Most people spend the first half of their lives groping in the fog, and in their twenties, they like to learn from the trajectories of others' lives and try to find their own directionIn their thirties, they become concerned about the eyes and evaluations of others, and the steering wheel of life is often disturbed by the outside worldHowever, at the age of forty, they begin to understand what they want in their hearts and what they really want to live in life. Just like a tree, it constantly adjusts its branches and leaves in the process of growth, and finally finds the most suitable posture for itself.
One day not long ago, I accompanied my little sister on a stroll through the bustling streets. Her eyes sparkled with longing, and she gently confided what she was thinking—she longed to own a Chanel bag, worth twenty thousand. I was stunned by her thoughts, she was only 23 years old, she had just stepped into society, her monthly salary was 8,000, and all her savings added up to just over 20,000. The ** of this bag is almost equivalent to her entire savings, which is really staggering. I was surprised and asked, "Are you crazy, or have you won the lottery?"Under my question, she smiled helplessly and said softly: "Sister, look at the colleagues in the company, they are carrying tens of thousands of brand-name bags and wearing luxury goods. As for me, the bags I carry every day are dozens or hundreds of miscellaneous bags, and the total number of clothes I wear is only 400. I felt like a dirt bun and out of place. "When I heard this, I had mixed feelings. My sister, in order not to make others feel shabby, actually planned to spend everything she had to buy a designer bag. The thought both amused me and poignant. It's funny that she plans to spend a lot of money to put herself on the verge of an "economic crisis" simply for the sake of face;And the sad thing is that I have also had such a stage, and I deeply understand the shame and insecurity I feel because of poverty. I believe that many children from poor families have felt the same way. 
Dong Yuhui once shared his observation that the children around him who grew up in the countryside, no matter how much they later achieved, always had a slight shadow of inferiority complex in their hearts. This shadow stems from their childhood, where the lack of material life leads them to doubt their self-worth. They always feel that they are lacking in others and cannot truly affirm themselves. "Many times, low self-esteem is actually a kind of inner helplessness and powerlessness, which stems from our inability to get the support and affirmation we need from the outside world. "Dong Yuhui explained. After entering society, this inferiority complex is especially evident when facing colleagues and friends from well-to-do families. They can easily buy expensive clothes, change their mobile phones, and even buy their favorite car in full, while you need to pay in installments, and you are even reluctant to spend five or six hundred yuan on a bag. This gap between people makes you feel insurmountable. As a result, some people began to try to make up for this inner injustice with high consumption, thinking that material satisfaction could fill the spiritual void. However, this gap can never be completely eliminated, because inner self-consistency cannot be filled by material things. No amount of luxury can make up for the spiritual gap. 
On the distant European continent, there is a blogger who shares her unique insight into life in Germany. For those who have never set foot in Germany, they may still have the impression of luxury brands such as "BMW", "Mercedes-Benz" and "Porsche", as if Germany is a paradise full of luxury goods. However, this blogger has revealed a different side of Germany for us. The streets of Germany are like mountains with low houses, like a fairytale world. Germans are also not as glamorous as one might think. Their daily attire is often a pair of jeans and a simple jacket, while those who are full of famous brands and carry eye-catching bags with large logos are rare on the streets. The blogger, who has spent more than a decade in Germany, shares her shift in material pursuits. When she first arrived in Germany, in order to integrate into this unfamiliar society, she bought a designer bag worth more than 1,000 euros, which was her only luxury. However, when she joined the company, she found that the bag carried by the department manager was only one or two hundred euros, and others preferred to choose a cheap canvas bag. People here don't look for expensive brands or luxury goods that the people around them have. In German culture, there is no tendency to compare material things. People don't look up or down at you because of what you're wearing, and they respect people who live freely and happily. After work, meet up with friends for a drink at the small barOn weekends, barbecue with the family;Or ride a bicycle with your child, play ball, ......These ordinary and warm moments are the true meaning of life that Germans are pursuing. Here, material things are not the only measure of happiness, but inner satisfaction and family warmth are the most cherished treasures. 
I think that many times we are dissatisfied with our lives and always unconsciously compare ourselves to others, in fact, because we want too much and ignore the true meaning of true happiness. You may not be able to own an expensive designer bag right now, but you can enjoy skewers on the street with your close friends and talk about lifeMaybe you don't have a stable, high-paying job right now, but you can always go home to your dear parentsMaybe you haven't met the right person yet, but you can walk on the road with headphones alone, listen to songs, and enjoy the beautiful sunset. Happiness does not always need to be measured in terms of material things, but in inner satisfaction and peace. So, cherish what you have, embrace those simple goodness, and let happiness bloom in your life. 