"I want to be with everyone, but I also want to be alone".
Shen Tingyou [Han].
You may be quiet, sensitive, and cautious in your words, but remember that your calmness, deep thinking, and delicate emotions are your unique treasures. Be yourself and enjoy the beauty of being introverted. ”
The appeal of this book to me is beyond words, and it has completely liberated me as an introvert and an extrovert. I used to think that introversion was a disadvantage and envied those who were sociable, but couldn't emulate. However, this book made me realize that introversion is not a flaw, it is just a character trait, and that this personality has its own irreplaceable advantages.
Based on years of research and personal experience, the author conveys the following message to us:
You don't have to be annoyed by your introverted personality or have to force yourself to change in order to become a social master.
Instead of labeling an introvert as negative, accept it and change the way you behave and the tone of your life.
Life is short, and it's not enough to talk to like-minded people, let alone waste time with people who consume our energy.
Calmness is one of the great strengths of introverts, and calm people are better able to cope with life's challenges.
Introverts are better at listening, and they are willing to listen to other people's stories, so they are ideal conversation partners.
Introverts possess the ability to be thoughtful and focused, which is a precious gift given to them by fate.
Try to reduce the number of times you work for others and deliberately please others, pay more attention to your own needs, and let these things enrich our alone time so that we can live our own lives.
Introversion is not a disadvantage, as long as you are kind and sincere to others, you can win the respect and affection of others.
Finally, the author offers a number of practical tips for introverts to help us create a space of their own:
A space where you can be cared for, a haven for the soul.
When decorating, you can choose gray, navy blue, green and other colors that can soothe the mood; Candy and light coffee can be a relief from heavy work; The soft blue color can bring a sense of well-being. The interior is made of warm natural wood....
Live a simple life that brings peace of mind.
Adjust the indoor air temperature and humidity to a comfortable range. Don't let your phone dominate our lives.
After reading this book, I am no longer frustrated that I can't be a social master, and I no longer feel inferior to my introversion. I long to be with others and also enjoy being alone!