Schiller once said:
True love is single-minded, and the realm of love is very narrow, so narrow that it can only accommodate two people;If you fall in love with several people at the same time, it can't be called ** love, it's just an emotional game.The man and his lover are inseparable, the sea is dry, is it true love?
In fact, no one can escape human nature.
The love of three or more people is just a self-deceptive pleasure, and no matter how much a man and a lover put a lot of light on their "love", it cannot hide its selfishness and immorality.
Middle-aged men looking for lovers, needless to say, are more high-sounding, they are generally these three mentalities.
Xu Huanshan in "Thirty Only", it seems that he did not hesitate to be an enemy of his wife for Lin Youyou, accusing her of investing in a tea factory to occupy funds, and denouncing her for finding a child-rearing sister-in-law who was too expensive ......And when he turned around, he threw hundreds of thousands of dollars and paid a year's "love nest" rent for his lover.
Is he really in love with Lin?
By his lover's side, Xu Huanshan can do all the things that his wife does not allow him to do, such as eating greasy dinner, playing football, eating ice cream on the street, ......
He can forget about moderate fatty liver disease, the pressure of the company, his own responsibilities for a while, and indulge in the satisfaction that his lover brings him.
Xu Huanshan's love is not Lin Youyou, but the freshness and excitement she provides, and the joy of "making mistakes" behind his wife's back.
Therefore, when Gu Jia knew about their relationship, Xu Huanshan immediately cried and begged his wife to ...... at a loss
Because, he knows, for him, his wife is much more important than his lover.
It's like a person who is tired of eating white rice and suddenly becomes obsessed with popcorn, and the more he eats it, the more addicted he becomes.
When he found out that he could only eat popcorn and never have white rice again, he realized what an important treasure he had lost.
Xu Huanshan could immediately cut off the relationship with his lover, but he didn't want to and couldn't leave Gu Jia.
Therefore, adults should not put themselves and their marriage in a dilemma because of their desire for new excitement.
My old classmate Fangfang has been in a lot of trouble at home recently.
Earlier, she met a classmate who had pursued her fiercely at the alumni association, and after a careful conversation, she learned that the boy is now a senior IT technician in a large factory, with an annual salary of hundreds of thousands.
Just when Fangfang secretly regretted it, the boy took the initiative to show her favor and make her happy. It didn't take long for the two of them to secretly cross Chen Cang.
But how can there be an impermeable wall in the world, when Fangfang and her husband were exhausted in order to compete for their son, the boy said that the company sent him to be stationed abroad for three years ......
When people reach middle age, the more capable and powerful men are, the more they will miss the dreams that they failed to achieve in the dead of night.
When they say lightly, "Nothing that can be solved by money is not a problem", those who want to love but not love, want to sleep but do not sleep are even more precious.
So, the man pursues the old man violently, regardless of the obstacles of reality. This may not be love, what he can't forget and give up may be just the regrets and last resorts of the past.
This kind of man doesn't miss the old love, he just uses this irresponsible behavior to realize his dreams.
When people reach middle age, they want to make up for their regrets but can't hurt their innocent lovers because of this, and they can't let their marriage be dusty because they lose one or the other.
Kim Hee-young, known as "South Korea's strongest junior", how tough is it?He has been in love with the chaebol Choi Tae-won for 11 years, and finally pocketed him at the age of 48.
Choi Tae-won is not a good man and a woman, let alone the male protagonist of a brain-dead drama, but he fought a divorce case with South Korea's former ** daughter Lu Suying for Kim Hee-young, which was praised as "the most expensive divorce case in Korean history", and finally broke free from his original partner and ran to love.
It's always true love, right?
The vast majority of lovers can't be to the extent of Kim Hee-young, and for Choi Tae-won, she has multiple identities:
First of all, she has participated in beauty pageants and won rankings, which meets men's requirements for "beauty";
Secondly, as a psychological counselor, the empathy, understanding, and acceptance she provided gave Choi Tae-won spiritual comfort
Again, she never asks for gifts or money, only talks about psychology and philosophy, which effectively soothes Choi Tae-won's tired heart in the battle of wealthy families;
In the end, her traits such as "plain as water" and "no interest in money at all" have become Choi Tae-won's most trusted allies and the most reassuring haven ......
So, Kim Hee-young has made himself Choi Tae-won's spiritual companion, or the light in his life.
Choi Tae-won can't do without her, and the deeper reason is because he needs her.
In the first half of my life, He Han said:
Most men want their wives to be their wives and their lovers to be lovers, like two planets that will never intersect and will not intersect.Therefore, most men are looking for a lover because they want to sit and enjoy the blessings of others.
Psychologist Hazan, after research, has also made relevant remarks:
Love is stimulated by a chemical cocktail in the brain, and when a third person appears, this substance will rekindle, butPure love with a third party will likewise not exceed 30 months.Therefore,When people reach middle age, no matter what the reason is, a man wants to find a lover, and he still focuses on himself and meets his own needs. No matter how he argues with his lover and is unwilling to face it, this shady "true love" cannot escape the curse of love, and it is destined not to last long.
Marital affection between the sexes
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