As parents, we always want our children to be obedient, sensible, and do what we want. Therefore, we often motivate our children with various conditions, such as "if you do housework, I will give you pocket money", "if you do well in exams, I will buy you the toys you want" and so on. These conditions may seem to motivate the child, but in reality they can have some negative consequences.
First of all, this kind of conditionality will make the child feel that everything has a price, and that only through exchange can he get what he wants. This will lead to a deviation in children's cognition of interpersonal relationships and emotions during their growth. They will think that only through exchange or obtaining some kind of benefit can they be recognized and cared for by others.
Secondly, it can also make the child become calculating. Because children will think that they can only protect their interests by calculating. They become reluctant to share, unwilling to help others, and even unwilling to take responsibility for themselves. This is very detrimental to the child's growth and future development.
Therefore, as parents, we should avoid talking to our children about conditions as much as possible. We should educate our children so that they understand the true meaning and purpose of doing things. For example, we can motivate children to do housework through encouragement, praise, etc., so that they understand that doing housework is the responsibility of family members, not for some kind of benefit.
At the same time, we should also let children understand that interpersonal relationships are not an exchange relationship, but a relationship of emotional communication and mutual assistance and cooperation. We should educate our children to care for and help others, so that they can understand that only through sincere dedication can they gain the recognition and love of others.
In short, as parents, we should avoid talking to our children about conditions as much as possible, and instead help our children grow up healthily through positive education and guidance. Only in this way can children become responsible, responsible, and caring people.
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