There are often two emotional moments in life: one is birth, and the other is buried in the soil. It's just that the former is crying with joy and excited;The latter is sad and weeping, indescribable. But there is no doubt that they are moments of deep emotion.
Although there are many scenes to be performed in this life, only these two scenes have the highest real probability. Birth and death symbolize a reincarnation ear. I believe that there are many friends who have experienced a large number of relatives passing away in recent years.
Some even experienced the indescribable pathos of a white-haired person sending a black-haired person. In fact, this cannot be blamed on any factor, but only on the fact that all people are equal at the end of their lives, no matter how rich or extremely poor they were.
There are many things we need to know when a loved one passes away in our family. For example, close the account in time and receive the money that should be received;Find out all the relics of your life and burn them with your clothesOn the night of the first seven days be ready for the last dinner, etc.
In addition, the grievances and grievances with others, the entanglement of right and wrong, money and other things before the deceased cannot be left behind. Once you stay, you will harm your descendants. In the case of grievances, the grievances and grievances of the previous generation generally end with the result of their death.
If this grievance entanglement is left to future generations, then the entanglement of right and wrong between these two generations or between two branches of bloodline will continue. In this way, it is very unfair and harmful to either party.
The reason why you can't keep your clothes is actually three main reasons. The first is to stop the spread of infectious diseases;The second is to show the greatest respect for the deceased, so that he can be decent after leaving;Third, under the separation of yin and yang, it does not disturb the lives of the living.
Although these three reasons are more or less mixed with a certain feudal superstition, this is the folk culture formed by the folk in China for a long time. If you don't respect and embody certain customs, you will definitely be instructed by others.
Since ancient times, the social atmosphere of our country has been like to watch the excitement, so in this situation, if the customs and etiquette of any family are not in place, then the family will undoubtedly be affected by the surrounding rumors and gossip, and then life will not be peaceful.
From this point of view, this kind of ritual culture has a great conservative and feudal character. If we want to break the problem, we must keep the pace of development of modern society moving forward, and then promote and propagate relevant educational concepts. However, there are certain limits to be adhered to.
After all, there is not only dross in traditional customs and culture, and there is also a very good reason why these people do not leave their clothes after death. That is to stop the spread of infectious diseases. In fact, this concept already represents a very big improvement.
Grievances and grievances are not conducive to people's harmonious life. If it is passed on to the next generation, then there will be conflicts between each other's next generation for no reason. Over time, everyone's eyes were blinded by hatred and resentment.
Wouldn't this make the lives of the living more unstable and unpeaceful?This is also contrary to the essence of vulgar culture. Because the core of funeral culture is to let people not interfere with each other and not disturb each other in the cycle of life and death.
If they disturb each other, it means that the stable state of the yin and yang order is shattered, and then they fall into a chaotic situation. Friends who are familiar with the harmony of yin and yang and the theory of the five elements must know that China's traditional culture pays great attention to the state of balance.
The reflection and non-disturbance of the underworld and the yang are the best examples. Therefore, after death, their grievances will disappear automatically. Otherwise, it is a wanton interference in the life of the yang world. Even if the people in the yang world don't say anything, Hades will interject.
Moreover, future generations will have their own lives, and if they are all intervened by such "selfish" old people, then the development of society will fall into a state of great stagnation, which is actually contrary to the law of historical development.
In fact, what many friends don't know is that after a person's death, his creditor's rights and debts will come to an end. Although this is a legal obligation, it also reflects the reality that all attachments and signs will disappear after death.
Therefore, creditor's rights and debts are actually just a proof of the existing social relations between people. When the subject of rights is extinguished, the bearer of his obligation naturally loses the object of the act.
In addition, the exchange of love cannot be left behind. Because the separation of correspondence also has a specific subject object, everything will be empty after death. If the affection of the previous generation is transferred to the future generations, it will add many obligations out of thin air.
These obligations may be beyond the reach of future generations. What's more, it may be quietly used by people with intentions. Take "Jiupin Sesame Official" starring Stephen Chow as an example: at the beginning of the film, it directly cuts from the ruffian and handsome image of Fang Tangjing.
Then he said that there was a relationship between Lin Yuanwai and Huang Laoqiu from the previous generation. Then the contradiction came: the forester fell in love with Huang Laoqiu's wife and wanted to do something wrong. was then discovered by Huang Laoqiu, and the two sides went to the court.
To sum up, it is best not to leave these four types of relics after the death of a loved one, because leaving them will become an inexplicable burden. It will also bring unnecessary troubles and entanglements to future generations. Therefore, it is very good not to stay.