After the age of 70, the elderly face many troubles and anxieties. They begin to worry about their health, the death of their family members, and the behavior of their children. In this interview, I spoke with three people over 70 years old and learned what they were most afraid of. Ms. A, 71 years old, fears the loss of her loved ones the most;Mr. B, 75 years old, is most afraid of being separated from his wife;Ms. C, 80 years old, is most worried about her children's unfilial behavior. Their worries revolve aroundAffectionand loneliness unfolded. As they get older, their dependence on their loved ones becomes more profound, and they want to be able to spend their old age with their loved ones. However, as time goes by, the elderly gradually face the harsh reality of losing their loved ones. This fear makes them take it even more seriouslyAffectionCherish the time you spend with your loved ones.
Ms. A, 71 years old, experienced the death of her father and now her mother is also getting older. Her mother's body became weaker and weaker, and every day was a kind of parting for her. Even though her mother was still alive, she began to feel the shadow of her mother's departure. For her, her parents are the closest people in her life, and the loss of her mother will touch the end of her life. She sees her mother as a guide and support for her life, and losing her will mean that she will be disorientedlifeBecoming helpless. In her heart, she hopes to cherish the time she spends with her mother as much as possible, because there is not much left of the mother-daughter relationship. This deep dependence and fear made her cherish every day with her mother even more.
Mr. B, 75 years old, for him, the most feared thing is to experience life and death with his wife. He and his wife have been going through decadesMarriage, who have gone through all kinds of ups and downs, whether it is laughter or quarrels, have become themlife. When he looked back, it was as if he had just been young yesterday. However, as time goes by, they gradually grow older, and they both feel extremely sad and bitter in the face of the prospect of losing their spouses. They rarely talk about life and death, but his wife's health has deteriorated rapidly in recent years, which makes him worry about whether his wife will say goodbye to him forever in the near future. If that day does come, he will have to face it alonelifeThe dilemma. His company has decreased, he can't communicate with his wife as much as he used to, and he goes out less often. He would feel empty and lonely at home, and without his wife, he would have to barely cope with it for the rest of his life.
Ms. C, 80 years old, has no wife and can only rely on her children for the rest of her life. She feared that she would become a burden to her children and that they would be unfilial to her. Because her body is weak and she is old, she can't do without the care of her children. She was afraid that her children would find her troublesome and even disliked her. She fears that her children will behave unfilhatically, which not only means that her own upbringing has failed, but also shows that her children are unfilial. For her, the companionship and care promised by her children was the greatest happiness in her old age. However, if her children are indifferent and unfilial to her, it will be the last thing she wants to see in her lifetime.
The experiences and worries of the above three elderly people show us the deep fear and confusion of the elderly. When they face the reality of life and death and loneliness, they feel the harmony of family and lonelinessAffectionof preciousness. As young people, we need to understand the mood and needs of the elderly, and give them more companionship and care. At the same time, the elderly should also have an appropriate fear, which can make them mentally prepared in advance and cherish the time they spend with their loved ones more.
When people reach old age, they are faced with physical weakness and the approach of life, which also brings a lot of anxiety and worry to the elderly. Through talking to three elderly people over 70 years old, we learned that their biggest fear is the loss of loved ones, separation from their spouses, and unfilial children. These fears all revolveAffectionand loneliness unfolds, bringing great pain and anxiety to the elderly. However, this fear also makes them cherish the time they spend with their loved ones more and prepare themselves in advance. As young people, we should understand and respect the feelings of the elderly, and give them more care and companionship to let them grow in their old agelifeLive happier and more at ease.