Do you know what kind of woman is the most popular in the circle of friends?Neither good-looking, nor the most active in participating in activities, but with high emotional intelligence. No matter how much such a woman goes, she is impressive.
But from which aspects can we see how high a woman's emotional intelligence is?You have to look closely, and when you find out the traits of high emotional intelligence from her, you can learn from her. Let me talk about four signs.
1. Never talk about other people's privacy
Generally, women with high emotional intelligence know how to respect the privacy of others, and they understand that there are certain boundaries between people. For example, when chatting with people, they do not talk about other people's private affairs behind their backs, nor do they take other people's secrets as a topic, but are full of respect and understanding for others in their words and deeds, which makes them win more trust and respect.
Because she knows that not talking about other people's privacy is on the one hand out of respect for others, and on the other hand, it is a constraint on herself. After all, in interpersonal interactions, everyone is reluctant to mention their privacy, which is also a bottom line. Women with high emotional intelligence never cross the line, and once the other party talks about someone else's privacy, she either changes the subject or turns away.
Second, I don't like to turn over old accounts
Both men and women have the problem of turning over old accounts, especially when couples quarrel, they like to turn it out, although they are addicted, but it hurts each other's feelings. But women with high emotional intelligence will not dwell on everything in the past, they understand that time cannot be turned back, the past has passed, and everything looks forward.
Not liking to turn over old accounts is a sign of maturity and a kind of control over one's own emotions. If you repeatedly mention it, you will only get yourself and the other party into negative emotions, not only will it not help, but also deepen the contradictions between each other, women with high emotional intelligence will not be stupid to the point of turning over old accounts, they know that letting go of each other is also letting go of themselves.
3. Praise others generously
Some people say that women are generally more stingy and especially like to be jealous of other people's goodness. I don't agree with this, generally women with high emotional intelligence know how to appreciate others, and are good at discovering the strengths and strengths of others, and will generously praise and affirm. When they praise you, you can feel it not perfunctory, but praise from the heart.
Complimenting others generously is a positive attitude they show and a recognition of others. In fact, in interpersonal communication, everyone wants to be affirmed by others, and this is true of human nature. Women with high emotional intelligence know this very well, and they never skimp on their praise when others are doing well.
4. Be good at controlling your emotions
You also know that whether a person is mature and emotionally intelligent or not depends on whether he is good at controlling his emotions, especially for women who are prone to emotional fluctuations.
Because a woman who is good at controlling her emotions will not do things she regrets because of a momentary impulse, and always maintain a calm and rational attitude, so that she can always maintain a stable state.
Controlling emotions is a difficult thing to do, and it is more difficult for the average person to do it. However, emotional control is not only related to one's mental health, but also affects the success or failure of one's interpersonal relationships. And women with high emotional intelligence know this very well, and they constantly cultivate themselves to become masters of emotions, not slaves of emotions.
You see, from the above four signs, it can be seen that a woman's emotional intelligence is not high, once you see that there are women around you who do not talk about other people's privacy, do not like to turn over old accounts, praise others generously, and are good at controlling their emotions, they all have extremely high emotional intelligence.
Knowing these points, you can also continue to cultivate yourself in life and become a woman with high emotional intelligence.