My daughter recently got married, and in order to give her more confidence in her newlywed life, I generously gave a dowry of 200,000. After my daughter's wedding, my daughter-in-law blamed me because she felt that she didn't get enough attention at the wedding, "Mom, why didn't I get married with a dime as a bride price, but you gave my little sister 200,000 as a dowry?"After my explanation, her dissatisfaction seemed to ease a little.
I am 55 years old and born in a poor rural family. Since childhood, I have known that reading is the only way to get out of poverty.
Therefore, I worked hard to learn Xi, hoping that through my own efforts, I would be able to leave the countryside and go out into the wider world. However, as fate would have it, a serious illness before the college entrance examination destroyed all my dreams.
After failing the college entrance examination, I lay at home for a whole month, basically lying in bed every day except for eating, immersed in loss and helplessness.
My parents called my name from time to time in order for me to be able to cheer up, worried that I would have some bad thoughts.
However, after lying down for a month, I suddenly had an epiphany and realized that life is long and not worth despairing for a momentary setback. So, I started thinking about how to make a living.
During this time, I have tried a variety of jobs:
I used to work as an assembly line worker in a factory, and I worked hard every day, sweating profusely.
I worked as a vegetable vendor, bargained with farmers, and learned the skills to survive.
I've sold fruit, pulled carts through the streets, shouted to attract customers.
I sold fish at the vegetable market, and I honed my heart in bargaining with my aunts.
Later, I tried my hand at running a stall selling clothes and shoes. Although I didn't make much money, in the process, I met someone who had been with me all my life.
This person is my wife, and he is my customer. One day, he went out of his way to buy shoes for his mother and ended up choosing a pair from my store. Although he felt that ** was too high to afford it, in the end, for the sake of his filial piety, I sold it to him at a price lower than cost.
Later, he felt that the shoes in my store *** bought a few pairs of shoes for relatives one after another. And just like that, the two of us came together by chance.
He admired my kindness and duty, and was aware of my business acumen. So, the two of us got married in poverty.
After we got married, my wife and I experienced the rural life together, we tried to grow rice, coconut white, and lotus roots, and with diligence and hard work, our income gradually increased, and we successfully renovated our house.
During this time, we welcomed the birth of a son and a daughter. Since I often went into the water to work, my body gradually became ill.
So, we started to learn how to grow vegetables in greenhouses and sell them.
In the beginning, we went out early and returned late every day, and set up the vegetables in the vegetable market by ourselves. Over time, we have gradually built up a network of people and sent our products directly to the surrounding supermarkets.
Despite the reduced income, we have gained more time and are able to spend more time with our children growing up.
It has always been a regret in my heart that I did not get into university, so I really hope that my children will study hard and Xi and strive to get into a good university.
Fortunately, my son has worked very hard and sensible since he was a child, and his grades have always been good, and he was finally admitted to a second university. Although it was not 985 or 211, at that time, it was a great pride for us as parents that our son was able to enter a secondary university.
Although my daughter was only admitted to a junior college, I think it is also good, and I have always encouraged her to continue to work hard, work hard, achieve better grades in college, and find her dream job in the future.
Subsequently, both children graduated successfully and found good jobs.
The son works as a designer in the provincial capital, earning about 9,000 a month.
However, my son's relationship problems became a new point of anxiety for me. Since graduating from university, I have introduced him to a number of girls, all of whom are well-educated college graduates.
I think most educated girls are more qualified, and have the same education as their sons, so they should have common topics with each other.
However, my son was not interested in the girls I introduced, and insisted on finding a girl he liked, so that I would not have to worry about it anymore.
Out of fear of annoying my son, I didn't dare to push too hard.
However, a few years later, his son is 30 years old, and the so-called girlfriend he has always mentioned still does not appear. Boys his age have long since entered the family, and even his sister, who is five years younger than him, already has a boyfriend.
This made me even more anxious, my son's lifelong affairs were unresolved, and my heart could not be at peace for a day.
It wasn't until February of this year that my son suddenly surprised our family and said that he would bring his girlfriend home for the weekend in a few days.
This news made me ecstatic, and I hurriedly asked about the girl's situation in **. However, the son simply said that she was beautiful, but he was silent about other issues.
After all kinds of hope, I finally looked forward to the day when my son came home with his girlfriend.
The girl was indeed beautiful as her son said.
It's just that I look left and right, and I always feel that the girl looks more mature, I restrained the doubts in my heart, and happily welcomed the girl into the house.
During the meal, the girl's words and deeds made me very dissatisfied, and she was very picky and rude to the dishes I cooked.
After eating, I called my son to my bedroom and asked me about the girl, and what my son said made me angry.
I learned from my son that this girl was introduced to him by a colleague of his, and she is currently working as a customer service worker in a small company.
It's just that what I can't accept is that the girl is three years older than her son, even if she only graduated from secondary school, and she is divorced, and she has a 5-year-old son who stays at her ex-husband's house.
I scolded my son, is there no woman in the world?I found a woman who was divorced and had a son.
Although the girl is indeed beautiful, can she eat beautiful food?
The son said, "It doesn't matter if she's single or divorced, I recognize her anyway, and if you can't accept her, I won't marry her for life." ”
I said that my son was a curse, and there were so many good girls in the world, and he preferred to hang on a tree.
Later, the girl also made a request to add her name to the full amount of the marriage house we bought for our son, and I looked at my son, and he kept silent, and it seemed that he acquiesced.
I don't think the girl is a person who can live, and as soon as the lion came to the lion, I didn't agree to the marriage of the two of them.
My son left the next day with a grudge against me.
After a month, my son called me and told me that the girl was pregnant with his child and asked me what to do
I said angrily, "You can solve your own troubles."
My wife said, "Since the wood is already in the boat, let the two children get married, and we have to hope that they are good when they get married, and if you want to add your name." ”
No matter how helpless we are, but the children have come out, I can only compromise.
In the end, our family negotiated together, the house could add the girl's name, three gold and one diamond, plus a 120,000 car, but the bride price was gone.
The girl originally wanted to say something, but her mother stopped her, "The bride price is just a formality, if you don't have it, you won't have it, it's all for the good of the children anyway."
A month later, we had a lively wedding for our two children.
After they got married, the two of them went out to work and didn't live together, so we were at ease.
Just a few days ago, my daughter got married, and my daughter-in-law saw that I gave my daughter 200,000 yuan to dowry, she began to blush, thinking that I was partial, why did she not have a penny bride price for marriage, and my daughter gave 200,000 yuan for marriage to marry, I was really angry, and I had a fight with her.
Here's what I had to say:
1.I am in charge of the money I earn, I can give it to whomever I want, my son can't control it, and you are even less qualified to manage it, let alone point fingers at me.
2.My daughter-in-law has no obligation to support my in-laws, so I will only look for my son in the future, but the property we have worked hard for in this life is enough to provide for the elderly, and we will try not to make trouble for you.
3.At the beginning, your name was added to our family's 1.5 million full wedding house, which gave you enough security, right?
Also, the sense of security is not given to you by your in-laws, and all your confidence in your in-laws' family comes from your own efforts and your mother's marriage.
I am willing to give my daughter 200,000 dowry, and if you want, you can also ask your mother, so this is not a reason for you to play tricks.
4.Whoever is good to me will be good to whom, you didn't pay, **have the confidence to let me give you back?
Don't think that having a child has become a great hero of our family, the child is born by yourself, and you are responsible for it, after all, I have never given birth, so don't say that grandparents want to take grandchildren to raise grandchildren.
I will say one last thing, whoever gives birth will raise it, and whoever gives birth will take it, after all, in this society, sons are unreliable, can you still count on grandchildren?
5.You have to dream of getting rich to find your husband, who is my son, and reflect on whether you have the strength, don't stare at the little property of your in-laws all day long, which will only make you look very unqualified.
After I finished speaking, my daughter-in-law immediately coaxed, and said, "You, you, me. . . "I didn't say it for a long time.
Some people will say that my words are too cruel, after all, I still have to rely on my son and daughter-in-law to support my old age in the future.
But I want to say that having money in my pocket is my confidence, if my son and daughter-in-law are filial to me, the money will be left to them in the future, if I am not kind, peep at my property all day long, without a little gratitude, this money is better to keep it for myself to spend, if it can't be spent and wait for a hundred years to do good deeds, isn't it?100 help plan