little daughter-in-law, she felt that she didn't even dare to speak too loudly.
The son was concerned that his daughter-in-law was not resting well, so he asked his mother to sleep with her grandson in her arms. Only when the baby is hungry, Aunt Wu will hold her grandson and go to wake up her daughter-in-law.
So, the daughter-in-law spent a month, but Aunt Wu unknowingly lost several pounds, and there were two dark circles on her face.
After the confinement ended, Aunt Wu returned to her hometown. However, after just two months of rest, her youngest son called her again and told her that her daughter-in-law was going to work and needed her to come and help take care of the child.
Aunt Wu had no choice but to go back to her youngest son's house again, although she didn't feel comfortable there at all.
Every morning, she has to wake up early to prepare breakfast for the little couple. By mealtime, it was almost time for her grandson to wake up, and she had to hurry to take care of the child.
Therefore, many times, although Aunt Wu has already cooked a meal, she is unable to enjoy the food in time.
During the day, in addition to taking care of her grandchildren, she also has to help with cleaning and laundry. Because the daughter-in-law has always been reluctant to learn to use the washing machine, all the housework is done by the son himself, and he is never willing to let the daughter-in-law participate.
Aunt Wu felt sorry for her son, so she had to take care of these affairs herself. Sometimes she feels very tired, and she will mumble a few words in private, saying that her son has found a daughter-in-law, which is simply looking for an ancestor who does not work, and does nothing, and her son is very spoiled.
At night, Aunt Wu had to sleep with her grandson in her arms. Because the son thinks that if the daughter-in-law does not rest well at night, she will be out of energy when she goes to work the next day.
waited until her grandson was three years old and started kindergarten, and Aunt Wu was relieved. She felt that this time she could finally enjoy some peace and quiet.
Two months later, Aunt Wu was taken aback, and her son actually announced: "My grandson has adapted well in kindergarten, we can pick it up by ourselves, and you can go back to your hometown to rest." ”
Aunt Wu was reluctant to leave, she worked hard to raise her grandson, but now her son wants to keep her out, which is really disappointing, and she is angry and troublesome.
The son also explained in embarrassment that after the death of his father-in-law two years ago, his mother-in-law's physical condition has been declining, and she has been sad all day long, and they are worried that she will fall into depression again. So, I planned to take her over and live with them to ease her mood.
The house is too small, you are here, she can't come. You go back to your hometown first, and when my mother-in-law is well, I will take you over and enjoy the blessings. The son proposed it euphemistically, but the implication was to wronged Aunt Wu.
When Aunt Wu heard this, she burst into tears instantly. She has worked hard for so many years to see her eldest grandson, but her son plans to give her away because of his mother-in-law, which really makes her feel cold.
Despite her grievances, Aunt Wu silently packed her luggage and returned to her hometown.
Her eldest daughter-in-law opened a children's clothing store two years ago and is thriving. This not only did not delay the pick-up and drop-off of the eldest grandson, but also took care of the younger grandson.
The children's clothing in the store is reasonably priced, and business has always been good. When Aunt Wu is in a good mood, she will also go to the store to see her grandson. However, the daughter-in-law seems to be indifferent to her and always treats her coldly.
At the age of 63, Aunt Wu's wife suffered from an acute cerebral hemorrhage, and after being rushed to the hospital, she left this world forever.
Aunt Wu couldn't cry silently, and her family members were persuading her to mourn and persuade her not to hurt her body because of crying. However, the grief in her heart could not be expressed in words, and she could only bear it silently.
When Aunt Wu was 64 years old, she didn't know if she was diagnosed with breast cancer because of excessive sadness, and then underwent surgery**.
After being discharged from the hospital, Aunt Wu's youngest son found a nanny for her to take care of. However, only a month later, when he heard that his mother** was almost gone, the younger son decided to end the nanny service, believing that his mother's illness no longer affected his daily life and that there was no need to spend any more employment costs.
Aunt Wu actually wanted to keep the nanny because she could accompany her to chat and make time pass faster. However, the younger son has already dismissed the nanny because Aunt Wu only has a pension of 3,500 per month and cannot afford to pay for the nanny.
Although the eldest son would visit his mother every few days, the eldest daughter-in-law only visited Aunt Wu once during her hospitalization and never showed up again.
This spring, Aunt Wu accidentally fell while going out shopping, resulting in a broken thigh. Discharged from the hospital half a month later, Aunt Wu felt sad in the face of the deserted scene at home. Although her eldest son would take time out to take care of her, she felt that she should live with him so that she could be more cared for.
However, when Aunt Wu contacted her youngest son to express this idea, the younger son said that his mother-in-law had been living in his house, and it would be a little crowded again.
After hanging up **, Aunt Wu couldn't help but complain that her youngest son was unfilial, and she was sad for a while. She called her eldest son again, but was answered by her eldest daughter-in-law, claiming that her son was taking a bath and asked what was wrong. Aunt Wu reluctantly expressed her expectation that she could live in her son's house temporarily.
The eldest daughter-in-law called ** and asked her, "Do you want to come to our house to care for the elderly?" ”
Aunt Wu was a little embarrassed after hearing this, and nodded slightly hesitantly at the ** end: "Well, it's okay." ”
The eldest daughter-in-law smiled coldly when she heard this: "Since you spoil your youngest son so much, let's go to his house for the elderly." ”
This remark made Aunt Wu a little difficult to respond, and she was speechless for a while.
That night, Aunt Wu packed some luggage and came to the door of her eldest son's house in a wheelchair. However, as soon as the eldest daughter-in-law opened the door and saw that it was her, her expression was immediately indifferent, as if she wanted to close the door again.
Aunt Wu was so frightened that she hurriedly called her son, but her daughter-in-law didn't care: "You don't have to shout, in our family, I have the final say." ”
Aunt Wu could only explain in a low voice: "It's really inconvenient for me to be at home. ”
The daughter-in-law said disdainfully: "Then you should hurry up and go to the youngest son's house, that is your own son." ”
Aunt Wu sighed: "The two sons are both relatives, and I have not favored you." ”
The daughter-in-law laughed mockingly: "You haven't waited to see me yet, you have never taken care of me during the two confinements, and you haven't taken care of any of our children." You are thinking about your youngest son, not only do you not worry about the confinement, but you also show the child to others for several years. Your youngest son is doing well, why don't you go to him for the elderly? Why do you have to come to our house? Do you think we're easy to bully, or do you want to take care of your little son when he runs out? The daughter-in-law's words pierced Aunt Wu's heart, and tears suddenly fell.
She still insists that it is natural for her children to provide for the elderly, and she still has a deposit of 150,000 yuan and a monthly pension of 3,500 yuan, and she is not unprepared to rely on them.
The daughter-in-law turned a deaf ear to her tears and conditions, and indifferently said that it was his duty for her son to support his parents, and she had no obligation to take care of them. No matter how much money she has, it's not worth showing off.
Aunt Wu said pitifully that there may have been a thousand things wrong and wrong in the past, but now that she is old, can't she expect her children to care?
The daughter-in-law immediately interrupted her, accusing her of being ruthless when her daughter-in-law was confined, and indifferent when the child was unattended.
Aunt Wu was speechless in front of her son, and had to cry gloomily under the reproach of her daughter-in-law.
At this time, the eldest son came out and pushed his mother into the house. He criticized his wife as he pushed, blaming her for being so cold and feeling comfortable.
It turned out that although the eldest daughter-in-law was angry with her mother-in-law's favoritism and indifference, when her mother-in-law fell, she was reluctant to ignore it, after all, it was her husband's mother.
Years of resentment made it impossible for her to remain silent, and even though she had already cleaned up her mother-in-law's room, she scolded her at the door.
Late at night, Aunt Wu still had trouble sleeping, not because her leg hurt, but because she realized that she did owe something to her eldest son's family.
Parents must treat their children fairly, and every child is born from the mother's 10th month of pregnancy, and it is all the flesh and blood of the mother. You can't be treated differently because of favoritism. When a child needs help, parents should reach out in time and not lose a child's heart because of partiality.
Otherwise, when you are old and infirm, how can you confidently expect the support of your children?