[Day Update No. 1736].
When we value our authenticity, we will begin to become stronger
Read minimalism, read this paragraph:
We are afraid to be ourselves, in large part due to a lack of self-confidence and self-esteem, which creates this fear. So much so that we need to suppress ourselves, to cover ourselves, to disguise ourselves, to be the perfect me in the eyes of others, rather than the one I really want to be.
Don't dare to say what you really think in your heart, don't dare to do what you really want to do, cater to others, including your parents, and pretend to be a good person, an excellent person, and a powerful person in the public sense.
And the inner fragility and self-shortcomings, self-weaknesses and inadequacies, are deeply hidden.
We have probably tried to live according to our own and others' expectations, our parents and teachers will have certain expectations for our behavior and future career, and our friends will also have certain requirements for us, so as to confirm that we can be part of a small circle, and we will also have expectations for ourselves, so that we will not disappoint ourselves or those around us, but in the end, only you really know what can make you happy and satisfied, and can provide you with breathing space, so be sure to ask yourself what kind of person you can become, what you can do, and what can help you achieve your expectations？
I can't, I don't want to, I don't want to, I can't do it, I don't want to force it....Behind all these "no's", I am doing "myself".
As I became more aware of myself, I became more and more adept at saying no, and even when some rare opportunities were presented to me, I would decisively refuse after knowing whether I was suitable for doing it.
I don't want to embarrass myself, but at the same time, I don't embarrass others. Because when I don't want to do it, then it's actually not good, and it's a waste of other people's expectations and time.
I don't want to push myself, and I'm also responsible for my own emotions and the feelings of others.
The more I know how to reject others, the more I understand that rejection is a kindness, not to promise others everything, and to promise others everything.
When encountering this kind of person who can only say "good", you should be vigilant, be wary of whether the other party is really capable of doing this thing, and also be wary of the other party's not taking a lot of responsibility on him, so that the follow-up is powerless, and even he will think that I have done so much for you, why don't you know how to be grateful?
The more people who know how to reject others, the more they will cherish their time and the more they will appreciate the efforts of others.
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