People live for a lifetime, grass and trees are spring, in this world for a short few decades, time walks slowly in the years, through year after year, we are all passers-by in the timeline.
Since ancient times, human beings have been social animals, closely connected with each other, increasing the liveliness of life, but also bringing warmth and happiness to the world.
Where there are crowds, there must also be noise and noise, filled with countless fireworks. We are all mortals, eating grains, earning a few taels of broken silver, and running around tirelessly all our lives, just to get a little sweetness.
At the same time, as a human being, the reason why we work hard, in addition to survival, deep down we still yearn for someone to recognize, support, and affirm us, if we can go into our hearts, it must be a very pleasant thing.
Psychologist William James once said, "The deepest human need is to feel appreciated." ”When someone compliments, everyone will smile, maybe the praise is a bit excessive, but they are still secretly happy in their hearts.
Most people don't like to be blamed and criticized by others, which is also a sore spot in the human heart.
Of course, in this world, it is best to be able to humbly and cautiously accept the criticism of others and correct it, but there are very few such people.
The deepest part of each of us is the desire to be appreciated by others, which will make people happy, and it will also make people very comfortable, get along with each other happily, and talk freely.
Carnegie said, "If you want people to like you, remember: know their interests and talk about topics that interest them." ”
In this world, you can escape from the world for a short time and enjoy a moment of loneliness in the world, but you still need to return to the crowd, and you still need to deal with various relationships.
If you want to have a good relationship with your surroundings, talk less about yourself, spend more time understanding others, see more of others' strengths, and pay more attention to others' problems, then you can also get good relationships.
The quality of the relationship between us actually lies in whether we can get out of our own world, walk into the world of others from the heart, feel the joys, sorrows and sorrows of others, and feel the feelings of others.
It can also make others trust you more and identify with you, everyone in the world is unique and has their own characteristics, we should stand in the perspective of an appreciator to appreciate everyone, then you can also find beauty.
If you feel that the relationship around you is very bad at this time, you might as well reflect on yourself, whether you always like to criticize, blame, and complain about others, and never appreciate or see others.
At this time, you might as well manage your life in a different way, appreciate others more, see the halo on their heads, just like the enthusiasm of a couple in love, and your life happiness index will also increase a lot!
Written by Maple Leaf.