In the face of our husband's cheating, as a cultivator, how should we deal with it?First of all, we need to understand that spiritual practice is not about striving for perfection, but about learning to face the difficulties and challenges of life. I have some experience on this issue, and I hope it can be helpful to you.
When I found out that my husband was cheating, I was shocked and distressed, and my heart felt like it was being torn apart. However, as a practitioner, I know that I can't be swayed by emotions, and I need to calm down and face this rationally.
First, I chose communication. My husband and I sat down and talked calmly. I told him how I felt, and I told him how hurtful his actions were to me. I didn't choose to argue, I chose to express it calmly. Because I know that arguing doesn't solve the problem, it only complicates it.
Second, I chose to reflect. I reflect on our marriage, I reflect on our relationship. I realized that there were some issues in our marriage that we needed to address. I reflect on myself, whether I am doing well enough, whether I am understanding and supporting him enough. I realized that I also had my shortcomings, and I also had my responsibilities.
Then, I chose tolerance. I know that tolerance does not mean forgetting, nor does it mean letting go. To be tolerant means to accept, to accept his past, to accept his present, to accept his future. Tolerance means understanding, understanding his pain, understanding his confusion, understanding his struggles. Tolerance means love, love for his strengths, love for his shortcomings, love for all of him.
In the end, I chose to practice. I understand that practice is not about escaping, but about confronting. I face my pain, I face my confusion, I face my struggles. I practice my mind, I practice my emotions, I practice my actions. I understand that practice is not about changing others, but about changing yourself.
To sum up, as a practitioner, in the face of our husband's cheating, we need to be calm, communicate, reflect, tolerant, and practice. We need to face problems calmly, solve problems through communication, find out the root cause of problems in a reflective way, accept the existence of problems with tolerance, and improve our minds through practice. In this way, we can really face this problem and really solve this problem.
I know that the process has not been easy, I have been there, I have been in pain, I have struggled. But, I also know that the process is possible, I did it, I went through, I grow. I hope that my experience can be helpful to you, and I hope that you can find your own answer, find your own strength, and find your own hope in the face of this question.