My name is Li Mei and I am an ordinary rural girl. My hometown is a small mountain village in Henan Province, where transportation is not convenient and economic conditions are poor. My father is an ordinary farmer in the village, and my mother works as a cleaner in the village primary school. I also have an older brother who is two years older than me, who now works as a plumber and electricity repairman in the county.
Our family of four lives in a dilapidated mud house, and the family is struggling to make ends meet. When I was a child, my father would often get drunk and beat and scold my brother and me. In order to save money for us to go to school, my mother often fasted and endured hunger. I remember one year during the Spring Festival, my family was so poor that we couldn't even afford a ham sausage, so my brother and I could only eat scallion cakes to survive.
At that time, I was desperate, feeling that I was destined to inherit the fate of my parents and live the life of an ordinary farmer. But my mother told me: "Daughter, reading changes your fate, you must study hard and Xi, and you will have to live a different life in the future." So I made up my mind to study steadily and change my life.
I got into the best middle school in the county and got top grades. For this, Dad happily drank wine for three days. In the year of the college entrance examination, I finally got my wish and was admitted to the Chinese department of a 211 university. I still remember that on the day I received the admission letter, my mother cried with joy, and my father smiled and said, "Daughter, you are the pride of our family, and you have changed the fate of our family." ”
One day, he asked me to go to the campus café and mysteriously said to me, "Li Mei, I've actually had a crush on you for a long time. Can you consider staying with me?I was a little embarrassed to hear this, but I agreed to him. So, we became boyfriend and girlfriend.
In my junior year, Wang Chen once asked me out for dinner, and said to me with a very serious expression: "Li Mei, we have been together for two years, and I think it's time to get engaged." I want to formally propose to you, would you like to marry me?”
I asked him, "Then how are you going to handle the bride price?"My family is not in very good condition, and I don't want to add to your burden. ”
Wang Chen thought for a while and said, "I think the bride price, 280,000 yuan should be appropriate." This is a medium amount in my family, and my parents can accept it. The bride price of your family, 8888 yuan, it doesn't take too much, the important thing is the relationship between the two of us. ”
I hesitated: "This amount is really a lot, and I need to consider it if I want my family to take it out." Wang Chen saw that I was a little embarrassed, so he said: "Li Mei, I understand that the conditions in your family are not very good, so I also thought about the bride price and the amount of the bride price for a long time before proposing it. In fact, the most important thing for us to get married is that the two love each other, and everything else is secondary. You should do me a favor and explain the situation to your parents so that they can prepare. ”
I nodded, "Okay, I understand your struggle. I went back and talked to my parents. ”
When I got home, I told my mother about Wang Chen's marriage proposal and bride price request. Unexpectedly, after she heard this, her face immediately became ugly: "Daughter, our family really can't get the 280,000 bride price." You know, your father only earns tens of thousands of yuan a year, and we have to save money for your brother's marriage. The bride price of 8888 yuan is not a small number for us. You can refuse on behalf of our family, anyway, I don't agree!”
I looked at my mother's anxious appearance and was also very embarrassed: "Mom, I understand the situation of our family, but Wang Chen's family is richer, which is not a lot of money for them, and I can't refuse it directly." ”
My mother said, "Their family is more than rich, but our family is more than tense, this is the situation of the two families. Marriage is not just your own business, it involves both families. Daughter, you must think about the family, if he values you, the amount of money should not be a problem, it doesn't matter if you are wronged, your father and I will support you. ”
I heard what my mother meant, and I knew that this family business was still difficult to achieve. But it was difficult for me to open my mouth to Wang Chen, so I had to say: "Mom, I'll think of a way again, there will be results." ”
Wang Chen seemed a little disappointed: "Huh?."Need to think about it that long?I don't want to rush you, but you can't delay getting married for too long. ”
I explained: "The main reason is that the amount of the bride price is a bit large, and my family really can't take that much at the moment, so I need to think about countermeasures." ”
What?Just because of this?Wang Chen raised his voice, "I've been thinking about it for a long time, and I think this amount is very suitable, can't you try it with your mouth?"”
I was also a little annoyed: "How do you make me speak?".My family really can't come up with that much cash!That's a lot of money for us. ”
Okay, it seems that money is more important to you than me!Wang Chen's tone sounded hurtful.
What do you mean by that?I never said that!"I raised my voice too.
In this way, the more we talked, the more excited we became, and finally hung up with a bang. It was the most intense argument we had in two years of our relationship. I threw my phone aside with red circles and lay on the bed in pain.
Wang Chen and I were very stubborn, and we didn't contact each other for a month. I missed him very much, but I didn't want to bow my head and take the initiative to find him, so it went on like this. During this time, I suffered from insomnia and food, and my grades plummeted. My mother saw that I was emaciated and haggard, and repeatedly told me not to embarrass myself anymore.
Later, Wang Chen suddenly sent me a message: "Li Mei, let's end this relationship, anyway, your parents won't agree, and we have no result together." "When I saw the message, tears welled up in my eyes. We love each other so much, but we want to break up, I can't accept this reality.
I wrote back to Wang Chen: "Wang Chen, please give me some more time to think about it, and I will try to discuss it with my parents." ”
In the hospital, I learned that my mother had a heart attack, which may have been caused by long-term overwork. Now a major surgery is required, and the cost is up to hundreds of thousands. I think of my mother's long and hard work to provide for my schooling, and my heart is full of self-blame. Dad has already borrowed money from various places, and I have also done odd jobs in and out of school, but it is far from enough.
At this time, I suddenly realized that family affection is always higher than love. At the beginning, I shouldn't have quarreled with my mother for Wang Chen, and I shouldn't have given up my studies halfway through love for love. Now I know how to cherish the people in front of me and repay the kindness of my parents. Money is nothing more than a cloud to me, and my mother's health is more important than anything else.